An Open Letter to Paula Deen:

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Photo Courtesy of: Johnathan M. Lewis

Dear Paula Deen,

So it’s been a tough week for you… believe me you I know something about tough weeks being a beginning food writer and lowly culinary historian.  Of course honey, I’d kill for one of your worst days as I could rest myself on the lanai, the veranda, the portico (okay that was really tongue in cheek), the porch..whatever…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free.  First Food Network now Smithfield.  (Well not so mad about Smithfield—not the most ethical place to shill for, eh, Paula?)

I am currently engaged in a project I began in 2011 called The Cooking Gene Project—my goal to examine family and food history as the descendant of Africans, Europeans and Native Americans—enslaved people and enslavers—from Africa to America and from Slavery to Freedom.  You and I are both human, we are both Americans, we are both quite “healthily” built, and yet none of these labels is more profound for me than the fact we are both Southern.  Sweet tea runs in our blood, in fact is our blood…What I understand to be true, a lot of your critics don’t…which is, as Southerners our ancestors co-created the food and hospitality and manners which you were born to 66 years ago and I, thirty-six.  In the words of scholar Mechal Sobel, this was “a world they made together,” but beyond that, it is a world we make together.  So I speak to you as a fellow Southerner, a cousin if you will, not as a combatant.

To be part of the national surprise towards you saying the word “nigger” in the past (I am a cultural and culinary historian and so therefore I am using the word within context…) is at best naïve and at worst, an attempt to hide the pervasiveness of racism, specifically anti-Black racism in certain currents of American culture—not just Southern.  Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father.  That Cheerio’s had to shut down the comments section says that the idea of inter-human relationships outside of one’s color bracket is for many hiding behind a computer screen—a sign of the apocalypse.  So just like those old spaghetti sauce ads, yes, America, racism—“it’s in there” even when we were prefer it not be.

When you said, “of course,” I wasn’t flabbergasted, I was rather, relieved…In fact we Black Southerners have an underground saying, “better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…” but Paula I knew what you meant, and I knew where you were coming from.  I’m not defending that or saying its right—because it’s that word—and the same racist venom that drove my grandparents into the Great Migration almost 70 years ago. I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate.  Power in language is not a one way street.  Obviously I am not encouraging you to use the word further, but I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear.  No sound bite can begin to peel back the layers of this issue.

Some have said you are not a racist.  Sorry, I don’t believe that…I am more of the Avenue Q type—everybody’s—you guessed it—a little bit racist.  This is nothing to be proud of no more than we are proud of our other sins and foibles.  It’s something we should work against.  It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism or even get over strings of negative experiences we’ve had with groups outside of our own.  We have a really lousy language—and I don’t just mean because we took a Spanish and Portuguese word (negro) and turned into the most recognizable racial slur on earth…in any language…because we have a million and one ways to hate, disdain, prejudge, discriminate and yet we hide behind a few paltry words like racism, bigotry, prejudice when we damn well know that we have thousands of words for cars—because we LOVE cars….and food—because we LOVE food—and yet in this language you and I share, how we break down patterns of thought that lead to social discord like racism, are sorely lacking.  We are a cleaver people at hiding our obsessions with downgrading the other.

Problem two…I want you to understand that I am probably more angry about the cloud of smoke this fiasco has created for other issues surrounding race and Southern food.  To be real, you using the word “nigger” a few times in the past does nothing to destroy my world.  It may make me sigh for a few minutes in resentment and resignation, but I’m not shocked or wounded.  No victim here.  Systemic racism in the world of Southern food and public discourse not your past epithets are what really piss me off.  There is so much press and so much activity around Southern food and yet the diversity of people of color engaged in this art form and telling and teaching its history and giving it a future are often passed up or disregarded.  Gentrification in our cities, the lack of attention to Southern food deserts often inhabited by the non-elites that aren’t spoken about, the ignorance and ignoring of voices beyond a few token Black cooks/chefs or being called on to speak to our issues as an afterthought is what gets me mad. In the world of Southern food, we are lacking a diversity of voices and that does not just mean Black people—or Black perspectives!  We are surrounded by culinary injustice where some Southerners take credit for things that enslaved Africans and their descendants played key roles in innovating.  Barbecue, in my lifetime, may go the way of the Blues and the banjo….a relic of our culture that whisps away.  That tragedy rooted in the unwillingness to give African American barbecue masters and other cooks an equal chance at the platform is far more galling than you saying “nigger,” in childhood ignorance or emotional rage or social whimsy.

Culinary injustice is what you get where you go to plantation museums and enslaved Blacks are not even talked about, but called servants.  We are invisible.  Visitors come from all over to marvel at the architecture and wallpaper and windowpanes but forget the fact that many of those houses were built by enslaved African Americans or that the food that those plantations were renowned for came from Black men and Black women truly slaving away in the detached kitchens.  Imagine how I, a culinary historian and living history interpreter feel during some of these tours where my ancestors are literally annihilated and whisked away to the corners of those rooms, dying multiple deaths of anonymity and cultural amnesia.  I’m so tired of reading about how “okra” is an “African word.”(For land’s sake ya know “apple” isn’t a “European word…” its an English word that comes from German like okra comes from Igbo and Twi!) I am so tired of seeing people of African descent relegated to the tertiary status when even your pal Alton Brown has said, it was enslaved Black people cooking the food.  Culinary injustice is the annihilation of our food voices—past, present and foreseeable future—and nobody will talk about that like they are talking about you and the “n word.” For shame.

You see Paula, your grits may not be like mine, but one time I saw you make hoecakes on your show and I never heard tell of where them hoecakes really came from.  Now not to compare apples and oranges but when I was a boy it was a great pleasure to hear Nathalie Dupree talk about how beaten biscuits and country captain and gumbo started.    More often than not, she gave a nod to my ancestors.  Don’t forget that the Southern food you have been crowned the queen of was made into an art largely in the hands of enslaved cooks, some like the ones who prepared food on your ancestor’s Georgia plantation.  You, just like me cousin, stand squarely on what late playwright August Wilson called, “the self defining ground of the slave quarter.”  There and in the big house kitchen, Africa, Europe and Native America(s) melded and became a fluid genre of world cuisine known as Southern food.  Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa.

Don’t be fooled by the claims that Black people don’t watch you.  We’ve been watching you.  We all have opinions about you.  You were at one point sort of like our Bill Clinton. (You know the first Black president?)   When G. Garvin and the Neely’s and the elusive B Smith (who they LOVED to put on late on Saturday nights or early Sunday mornings!) were few and far between, you were our sorta soul mama, the white lady with the gadonkadonk and the sass and the signifying who gave us a taste of the Old Country-which is for us—the former Confederacy and just beyond.  Furthermore, as a male who practices an “alternative lifestyle” (and by the way I am using that phrase in bitter sarcastic irony), it goes without saying that many of my brothers have been you for Halloween, and you are right up there with Dolly Parton, Dixie Carter and Tallullah Bankhead of old as one of the muses of the Southern gay male imagination.  We don’t despise you, we don’t even think you made America fat.  We think you are a businesswoman who has made some mistakes, has character flaws like everybody else and in fact is now a scapegoat.  I find it hard to be significantly angry at you when during the last election the re-disenfranchisement of the Negro—like something from the time of W.E.B. Du Bois was a national cause celebre. Hell, today the voting rights act was gutted and I’m sure many think this is a serious win for “democracy.”  If  I want to be furious about something racial—well America—get real—we’ve had a good twelve years of really really rich material that the National media has set aside to talk about Paula Deen.  Yes Paula,  in light of all these things, you are the ultimate, consummate racist, and the one who made us fat, and the reason why American food sucks and ……you don’t believe that any more than I do. 

A fellow Georgian of yours once said that one day the “sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down at the table of brotherhood.”  Well no better time than now.  Paula, I don’t have to tell you redemption is yours to choose, to have and to embrace.  As a Jew, I extend the invitation to do teshuvah—which means to repent—but better—to return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace.  You used food to rescue your life, your family and your destiny.  I admire that.  I know that I have not always made good choices and to be honest none of us are perfect.  This is an opportunity to grow and renew.

If there is anything The Cooking Gene has taught me—its about the art of reconciliation.  We aren’t happy with you right now.  Then again some of the things you have said or have been accused of saying aren’t surprising.  In so many ways, that’s the more unfortunate aspect.  We are resigned to believe and understand that our neighbor is to be suspected before respected.  It doesn’t have to be this way, and it doesn’t have to go on forever.  As a species we cannot conduct ourselves in this manner.  As creations of the Living G-d, we are commanded to be better.  You and I are both the descendants of people who lived, fought, died, suffered so that we could be better in our own time.  I’m disappointed but I’m not heartless.  And better yet, praise G-d I ain’t hopeless.

If you aren’t busy on September 7, and I surely doubt that you are not busy—I would like to invite you to a gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation.  We are doing a fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, a North Carolina Historic Site.  One of the largest in fact, much larger than the one owned by your great-grandfather’s in Georgia.  30,000 acres once upon a time with 900 enslaved African Americans working the land over time. They grew tobacco, corn, wheat and cotton.  I want you to walk the grounds with me, go into the cabins, and most of all I want you to help me cook.  Everything is being prepared using locally sourced food, half of which we hope will come from North Carolina’s African American farmers who so desperately need our support.  Everything will be cooked according to 19th century methods.  So September 7, 2013, if you’re brave enough, let’s bake bread and break bread together at Historic Stagville. This isn’t publicity this is opportunity.  Leave the cameras at home.  Don’t worry, it’s cool, nobody will harm you if you’re willing to walk to the Mourner’s Bench.  Better yet, I’ll be there right with you.

G-d Bless,

Culinary Historian, Food Writer and Living History Interpreter

Michael W. Twitty

For a link to a video of the event Paula missed:  click here.

For a link to the MAD Symposium video where I talk about culinary justice and injustice: click here.

998 comments on “An Open Letter to Paula Deen

  1. grlsrule's avatar

    As a white southern gal I applaud you. This is well written and examines where the real energy should lie – examining the totality of the past that we all share in one way or another. Too often I have been at historic places in my life and wondered about ALL the people who lived there or worked there or died there. I have imagined the lives of babies growing up in very poor and oppressed condition; and I have imagined the lives of early civil rights leaders who only wanted justice for all. Recently, we visited Philadelphia and were very pleased to see that right in front of the liberty bell is an exhibit about the lives of the people (slaves) who built and lived in 1st house for our 1st President. We need more exhibits like that, more opportunities to consider the lives of all people who contributed to the fabric of this nation.

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  2. Milicent's avatar
    Milicent

    You have restored my faith in the human race!!!!! I hope Paula can soak this in and attend! I sure would. I am proud to meet a black man and is proud to be black, who is conscious of his color and appreciates that fact. I am proud to meet a white man who is proud to be white. Every man has some color and any color is all right. I am proud to meet all men who strictly understand that character makes a person, color does not make a man.

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  3. Kathie's avatar

    Hmmmm……… Lots written here the last few days , and a GREAT deal of learning here for all! Wonderful offering that started it all.

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  4. karen1015's avatar
    karen1015

    An amazing column. I could say more but I can’t find the words …

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  5. francoiseeats's avatar

    What a thought-provoking and intelligent article!

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  6. Roz Goudeau's avatar
    Roz Goudeau

    Thank you….as a white woman in her 60s who has been a social worker all her life and whose great-grandparents owned slaves, I know how impossibly complicated this issue is. I am a fervent Obama supporter and have been so angry and saddened by the re-emergence of so much racism…I guess I had hoped we had gotten past the worse of it, but clearly we have not. Thank you for reaching out to Paula Deen. It would be nice if what is happening with her comments could lead to good dialogue and more opportunities to bridge the gap, be together, get to know one another better as people and not stereotypes.

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  8. Ronnie Podolefsky's avatar
    Ronnie Podolefsky

    Mr. Twitty,
    If Paula Deen’s transgressions were limited to those addressed in your thoughtful essay, redemption might be within her reach. However, the lawsuit in this matter suggests otherwise.

    It doesn’t appear that you have read the lawsuit against Ms. Deen. If you had, you would know that it is based on allegations that the defendants subjected Lisa Jackson, a Caucasian female manager in their employ, to heinous sexual harassment, sex discrimination, assault and battery, and more throughout her employment; that the defendants racially harassed, discriminated against, and physically abused African American employees; that Ms. Jackson repeatedly reported these things to top management, including to Paula Deen and Ms. Deen’s corporate attorney, asking them to stop the conduct against herself and against African American employees; that the defendants instead continued their conduct; and that, after five years of this, it made Ms. Jackson so physically and emotionally ill that her doctors said the only cure was to remove herself from that workplace.

    Ms. Dean is skillfully using her powerful media savvy to broadcast the message she wants us to believe, thereby recharacterizing herself as the victim and trivializing Lisa Jackson’s claims. This state of affairs not only reinforces bigotry, but recasts courageous people like Ms. Jackson as the villains.

    In all fairness, Lisa Jackson’s civil rights lawsuit – her narrative – deserves equal attention.

    State and federal anti-discrimination statutes were intended to serve a public good, to rid our society of the scourge of discrimination and to encourage citizens themselves to step up and become private attorneys general, to bring wrongdoers before the law. Re-victimizing the victims in the court of public opinion discourages them from coming forward, thereby frustrating the noble purpose of these statutes.

    Ronnie Podolefsky, Esq.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Im focusing on the aspect she admitted to ..but I appreciate your comment. I would like her to contextualize the unethical and abusive practices in her business with a visit to a place where those horrors were manifest. I didn’t want to try her on my blog just address the outrage over language, race and ethics.

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      • Ronnie Podolefsky's avatar
        Ronnie Podolefsky

        I appreciate your purpose. However, all of this appeared in the news as a result of publication of parts of Deen’s deposition testimony in the lawsuit. If Jackson’s allegations are true, then Deen’s deposition admissions are the wrong vehicle for the very meaningful point you intended.

        Regards,

        Ronnie

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  9. Ronnie Podolefsky's avatar
    Ronnie Podolefsky

    Lisa Jackson v Paula Deen, et al

    Click to access Jackson-v.-Deen-et-al.-Complaint.pdf

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Primary source time! Thank you Ronnie.

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    • Wiona's avatar

      Just because Ms. Jackson is alleging these things does not mean they are true. In fact, from what I read in the deposition, I am suspect of this young woman’s motivations and ability to tell the whole truth–why? Because as manager for a number of years, she had an opportunity to mitigate the situation and does not appear to have done so. My guess is that Ms. Deen’s other employees cannot speak out because they are testifying at the court trial. Don’t we owe it to the truth to wait and see what other information comes out?

      I do applaud and am heartened by Mr. Twitty’s reasoned and thoughtful response–one of the few I’ve read on this matter which seeks an avenue for healing and reconciliation instead of endless tit-for-tat attacks. With luck, this debacle can be used for the betterment of our society. First step is for the elitist whites to stop their cries of “racism!” towards whomever they deem to be flawed. We are all flawed–at least the rest of us realize it. It is real difficult to have a dialogue with people who are too busy to listen because they are shaking their finger in a holier-than-thou fashion. It is not lost on me that the voices of reason and reconciliation regarding this whole debacle are Black voices–those that have been most hurt, and it is the elitist whites in the media whom have steadfastly stuck to the same-old sanctimonious attitudes. Thank you again, Mr. Twitty, for being one of the voices of reason. I breathed audible sighs of relief as I read. Thank you. I really can’t say it enough. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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  10. khodgkin's avatar

    Dear Michael W. Twitty:
    I will not forget your name, I will not forget the words you’ve so eloquently written here, I will not forget your message, and I will not forget your invitation to Paula Deen to “break bread” you and begin to heal this wound.

    I’ve been giving this “Paula Deen fallout” a lot of thought and, based on my own personal biography, I came to the same conclusion you’ve come to here….just a couple of hours before running across this brilliant open letter. However, in all the days of my life I could not have written a message like the one you’ve written (extended) with such consciousness and one that is so filled with love/truth. Your authenticity and clarity about this subject is, quite frankly, genius.

    I can’t begin to tell you what an amazing deed you’ve performed by ensouling this incident, shined a light into its dark corners, and yet synthesized this highly complex and dynamic subject in order to transform that which is evil into that which is truth/love (it is my belief that truth is also love). For that, I pay homage to you my dearest Michael W. Twitty, afroculinaria. You have demonstrated the mark of a modern day hero. I love you and hopefully Paula Deen will embrace your wisdom and truth/love too so that she too has an opportunity to leave behind a legacy that stands for truth, respect, honesty, humility, gratitude, joy and love. I will pray for this plateau and thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing the most thoughtful letter I’ve ever read. I can honestly say, I love you for this Michael.

    Kelly Hodgkin

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  11. Gay Bailey's avatar
    Gay Bailey

    Thank you for your eloquent words. Being a writer is somewhat like being a cook. If you mix the right things together, it’s a moving experience. I too have experienced the sting of racism in the North as a Native American. When I moved to the Southwest the difference in the color of my skin was not so much an issue. Thank goodness I have moved beyond, for the most part, that hurt and anger. Sometimes now it is just an inkling of fear and a goodly amount of sadness when I hear of the unfairness that surrounds people of color, those with alternative lifestyles and diverse beliefs, and many women. I have become stronger so that fear does not rule my life but reminds me that I need more than ever to be fair, and kind, and good to others. I’m hoping for Paula that she takes this chance to make the “great change” in the direction of her life that is afforded when one door closes and another opens. For you Michael, I ask the whole Universe to help you in your efforts. Is there anything we can do to help the African-American farmers that you spoke of?

    Gay Bailey

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  13. Chris's avatar

    Michael,

    Very well written article with a lot of heart and thought behind it. I agree on so many levels with your assessments and the overall lack of identification of so much of Southern foods African American beginnings.

    If anything, as a means of continuing the conversation, I have a couple of questions that I, as a Texas white man, have struggled with in this continual racial discourse in our nation. I grew up on the east side of Houston, served in the military and have never really experienced the Southern racism that Mississippi, Arkansas, et. al. are known for. I know there is history, but growing up in a metropolitan city in the late 20th century I have missed out on a lot of the deeply entrenched racist tendencies of the deep south. I agree with you that everybody is a little bit racist and I recognize we all see the world differently based upon our family upbringing and where we live/lived. So here are my questions:
    1. You stated that “I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate.” I struggle understanding why this word that is so offensive shouldn’t be done away with altogether. Hip Hop culture has become mainstream and to hear the over the top use of the word in this genre seems to do nothing but reinforce the fact that it is a word that not only hear to stay, but that will pick up more traction among non-black men and women who like Hip-Hop. Though they would only be allowed to sing the songs among white friends ;). I don’t get the double standard, though I’ve heard african americans explain it as contextual or descriptive of a certain type of black person. I think off limit words should be just that, off limits. Getting rid of the word “retard” is an example. If it’s never cool, it’s never cool. “b….” “queer” “f..” and “n” should just go if people are going to not only be offended by using them, but the offender could lose a job over a word. How can we be okay with a horrible word if it’s only horrible when a comparatively few people use it?

    2. I think history is a beautiful thing. We understand who we are by understanding who we’ve been. I also think that history should make us better and not be used as a weapon. We are a generation and a half removed from the Civil Rights movement and a few generations removed from slavery. My grandparents rode a boat from Denmark to the United States. They lived in Idaho where my dad was raised. I am not ashamed of where I’ve come from, but I am not identified by what my great-grandparents did in another time and another place. I was born and raised in a country that has a history, but I know so many people (black and white) who not only don’t share the same history as those who trace their roots to the days of slavery, they have never experienced any of the historical fallout of those days. They have to be taught to be angry about the injustices done in America’s past as they have never experienced them. My African American friends don’t view me specifically as racist, just “white people” in general. They know me, therefore prejudice falls away. I know them, therefore prejudice falls away. I am not naive, by any means, and I know that there are deep seated racist tendencies still in pockets of the south. And I think those should be dealt with. But given that everyone will probably always be a little racist, I guess my question is which comes first in this discourse, African Americans genuinely forgiving the past and moving forward to create a better story or eliminating all forms of racism among non-African Americans? I’m so ready to move on from this topic as a nation. We have a future to create.

    Respectfully,
    Chris

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  14. khodgkin's avatar

    Dear Michael W. Twitty:

    I will not forget your name, I will not forget the words you’ve so eloquently written here, I will not forget your message, and I will not forget your invitation to “break bread” with Paula Dean.

    I’ve been giving this “Paula Deen fallout” a lot of thought and, based on my own personal biography, I came to the same conclusion you’ve come to here just a couple of hours before reading this open letter. However, in all the days of my life I could not have written a message like the one you’ve written (extended) with such consciousness and one that is so filled with love/truth. Your authenticity and clarity about this subject is, quite frankly, genius.

    I can’t begin to tell you what an amazing deed you’ve performed by ensouling this incident, shined a light into its dark corners, and yet synthesized all the moving parts of this highly complex and dynamic subject……in order to transform that which is evil into that which is truth/love (it is my belief that truth is also love).

    I pay homage to you my dearest Michael W. Twitty, afroculinaria. You have demonstrated the mark of a modern day hero. I can honestly say that I love you for writing some of the most thought-provoking literature I’ve read in a very long time. Hopefully Paula Deen will embrace your wisdom and truth/love and honor your amazing invitation. If I were given the able to attend only one event for the rest of my life…it would be your fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville; just so that I could shake your hand.

    My most sincere thank you Michael and I wish you nothing but the best in all your future endeavors. You are a bright and shining light, made of the juicy stuff we call love….and that which makes life worth living. Carry on my dear, carry on!!!

    Kelly Hodgkin

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  15. Katie's avatar

    I think I stumbled upon this post on google news or something, but I am so glad I did. Before I start, I just want to say I find your blog fascinating. After reading this, I began clicking around and thoroughly enjoying your stories and your passion!

    Back to Paula. After these revelations regarding Paula Dean, my reaction to her choice of word was very similar to yours, although I have to admit I was far more shocked by some of the other things she said, particularly regarding black waiters. To me these sentiments demonstrated that while she has moved beyond the N word, she still holds on to some long seeded beliefs, the effects of which she seems oblivious to. She seems to have never stepped beyond the safety of her own bubble, which makes me wonder is she really knows what Southern Cuisine encompasses. It didn’t develop in a vacuum, and her great grannies recipe was likely, if not concocted by slaves, influenced by and prepared by slaves. Southern Cuisine is a a melting pot of cultures and traditions and I don’t know how Paula Dean, or anyone, can be the face of it without acknowledging where these recipes came from. Her show was always missing something for me, and sadly it took me until today to realize what, but it’s her lack of story. She always brought her own personal stories about her family into it, which is always great, but if she ever talked about the origins of the recipe, the story mostly ended with some long gone relative that lived on a great beautiful plantation. There’s clearly more to it than that. I can’t speak to her motives, or perhaps the motives of the Food Network execs (considering the lack of diversity in the genre of Southern cooking), but omitting those stories do a great disservice. Your personal histories’ are intrinsically linked, and I truly believe that only good can come from embracing that fact. I’m sad she never took that opportunity, and I truly hope she takes that walk with you in September.

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  16. LN's avatar

    This was a beautifully written piece. I think a really good point was raised about the amount of press this is getting vs. the SCOTUS decision to gut the voters rights act. This is the conversation about racism that we as a country should be having. It is bigger than one person. I think this was simply wonderful. Thank you!

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  17. Patty Killelea-Willard's avatar
    Patty Killelea-Willard

    Beautiful…….you now have a new follower

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  18. aputnam's avatar

    as a lifelong southerner, I couldn’t have said it better. great article.

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  19. Peg's avatar

    I am inspired to be introduced to your perspective and your writing. Thank you.

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  20. Ruby's avatar

    wow! this article is “amazing grace”

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  21. susan giansanti's avatar
    susan giansanti

    from a 72 year old white lady who is deaf…. and grew up with a black nanny from Jamacia whom I loved dearly … I applaud your wonderful wonderful open letter to Paula!! If you have a restaurant, do let me know name and where so hopefully I can go whenever I am in the East (I live in Arizona) … Thank you!!!

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  22. Kat's avatar

    For any interested, read Lillian Hellman, especially “An Unfinished Woman”. Or, read about Tallulah Bankhead. Race relations have changed and yet, not changed. I agree with Mr. Twitty…this is a game of smoke and mirrors and a complicated one at that. I have lived all over this country and these issues are everywhere. Thank you for a beautiful opinion.

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  23. Sheryl G - Seattle's avatar
    Sheryl G - Seattle

    Oh my! My eloquent brother you said it all. Nobody but GOD can improve on your excellence in communicating your “calling” (s). If you cook even half as well as you write, you name will be synonymous with “FOOD”! Much love to you, May GOD blow you up (bless you) real good!

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  24. Amy Bean's avatar

    Thanks Micheal, for saying all the things I’d like to say, but lack a voice to say it. I linked to your blog from my facebook and I plan to post it on our business page as well as our Website. I spent a long time reading your other blog posts and recipes and I wanted to thank you also for using products from local farms in your events. It helps organic farmers, like us, to have a chef of your caliber sharing recipes and blogging about cooking seasonally. (I’m making your Green Bean Salad Recipe tonight). Even if Paula Deen doesn’t show up at your event, your blog has gone a long way, through the internet and other media, to shed light and bring understanding about racism in the South. We can hope for reconciliation, and no, I’m not just talking about Paula, and other southerners… but about all of us here in America. You have an open invitation to visit our farm at anytime, and I will cook a farm to table dinner for you. (Keep in mind, however, I’m just a mom cook. Nothing fancy, but it’ll be Fresh)
    I’m hoping that your generous heart and willingness to share your thoughts brings good things to you.

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  25. Maxine Pulce's avatar
    Maxine Pulce

    This is THE BEST response I’ve seen thus far! Thanks for your insight and wisdom on this matter.

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  26. Laura Bass's avatar

    Much respect for the article and your honesty.

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  28. lorifrancia's avatar

    Outstanding piece, Michael….!
    Is this fundraiser open to the public? I’d like to find my way there to attend in September.

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  29. Jay Watson's avatar
    Jay Watson

    Well done….with one exception…..In Louisiana at least….G-d is spelled GOD!

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Im Jewish and its a custom we do lest His name be used cavalierly

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      • connie's avatar

        I have been following comments here for a few days because I have really, truly enjoyed them. I am surprised by how many folk do not understand the use of G-d and seem slightly offended by it. It’s good to be strong in faith, but I do wish that people could better understand that the Divine is bigger than the small human-created books and faulty human writings and human words that we try to tie it all up in. Until He (or She) comes down here personally, pulls out His wallet and shows His divine ID card saying “THIS is my name and THIS is how I spell it” (in whatever language or languages) then we all should accept that we simply do not know. Only God knows the truth (or truths… I mean, He’s more than us, He can create more than one Truth if it is His desire), and we should accept that we are all have our own valid ways of respecting the Divine.

        Islam says La Allah illa Allah. There is no God but God. I like that reminder. We are not God, and no matter what we call him, the only one who defines Him, is God himself. Us humans just have to do the best we can, and should remember to allow others the right to do the best they can too, in their own ways.

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        You get it!!!!!! Its so simple…

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  30. Bob Schecter's avatar
    Bob Schecter

    In Paula’s world, nigger is just another word. That’s not racist, that’s just stupid. And you can’t fix stupid by punishing her, any more than smacking a dog on the face for pooping on the carpet will teach it a lesson. The angry white men (metaphorically speaking) will just rally ’round her now as she, and her book, wallow in newfound martyrdom. Better to turn all the attention to the children. They’ve got to be carefully taught.

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  31. Vonmiwi Culvera (@divalocity)'s avatar

    I Love this: “No victim here” because that is me and how I choose to live my life.

    I’m not offended at all by what Paula Deen said in her disposition because I just don’t operate from that of a victim and choose not to become offended by every little slight, either real or perceived. It makes me wonder if those who clam selective outrage would be so outraged had she told a lie because it seems that folks would rather accept a lie than deal with the truth.

    In our quest for assimilation and acceptance, thank goodness you are preserving our culture when it comes to our food and ancestral heritage because pretty soon we’re going to lose all of it if we don’t preserve it. Paula Deen should be forgiven and those who are angered should simply move on, because life is too short to waste on hatred.

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  32. Mary McAdams's avatar
    Mary McAdams

    Well put! I think the serving of food ties us to our cultures in many profound ways. The language we use to empower our thoughts is so overlooked. I wish more of us could think before we spoke. I can’t imagine any scenario where I would use the “n” word and regret to say I have met a woman of Polish descent from New Jersey who called herself a “Polock” and when I took offense she asked, “Well, what would you call someone from Poland?” I’ll leave it at that!

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  33. Michael Rhoads's avatar
    Michael Rhoads

    MIchael,
    Fortunately a friend, and fellow member of my Sunday School class, posted this on FB. Wow. Wonderfully thought out and marvelously written. Though I have lived in a number of states and originally come from the Maryland and Delaware area I have lived in south Louisiana longer than anywhere else and consider it home. Few places can compare to the amalgamation of cooking styles and ingredients that we are so blessed with in our area. While we (those of us in Louisiana) often acknowledge the influences of the Creoles, the Africans, the Spaniards, the native Americans had in the foods that we so dearly love, I must admit that far too little credit, if any, has been given those that were enslaved. They, far more than the white mother or father, were responsible for passing the cooking traditions along to their children as well as the children of their owners. My, do my tastebuds thank them for that. ( I would be remiss if I failed to also recognize the impact of the Acadians when they settled here)

    What a beautiful marriage history and food make. I would dearly love to attend your event in September and hope that Ms. Deen makes every effort to do so.

    I wish you much personal and professional success and look forward to learning more about you and your cooking. You see, I have come to know that even a white, southern cop can learn a thing or two from a gay, Jewish black guy. More than anything I have learned that we can quickly pass by the descriptions I just used above to become friends and revel in the worlds of history and cuisine.

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  34. Scully's avatar

    Finally! Someone not only says something SANE about this overblown drama, but says it with such eloquence, thoughtfulness, politeness, honesty and heart. Thank you. Your work sounds fascinating. I grew up in Georgia, majored in history and I am a history teacher, so I was aware that Southern food wouldn’t be Southern food without the foods and cooking methods that the slaves prepared and introduced. But I only know that in a very superficial sense. I plan to follow you and I hope to learn more. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavours. Thank you again for your clear-sightedness. I hope Paula Deen comes to the event in NC. I wish I could!

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  35. DEW's avatar

    What a compassionate and intelligent piece you have written and shared. I really do hope Paula Deen takes you up on your kind offer and takes this experience as a significant learning opportunity beyond just modifying outward behavior to avoid losing business deals.

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  36. Dr. P. A. Smith's avatar
    Dr. P. A. Smith

    Now that is some straight talk from a real Southern fellow….love the mix of humankind..Now if folks could adjust to the notion that we really are all humans!! hello… Are you including healthy foods in your historical look at these areas of food? I am a big proponent of Food As Medicine and the Natural Ways that folks knew how to use foods for benefits to health..
    Happy Adventures to you…& thank you..

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  37. Alan Monasch's avatar

    This post is perhaps the only important thing to come out of the Paula Deen matter. Thank you, Mr. Twitty, for your clear view about the relevant politics, for seeing through the media message to a matter of substance, and for your teaching about the African roots of what we call Southern cooking. I am delighted to be following your blog and look forward to your next entry.

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  38. Reality Jones's avatar
    Reality Jones

    So will you be dressing in a little white butler outfit and working as a slave-themed servant “just like in Shirley Temple times” as she requested (referring to a movie based in slavery days), or will you merely be working for her as a party server and laborer and accepting booze as your only payment as she has done with her Black staff in the past? They don’t get money. As she and Bubba said it, all “they” would spend it on is booze anyway, so Paula just gave them booze instead of money.

    Be forgiving, certainly, but this is not just about a few times using the N-word. This is about her repeated racist ACTIONS and behavior. By all means invite her to your gathering, but don’t be surprised when she’s shocked that you won’t shuck and jive for her entertainment. She is what we in the north like to call a “polite racist” or a “clueless racist.” She’s a bigot and says or does incredibly stupid things because she simply doesn’t know any better, and she does it with that southern hospitality and therefore comes off as being “polite” about her bigotry; But make no mistake… She’s a bigot.

    And she also has this awful habit of licking her fingers while cooking, and then sticking her hands back in the food. Really, does no one else find this absolutely disgusting?

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  39. iPapi's avatar

    One word: Stellar!

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  40. Kathy Gilson's avatar

    As much as I enjoy your open letter (which is boundless), I am even more encouraged and uplifted by the responses you have received to it. There really are more than five good people in the world……

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  41. Diana Gale's avatar
    Diana Gale

    Wonderful. Thank you for taking the time to put these sentiments, and this knowledge, into so eloquent a form.

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  42. wayne Cathey's avatar
    wayne Cathey

    I think this should be sent to all the news networks. Great piece.

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  43. Janet Volz's avatar
    Janet Volz

    I’ve read your open letter twice. I’m stunned. What a lovely, eloquent, gentile young man you are. Thank you humbly for your letter.

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  44. Heather Ely's avatar

    I love everything about this.

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  45. Gretchen's avatar
    Gretchen

    I am in absolute awe of this entire conversation you inspired! How wonderful! It made me think about how difficult change can be. In leadership development, behaviors that are deeply rooted in beliefs are the hardest things to guide someone to change. The way you have opened a door for PD to consider walking through, is so brilliant. There are stages to learning, and the first one is awareness. Even fully exploring awareness is a journey. So, the image discussed regarding the deeply sad, confused, emotional, and even shocked look about her in her video responses, makes total sense to me. If she had known better, she would not have done all these hurtful things, unless she was a sociopath, which I don’t feel is the case. So, really, this may be the first real, huge, earth-shattering feedback she has ever heard about this behavior. If so, this is her road to awareness from which acceptance grows and only then a real change can happen. So, I am slower to react to her deflection of criticism, and her lack of depth around her contribution to this problem, because of the level of difficulty of this kind of learning. She has likely used her charm and talents along the way to get away with saying and doing these things, and probably has been told all her life that it is funny or adorable. Working in development, and knowing how learning for the first time that you have been negatively effecting other people with a behavior you have been displaying all your life can shut people down, tank them emotionally and send them off thinking about every thing they have ever said and done with terrible shame and hurt. It gives me the compassion and hope that she can walk through the door in the public eye, with more judgement and embarrassment imaginable, and learn and grow from it, instead of imploding. We all have things to learn. Thank you, Michael!

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  46. Rick Roberts (@rickroberts)'s avatar

    I adore you, Michael. Now I need to find a way to make it to NC in September. Thank you for this essay.

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  47. omanii's avatar

    Be sure and post if she takes you up on your offer to cook or even attend the September 7 gathering.

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  48. KT's avatar

    Thoughtful; very d r a w n o u t, but thoughtfully written… Use a spell-checker as a writer when you can. In your first paragraph there is a “typo” that brings the flow to a halt… “…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free;” it’s has an apostrophe. Keep growing as a writer; you’ve peaked peoples’ interest with this one!

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Thank you…I wrote in haste but true..I hear ya

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      • vsazera's avatar

        Hi Michael,

        I sent you a response but not sure if you got it? I have a feeling you got thousands. Looks like you are diligently reading them all. I was so moved by you open letter. I wrote you a long comment from my heart. It is a subject so near to me. Your approach is very inspirational!

        Peace, Love, Joy,

        Veroinca

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        im definitely doing my best 🙂 did you mail it to koshersoul?

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      • vsazera's avatar

        Your letter made me lol and the end I was moved to tears. I was raised on Soul Food, the youngest of 7 daughters born and raised in Bessemer, Alabama. I went to Catholic school. My parents were Irish/Italian/Catholic/ Democrats. In 5th grade I told on a kid for saying the n-word. I’m 48 and to this day I’m proud of being a “tattle- tell” that day.

        I try to teach my children to be forgiving. That two wrongs don’t make a right. I know that we all make mistakes but as a mother I so desperately want my children to learn from their mistakes. I even tell them to get their tests and learn the ones they missed. It’s not about the grade but the knowledge you walk away with.

        “Can’t we all just get along”? I followed the Rodney King case so closely. I was stunned when the verdict came out. It made me so upset. I sobbed when he gave that speech. He said some great things that I hoped people were listening to. I thought it might actually be a turning point for our country.

        Many times I’ve felt that way. Hoping people were paying attention to how important and much everybody would benefit.

        When President Obama was elected I was certain the moment had come for our country. I have been devastated by things that came from the mouthes of people I love, and respect. So disappointing it’s made me angry and hardened my heart. I’m not as calm as you. I get SO worked up. I’m like a combination of Barney Fife and Linda Blair. My peaceful message of “Can’t we all just get along” gets lost because of my delivery.

        I hope with all my heart Paula Deen comes to your gathering. But even if she doesn’t your letter is beautiful. It inspires me to be calm and practice what I preach to my children. I’m no longer naive enough to think it will change the world but it sure makes it a sweeter place. Thank you!

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        I think I just found a real kindred spirit. This is really the kind of personal testimony that tells me something good has been planted.

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      • vsazera's avatar

        We are definitely kindred spirits! My husband and people who really know me say that I may look like a white girl but I’m really a black, jewish, gay person. He’s been calling me Gay Sammy Davis Jr. for years 🙂 I’m going to try to come in September! I look forward to following you. Also LOVED “My Response to your Response” with the two ladies in B’ham. YOu are an awesome writer with a big heart!

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        LOL thank you (bows) 🙂 Please do–we are working out the kinks now but after July 7th tickets will go on sale!

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    • Leslie Nick Monroe's avatar

      I believe you mean piqued
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  49. a reader's avatar
    a reader

    Wow! Amazing post. You are amazing, interesting, intelligent and thoughtful in your writing and position. Thank you for sharing.

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  50. William H. Hayes's avatar

    As Rox Goudeau expressed above, I hope that this incident could end up being a real catalyst for change. Certainly your wise and eloquent words should make people take notice!!! I sincerely hope that Paula accepts your invitation–not because she feels that she has to, but because she wants to.

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