An Open Letter to Paula Deen:

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Photo Courtesy of: Johnathan M. Lewis

Dear Paula Deen,

So it’s been a tough week for you… believe me you I know something about tough weeks being a beginning food writer and lowly culinary historian.  Of course honey, I’d kill for one of your worst days as I could rest myself on the lanai, the veranda, the portico (okay that was really tongue in cheek), the porch..whatever…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free.  First Food Network now Smithfield.  (Well not so mad about Smithfield—not the most ethical place to shill for, eh, Paula?)

I am currently engaged in a project I began in 2011 called The Cooking Gene Project—my goal to examine family and food history as the descendant of Africans, Europeans and Native Americans—enslaved people and enslavers—from Africa to America and from Slavery to Freedom.  You and I are both human, we are both Americans, we are both quite “healthily” built, and yet none of these labels is more profound for me than the fact we are both Southern.  Sweet tea runs in our blood, in fact is our blood…What I understand to be true, a lot of your critics don’t…which is, as Southerners our ancestors co-created the food and hospitality and manners which you were born to 66 years ago and I, thirty-six.  In the words of scholar Mechal Sobel, this was “a world they made together,” but beyond that, it is a world we make together.  So I speak to you as a fellow Southerner, a cousin if you will, not as a combatant.

To be part of the national surprise towards you saying the word “nigger” in the past (I am a cultural and culinary historian and so therefore I am using the word within context…) is at best naïve and at worst, an attempt to hide the pervasiveness of racism, specifically anti-Black racism in certain currents of American culture—not just Southern.  Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father.  That Cheerio’s had to shut down the comments section says that the idea of inter-human relationships outside of one’s color bracket is for many hiding behind a computer screen—a sign of the apocalypse.  So just like those old spaghetti sauce ads, yes, America, racism—“it’s in there” even when we were prefer it not be.

When you said, “of course,” I wasn’t flabbergasted, I was rather, relieved…In fact we Black Southerners have an underground saying, “better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…” but Paula I knew what you meant, and I knew where you were coming from.  I’m not defending that or saying its right—because it’s that word—and the same racist venom that drove my grandparents into the Great Migration almost 70 years ago. I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate.  Power in language is not a one way street.  Obviously I am not encouraging you to use the word further, but I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear.  No sound bite can begin to peel back the layers of this issue.

Some have said you are not a racist.  Sorry, I don’t believe that…I am more of the Avenue Q type—everybody’s—you guessed it—a little bit racist.  This is nothing to be proud of no more than we are proud of our other sins and foibles.  It’s something we should work against.  It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism or even get over strings of negative experiences we’ve had with groups outside of our own.  We have a really lousy language—and I don’t just mean because we took a Spanish and Portuguese word (negro) and turned into the most recognizable racial slur on earth…in any language…because we have a million and one ways to hate, disdain, prejudge, discriminate and yet we hide behind a few paltry words like racism, bigotry, prejudice when we damn well know that we have thousands of words for cars—because we LOVE cars….and food—because we LOVE food—and yet in this language you and I share, how we break down patterns of thought that lead to social discord like racism, are sorely lacking.  We are a cleaver people at hiding our obsessions with downgrading the other.

Problem two…I want you to understand that I am probably more angry about the cloud of smoke this fiasco has created for other issues surrounding race and Southern food.  To be real, you using the word “nigger” a few times in the past does nothing to destroy my world.  It may make me sigh for a few minutes in resentment and resignation, but I’m not shocked or wounded.  No victim here.  Systemic racism in the world of Southern food and public discourse not your past epithets are what really piss me off.  There is so much press and so much activity around Southern food and yet the diversity of people of color engaged in this art form and telling and teaching its history and giving it a future are often passed up or disregarded.  Gentrification in our cities, the lack of attention to Southern food deserts often inhabited by the non-elites that aren’t spoken about, the ignorance and ignoring of voices beyond a few token Black cooks/chefs or being called on to speak to our issues as an afterthought is what gets me mad. In the world of Southern food, we are lacking a diversity of voices and that does not just mean Black people—or Black perspectives!  We are surrounded by culinary injustice where some Southerners take credit for things that enslaved Africans and their descendants played key roles in innovating.  Barbecue, in my lifetime, may go the way of the Blues and the banjo….a relic of our culture that whisps away.  That tragedy rooted in the unwillingness to give African American barbecue masters and other cooks an equal chance at the platform is far more galling than you saying “nigger,” in childhood ignorance or emotional rage or social whimsy.

Culinary injustice is what you get where you go to plantation museums and enslaved Blacks are not even talked about, but called servants.  We are invisible.  Visitors come from all over to marvel at the architecture and wallpaper and windowpanes but forget the fact that many of those houses were built by enslaved African Americans or that the food that those plantations were renowned for came from Black men and Black women truly slaving away in the detached kitchens.  Imagine how I, a culinary historian and living history interpreter feel during some of these tours where my ancestors are literally annihilated and whisked away to the corners of those rooms, dying multiple deaths of anonymity and cultural amnesia.  I’m so tired of reading about how “okra” is an “African word.”(For land’s sake ya know “apple” isn’t a “European word…” its an English word that comes from German like okra comes from Igbo and Twi!) I am so tired of seeing people of African descent relegated to the tertiary status when even your pal Alton Brown has said, it was enslaved Black people cooking the food.  Culinary injustice is the annihilation of our food voices—past, present and foreseeable future—and nobody will talk about that like they are talking about you and the “n word.” For shame.

You see Paula, your grits may not be like mine, but one time I saw you make hoecakes on your show and I never heard tell of where them hoecakes really came from.  Now not to compare apples and oranges but when I was a boy it was a great pleasure to hear Nathalie Dupree talk about how beaten biscuits and country captain and gumbo started.    More often than not, she gave a nod to my ancestors.  Don’t forget that the Southern food you have been crowned the queen of was made into an art largely in the hands of enslaved cooks, some like the ones who prepared food on your ancestor’s Georgia plantation.  You, just like me cousin, stand squarely on what late playwright August Wilson called, “the self defining ground of the slave quarter.”  There and in the big house kitchen, Africa, Europe and Native America(s) melded and became a fluid genre of world cuisine known as Southern food.  Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa.

Don’t be fooled by the claims that Black people don’t watch you.  We’ve been watching you.  We all have opinions about you.  You were at one point sort of like our Bill Clinton. (You know the first Black president?)   When G. Garvin and the Neely’s and the elusive B Smith (who they LOVED to put on late on Saturday nights or early Sunday mornings!) were few and far between, you were our sorta soul mama, the white lady with the gadonkadonk and the sass and the signifying who gave us a taste of the Old Country-which is for us—the former Confederacy and just beyond.  Furthermore, as a male who practices an “alternative lifestyle” (and by the way I am using that phrase in bitter sarcastic irony), it goes without saying that many of my brothers have been you for Halloween, and you are right up there with Dolly Parton, Dixie Carter and Tallullah Bankhead of old as one of the muses of the Southern gay male imagination.  We don’t despise you, we don’t even think you made America fat.  We think you are a businesswoman who has made some mistakes, has character flaws like everybody else and in fact is now a scapegoat.  I find it hard to be significantly angry at you when during the last election the re-disenfranchisement of the Negro—like something from the time of W.E.B. Du Bois was a national cause celebre. Hell, today the voting rights act was gutted and I’m sure many think this is a serious win for “democracy.”  If  I want to be furious about something racial—well America—get real—we’ve had a good twelve years of really really rich material that the National media has set aside to talk about Paula Deen.  Yes Paula,  in light of all these things, you are the ultimate, consummate racist, and the one who made us fat, and the reason why American food sucks and ……you don’t believe that any more than I do. 

A fellow Georgian of yours once said that one day the “sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down at the table of brotherhood.”  Well no better time than now.  Paula, I don’t have to tell you redemption is yours to choose, to have and to embrace.  As a Jew, I extend the invitation to do teshuvah—which means to repent—but better—to return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace.  You used food to rescue your life, your family and your destiny.  I admire that.  I know that I have not always made good choices and to be honest none of us are perfect.  This is an opportunity to grow and renew.

If there is anything The Cooking Gene has taught me—its about the art of reconciliation.  We aren’t happy with you right now.  Then again some of the things you have said or have been accused of saying aren’t surprising.  In so many ways, that’s the more unfortunate aspect.  We are resigned to believe and understand that our neighbor is to be suspected before respected.  It doesn’t have to be this way, and it doesn’t have to go on forever.  As a species we cannot conduct ourselves in this manner.  As creations of the Living G-d, we are commanded to be better.  You and I are both the descendants of people who lived, fought, died, suffered so that we could be better in our own time.  I’m disappointed but I’m not heartless.  And better yet, praise G-d I ain’t hopeless.

If you aren’t busy on September 7, and I surely doubt that you are not busy—I would like to invite you to a gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation.  We are doing a fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, a North Carolina Historic Site.  One of the largest in fact, much larger than the one owned by your great-grandfather’s in Georgia.  30,000 acres once upon a time with 900 enslaved African Americans working the land over time. They grew tobacco, corn, wheat and cotton.  I want you to walk the grounds with me, go into the cabins, and most of all I want you to help me cook.  Everything is being prepared using locally sourced food, half of which we hope will come from North Carolina’s African American farmers who so desperately need our support.  Everything will be cooked according to 19th century methods.  So September 7, 2013, if you’re brave enough, let’s bake bread and break bread together at Historic Stagville. This isn’t publicity this is opportunity.  Leave the cameras at home.  Don’t worry, it’s cool, nobody will harm you if you’re willing to walk to the Mourner’s Bench.  Better yet, I’ll be there right with you.

G-d Bless,

Culinary Historian, Food Writer and Living History Interpreter

Michael W. Twitty

For a link to a video of the event Paula missed:  click here.

For a link to the MAD Symposium video where I talk about culinary justice and injustice: click here.

998 comments on “An Open Letter to Paula Deen

  1. Tracey K's avatar
    Tracey K

    Well written!

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  2. Red Dog Mom's avatar
    Red Dog Mom

    Well said. I sincerely hope Ms. Deen takes you up on your offer.

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  3. Barbara Framm's avatar

    I love this response. I hope Paula takes you up I the invitation. And I wish I could be there too. Sounds as tho it will be an amazing gathering of historic proportions–

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  4. Kelly Bartels's avatar
    Kelly Bartels

    I was under the impression that the “N word” came from the slaves having come from Nigeria, western slaves ports of Nigeria… thus Niger was like the “nationality”, and it’s transformation into the “N word” just a result of the mass population and its flow of language. I learned this from an African American friend that was an artist and traveled extensively in Western Africa.

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  5. Darleen Ortega's avatar

    Michael, I am a judge in Oregon of Mexican and European heritage and advocate a lot for outsider voices. I want to thank you so much for this absolutely brilliant response to recent events. I learned a few things and was also deeply moved by your heartfelt wisdom. I sure wished I lived closer to you–I’d be thrilled to attend your September 7 event. You’ve given me (and those who will read your post once it goes on my Facebook wall) a lot to think about and are my hero of the day.

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  6. Jim Epley's avatar
    Jim Epley

    Michael, from a 65-year old, white, Episcopalian, straight male (is that enough demographics to make the point?) living in South Carolina, Thank You! Well said. Shalom.

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  7. Bob Smith's avatar
    Bob Smith

    I’m looking forward to the fruits of The Cooking Gene Project, but hope the proofreaders pick up on “you using” for “your using.” Picky, I know.

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  8. AGBates's avatar

    Love it! A voice of reason among the vigilantes.

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  9. Pam d's avatar

    Nice piece overall but 2 puzzling thoughts…why do you capitalize “Black” but not “white” and, more importantly, why do you type “G-d” and not God? 😦

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Thank you for your comment. Black is an ethnonym and white is a color classification. G-d is one traditional Jewish way of respecting the holiness of the Lord.

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  10. Donna Turner's avatar

    I loved the letter and hope Paula reads and accepts it, but there are two things that I would like to say. One, history is written by the victors and by that I mean that the north loves to portray the south as 100%evil backwards plantation living slave owners, truth 10% of the south owned slaves with only 1% owning more than ten (not defending any ownership) meaning that 90% did not own slaves therefore did not have their food prepared by slave hands and they did eat whatever they could get from the land around them- My grandmother said that the family did not have slaves, they had children 13 of them to do the work, same was said by my mother in laws grandmother who was 1 of 21 children. So Southern cooking for 90% of the people was less to do with Africa or wherever the food came from and more to do with hunger (“poke salad” anyone?) so the history did not get passed down because of racism but probably of ignorance of the origin. Two, Come to my hometown of Macon Ga and go on our historic tours and you will hear that we do not shy away from the slavery issues of history but we do keep in mind that no matter how immoral and distasteful it was, it was legal and the North benefitted just as much from the system- how much profit did the textile mill owners get from having access to “cheap” southern cotton? The civil war started out less about slavery and more about money- the northern mill owners got tariffs put in place to limit southern cotton growers ability to sell the cotton at higher prices in foreign markets so that they could keep their own overhead low. Slavery was wrong and is still wrong and is still going on in many parts of the world. This continued focus on words masks the real issues that face us. I am a Southern white woman, raised by a Southern father (who would have punished me but good for using that word) and a Northern mother that was much more racist than my father could have been.

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  11. oldsouljess's avatar

    Reblogged this on Obscure Meandre and commented:
    I came across this blog post thanks to Bitch Media out of Portland, Oregon. Not only do I find it interesting because of all the hype around Paula Deen this week, but also because Michael makes great points about the power of language, and the origins of foods.

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  12. Erin Fussell's avatar

    This is brilliantly written. Thank you for posting! Sending a prayer out that she’ll have the courage to accept your invitation.

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  13. Zully's avatar

    Not only gay men identify as queers and f******. Gay women do too. Otherwise spectacularly put!

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  14. AZGirl's avatar

    Years ago, I did a “plantation tour,” as I had never visited the South before. I was astonished and infuriated to hear the term “servants” used in place of “slaves,” and especially by a sign outside a plantation doctor’s very small office claiming he treated X number of “human beings” there. Revisionist history. I’m as white as they come, but am the descendent of Yankee abolitionists, and when people question what 60-year-old white woman hasn’t used the term, I can raise my hand and say *I* am a 60-year-old white woman who has never used the term. Thank you for writing what this is *really* all about.

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    • Reality Jones's avatar
      Reality Jones

      And I’m pretty certain you never openly tried to arrange a party where you had Black servants dressed in white suits, serving guests “like in olden times” as Mrs. Deen has done.

      The racial slur is the least of her crimes. Treating other people like she does is the problem.

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  15. Donna's avatar

    Please run for office!!!

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  16. Metoa's avatar

    The most amazingly insightful thing said about this entire issue. Thank you for your perspective and I truly hope she joins you on September 7th.

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  17. Krista's avatar

    Beautiful and thoughtful. I hope she shows.

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  18. Rene's avatar

    Thank you so much for everything you said here…this is a genuine understanding of the long and complicated history of racism in this country, as well as an open admission that racism is still ingrained in our culture. This is the beginning of an honest conversation, which we need to have here instead of the constant barrage of sensational 30-second soundbites that try to sell the story for ratings.

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  19. Beverly's avatar

    Dear Sir, 8% of the Population in 1860 owned slaves. . . that means the rest of the population cooked their own food. They created, expounded on their own cooking that also became part of the cooking history of the south.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      You are correct…however black and white folks interacted in so many ways.Okra, field peas, came across cultural lines.Many yeoman farmers rented enslaved people. In many cities poor and middling whites interacted with freed blacks and enslaved people. Its very complex. Thank you because you helped bring up an important aspect.

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  20. Patrick's avatar

    All I can say is thank you, Michael.

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  21. Joelle's avatar

    So beautifully put. I’ve been telling people all week long that they are missing the point by focusing on that single word. There really is more to the story, how about the rest of her family treating employees poorly in their restaurants? Women, Blacks, Jews apparently if true, they are equal opportunity offenders. I do hope that she accepts your offer and though there may not be any cameras, I hope that you will give us a follow-up on your time together.

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  22. debbeepalmer's avatar
    debbeepalmer

    HOLY SMOKES!!!
    … you put into words what my heart was feeling. I cannot thank you enough.

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  23. Donna's avatar

    What a well thought out, reasoned and clear-headed response. A friend pointed me here, and I will stay. You’re a beautiful writer and I’d copnsider myself damn lucky to have an invitation to break bread, share bbq or have a coffee with you. Thanks for this.

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  24. Julianna's avatar

    So, yesterday, a close friend of mine was stupidly saying to me how she didn’t feel it was that big of a deal, that we all make mistakes, it happened twenty years ago (or whatever), blah blah blah… And I looked off into the distance, desperately searching the trees for the simple thing to say that she would understand. But, that simple thing to say didn’t really exist. It wasn’t there. It didn’t come. I TRIED to find the words. I WANTED to give rise to these feelings… And I failed. I am ashamed that I couldn’t voice the frustration I had with her ‘argument’ in the heat of the moment, and instead, I let it go. She’s getting this in her email box immediately. I don’t even care if she sees this comment. Actually, I hope she does. We all have some work left to do.

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  25. JeremiahW's avatar
    JeremiahW

    you sir are wise beyond your years……..refreshing. we need to hear and see more of you.

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  26. Mark W Bassett's avatar

    Nicely composed and woven with sensitivity – yet Paula ruined her own trademark, in fact. We all pay a price for a lack of circumspection. Its not about political correctness. Its about editing out of practicality. There is a 1st Amendment, but there is no constitutional protection from the social and economic consequences of the misuse of that freedom.

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  27. dankelly60DAn's avatar

    Great commentary! I wish I could attend the findraiser and I really hope Paula Deen does. You’re offering her a true opportunity Michael. Take care and I wish you success with the fundraiser.

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  28. dankelly60's avatar

    Michael, that is a fantastic letter. I wish I could attend the fundraiser myself. I’m sure the food will be great and learning the history you discussed would be enlightening. I hope Paula Deen takes you up on this very generous offer. Good luck with the fundraiser. Dan

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  29. trendbytes's avatar

    Beautifully written. Has Paula accepted your invitation? She’d be crazy not to…sounds like a wonderful time! Is it open to the public, as I happen to live in NC and would love to attend. I am a foodie to the core. Still reeling from my $3.95 purchase of three (yes three) perfect figs at the Reid’s produce, which sells raw milk, heirloom everything, etc. How could I not? Good fresh food is the essence of living well.

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  30. janeaustenrocks's avatar
    janeaustenrocks

    Beautifully stated, a joy to read, (please add lowly brilliant writer to your list of professions). I just can’t tell you enough how much I enjoyed this post. An absolute pleasure; thank you for sharing.

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  31. Michele Paiva's avatar

    I loved everything [except the slight regional and seemingly unfair dig to Northerners]…but the rest, bravo!

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  32. Art's avatar

    Michael,
    Thank you for your very well written piece. I have immediate family that live in Savannah and work for Paula Deen in her office. I know first hand she is not a racist and that is the real dilemma here.
    I am white and I came down to North Carolina State “College” in 1960 from N.J. and participated in the civil rights movement and went to jail with my black friends from Shaw University. This was to help secure their right to sit in a movie theater along side me instead of me having to sit in the balcony with them. I was treated worse than they were by the authorities and as well as by my ‘fellow’ white college classmates.
    I still live in North Carolina and I love it here. I have many friends of all types of ancestral backgrounds that are not proud of where they were years ago but in this case the media does not want the atrocities of the past to die because it does give them as good a revenue as love and understanding gives them. Please wait until the trial is complete before buying into the other hype.

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  33. Art's avatar

    Typo or just stupidity: Insert ‘not’ between ‘does’ and ‘not’ in the next to last sentence please.

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  34. Marjorie's avatar
    Marjorie

    I don’t believe you were trying to excuse her racial slurs…..how long will we put up with this bull….
    You feel she negates her southern cooking heritage and yes I agree with you, but there are many southern white cooks who don’t call people by the “N” word or hire them to look like plantation slaves. I think the priorities are a little screwed up here. I think we all know she realizes where her cooking comes from…now if she’d only realize that because she’s become a cooking show queen, she’s not immune to criticism from people who are trying hard not to be even “a little bit racist”.
    I live in Sonoma County and have to go to Oakland for your kind of cooking. Sad, Sad, Too Sad!
    And by the way, some of the greatest southern, cajun food is in New Orleans and how many of those chefs are black? I think a good number based on the food.

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  35. Courtney's avatar
    Courtney

    I am weeping; this is so beautiful and powerful.

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  36. tobymarx's avatar

    My friend, you have just renewed my love of all that is good in humanity. Blessings to you. I hope Paula is able to renew herself by breaking bread with you.

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  37. Dover Whitecliff's avatar
    Dover Whitecliff

    Very well written, Sir. And thank you for making the point about the melting pot of language as well as food. I grew up in Hawaii, but my mom was from Georgia, so you might say that I speak pidgin with a southern accent. I had no clue why people were so grumpy with each other over skin color when I first moved to the mainland from the land of Ohana. To some extent I still don’t, considering most of the causes for original anger go back hundreds of years (or in the case of religion, thousands). It’s sad to think that we can hurt inside for generations instead of a single lifetime-there’s so much more joyous things out there to spend time on, really good biscuits and gravy being one of them. But thank you for giving me a new point of view on why it happens. I truly appreciate it.

    I agree with everything you said save one part. I believe that if a word is wrong to use in company, then it’s wrong for anybody to use it in company, to refer to themselves or to anyone else, whether it’s a good old Viking four letter word or a slur on someone’s honor. Your article brings up a lot of things to think about, and I hope that on September 7, people can come together and share food and history with open hearts and open minds. Thank you again for writing this…

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  38. SDK's avatar

    Because sometimes, you just need a gay black Southern Jew to tell it like it is.

    Your writing has been voted “best comment on Paula Deen” by my entire family.

    When you are next in Boston, come for shabbos.

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  39. Art's avatar

    Wow, I’m old! I meant to say ‘…..but in this case the media does not want the atrocities of the past to die because it gives them more revenue than what love and understanding brings in.’
    Thanks.

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  40. SDK's avatar

    Because sometimes, you just need a gay black Southern Jew to tell is like it is.

    When you are next in Boston, come for shabbos!

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  41. Cyd's avatar

    Thank you so much

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  43. kate's avatar

    THIS is what I was hungry for.

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  44. David Myrick's avatar

    Very well written and well thought out article and definitely stamped by a southerner. I myself am southern and just happen to be from Mississippi where this past weeks news as always made me a little embarrassed for that moment to be white. My mom passed away several years ago and was in her seventies and she to would have been embarrassed also. That word was not allowed in my house and if she even thought you said it you got popped and your mouth washed out with soap. My mom happened to grow up on a farm in Jones County,Mississippi where her family raised cattle and also had a dairy. Her best friends were the black children of the workers that lived on the farm and no, they were not slaves. My grandfather happen to be way ahead of his time when it came to race relations, thank God! He and my Great Uncle both caught the devil from some because of this. The great thing about my mom growing up where she did is that she not was taught to be color blind just as my children are but she also learned how to cook and much of it was from my grandmother and the many women that lived on the farm that would also cook and teach her secrets. I now live on the Miss. Coast, not far from New Orelans where there is not another place in the world in my opinion where the African American touch to dishes is most prevelant and I should add delicious. Leah Chase is a perfect example of this which I am sure you know her and her restaurant Dooky Chase.

    Once again, thanks so much for the artilce, it really took me back and also reminded me of my mom and the influences on her cooking but also of my Grandfather and his fight for reconciliation in a day when it was not popular. I to forgive Paula and hope and pray her life is put back together after this terrible learning experience but I have to give her a nod for admitting her past and asking for forgiveness. Thank God both of my sisters didn’t like the kitchen growing up and I got to spend much of my time there with my mom learning how to cook. If you need another stand in for your meal you are preparing or just someone to stir the rue I am sure I am available. You see, sweet tea also runs through my vains!

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  45. Southern Girl on a Mission's avatar

    Beautifully written. I’ve always been very proud of the diversity of my southern Louisiana culture with a “gumbo” of Cajun, Creole, Spanish and French spices in everything. The hypocrisy of the media over the last week has infuriated me. Instead of spending all of this airtime on Ms Deen’s past mistakes, it would have been time better spent as an informative and educational dialogue on race relations, but particulary historical contributions on society. But, of course, why would the media ever consider anything but drama? I once brought a food and travel writer to the African American Museum in Opelousas, Louisiana. It was small and rustic, but the most authentic and fantastic representation of African American culture, food, etc. And, Ms Rebecca was the most fabulous woman I’ve ever met. You should visit Ms Rebecca and her family at the museum if you’re ever this way.

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  46. Nanette's avatar

    Thank you, I’m in tears at your compassion and honesty. We all needed to hear your words. I’m a white Jewish woman living in the Pacific Northwest, having no ties to the South, yet my heart is open. May G-d bless you in many ways, and I do hope Ms Deen takes you up on your invitation.

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  47. John Morrison's avatar

    Michael, this is a thoughtful and enlightening letter. It addresses a panoply of things that need to be said.

    Paula, you should accept this invitation.

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  48. Michael Burke's avatar
    Michael Burke

    Thank you, Michael, for a thoughtful and eloquent response to an issue that tends to provoke reactionary rather than reasoned commentary. Is the event in Stagville open to the public? I’d love to come, and I’d love to meet you and take the tour – with or without Ms. Dean tagging along.

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  49. kaualoku / Mona Livsey's avatar

    You are an absolutely amazing person!! I love your article for its grace, education, love, forgiveness, challenge and dedication to what you love. God Bless you and yours. And thank you so very much for sharing your thoughts!!

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