An Open Letter to Paula Deen:
Photo Courtesy of: Johnathan M. Lewis
Dear Paula Deen,
So it’s been a tough week for you… believe me you I know something about tough weeks being a beginning food writer and lowly culinary historian. Of course honey, I’d kill for one of your worst days as I could rest myself on the lanai, the veranda, the portico (okay that was really tongue in cheek), the porch..whatever…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free. First Food Network now Smithfield. (Well not so mad about Smithfield—not the most ethical place to shill for, eh, Paula?)
I am currently engaged in a project I began in 2011 called The Cooking Gene Project—my goal to examine family and food history as the descendant of Africans, Europeans and Native Americans—enslaved people and enslavers—from Africa to America and from Slavery to Freedom. You and I are both human, we are both Americans, we are both quite “healthily” built, and yet none of these labels is more profound for me than the fact we are both Southern. Sweet tea runs in our blood, in fact is our blood…What I understand to be true, a lot of your critics don’t…which is, as Southerners our ancestors co-created the food and hospitality and manners which you were born to 66 years ago and I, thirty-six. In the words of scholar Mechal Sobel, this was “a world they made together,” but beyond that, it is a world we make together. So I speak to you as a fellow Southerner, a cousin if you will, not as a combatant.
To be part of the national surprise towards you saying the word “nigger” in the past (I am a cultural and culinary historian and so therefore I am using the word within context…) is at best naïve and at worst, an attempt to hide the pervasiveness of racism, specifically anti-Black racism in certain currents of American culture—not just Southern. Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father. That Cheerio’s had to shut down the comments section says that the idea of inter-human relationships outside of one’s color bracket is for many hiding behind a computer screen—a sign of the apocalypse. So just like those old spaghetti sauce ads, yes, America, racism—“it’s in there” even when we were prefer it not be.
When you said, “of course,” I wasn’t flabbergasted, I was rather, relieved…In fact we Black Southerners have an underground saying, “better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…” but Paula I knew what you meant, and I knew where you were coming from. I’m not defending that or saying its right—because it’s that word—and the same racist venom that drove my grandparents into the Great Migration almost 70 years ago. I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate. Power in language is not a one way street. Obviously I am not encouraging you to use the word further, but I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear. No sound bite can begin to peel back the layers of this issue.
Some have said you are not a racist. Sorry, I don’t believe that…I am more of the Avenue Q type—everybody’s—you guessed it—a little bit racist. This is nothing to be proud of no more than we are proud of our other sins and foibles. It’s something we should work against. It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism or even get over strings of negative experiences we’ve had with groups outside of our own. We have a really lousy language—and I don’t just mean because we took a Spanish and Portuguese word (negro) and turned into the most recognizable racial slur on earth…in any language…because we have a million and one ways to hate, disdain, prejudge, discriminate and yet we hide behind a few paltry words like racism, bigotry, prejudice when we damn well know that we have thousands of words for cars—because we LOVE cars….and food—because we LOVE food—and yet in this language you and I share, how we break down patterns of thought that lead to social discord like racism, are sorely lacking. We are a cleaver people at hiding our obsessions with downgrading the other.
Problem two…I want you to understand that I am probably more angry about the cloud of smoke this fiasco has created for other issues surrounding race and Southern food. To be real, you using the word “nigger” a few times in the past does nothing to destroy my world. It may make me sigh for a few minutes in resentment and resignation, but I’m not shocked or wounded. No victim here. Systemic racism in the world of Southern food and public discourse not your past epithets are what really piss me off. There is so much press and so much activity around Southern food and yet the diversity of people of color engaged in this art form and telling and teaching its history and giving it a future are often passed up or disregarded. Gentrification in our cities, the lack of attention to Southern food deserts often inhabited by the non-elites that aren’t spoken about, the ignorance and ignoring of voices beyond a few token Black cooks/chefs or being called on to speak to our issues as an afterthought is what gets me mad. In the world of Southern food, we are lacking a diversity of voices and that does not just mean Black people—or Black perspectives! We are surrounded by culinary injustice where some Southerners take credit for things that enslaved Africans and their descendants played key roles in innovating. Barbecue, in my lifetime, may go the way of the Blues and the banjo….a relic of our culture that whisps away. That tragedy rooted in the unwillingness to give African American barbecue masters and other cooks an equal chance at the platform is far more galling than you saying “nigger,” in childhood ignorance or emotional rage or social whimsy.
Culinary injustice is what you get where you go to plantation museums and enslaved Blacks are not even talked about, but called servants. We are invisible. Visitors come from all over to marvel at the architecture and wallpaper and windowpanes but forget the fact that many of those houses were built by enslaved African Americans or that the food that those plantations were renowned for came from Black men and Black women truly slaving away in the detached kitchens. Imagine how I, a culinary historian and living history interpreter feel during some of these tours where my ancestors are literally annihilated and whisked away to the corners of those rooms, dying multiple deaths of anonymity and cultural amnesia. I’m so tired of reading about how “okra” is an “African word.”(For land’s sake ya know “apple” isn’t a “European word…” its an English word that comes from German like okra comes from Igbo and Twi!) I am so tired of seeing people of African descent relegated to the tertiary status when even your pal Alton Brown has said, it was enslaved Black people cooking the food. Culinary injustice is the annihilation of our food voices—past, present and foreseeable future—and nobody will talk about that like they are talking about you and the “n word.” For shame.
You see Paula, your grits may not be like mine, but one time I saw you make hoecakes on your show and I never heard tell of where them hoecakes really came from. Now not to compare apples and oranges but when I was a boy it was a great pleasure to hear Nathalie Dupree talk about how beaten biscuits and country captain and gumbo started. More often than not, she gave a nod to my ancestors. Don’t forget that the Southern food you have been crowned the queen of was made into an art largely in the hands of enslaved cooks, some like the ones who prepared food on your ancestor’s Georgia plantation. You, just like me cousin, stand squarely on what late playwright August Wilson called, “the self defining ground of the slave quarter.” There and in the big house kitchen, Africa, Europe and Native America(s) melded and became a fluid genre of world cuisine known as Southern food. Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa.
Don’t be fooled by the claims that Black people don’t watch you. We’ve been watching you. We all have opinions about you. You were at one point sort of like our Bill Clinton. (You know the first Black president?) When G. Garvin and the Neely’s and the elusive B Smith (who they LOVED to put on late on Saturday nights or early Sunday mornings!) were few and far between, you were our sorta soul mama, the white lady with the gadonkadonk and the sass and the signifying who gave us a taste of the Old Country-which is for us—the former Confederacy and just beyond. Furthermore, as a male who practices an “alternative lifestyle” (and by the way I am using that phrase in bitter sarcastic irony), it goes without saying that many of my brothers have been you for Halloween, and you are right up there with Dolly Parton, Dixie Carter and Tallullah Bankhead of old as one of the muses of the Southern gay male imagination. We don’t despise you, we don’t even think you made America fat. We think you are a businesswoman who has made some mistakes, has character flaws like everybody else and in fact is now a scapegoat. I find it hard to be significantly angry at you when during the last election the re-disenfranchisement of the Negro—like something from the time of W.E.B. Du Bois was a national cause celebre. Hell, today the voting rights act was gutted and I’m sure many think this is a serious win for “democracy.” If I want to be furious about something racial—well America—get real—we’ve had a good twelve years of really really rich material that the National media has set aside to talk about Paula Deen. Yes Paula, in light of all these things, you are the ultimate, consummate racist, and the one who made us fat, and the reason why American food sucks and ……you don’t believe that any more than I do.
A fellow Georgian of yours once said that one day the “sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down at the table of brotherhood.” Well no better time than now. Paula, I don’t have to tell you redemption is yours to choose, to have and to embrace. As a Jew, I extend the invitation to do teshuvah—which means to repent—but better—to return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace. You used food to rescue your life, your family and your destiny. I admire that. I know that I have not always made good choices and to be honest none of us are perfect. This is an opportunity to grow and renew.
If there is anything The Cooking Gene has taught me—its about the art of reconciliation. We aren’t happy with you right now. Then again some of the things you have said or have been accused of saying aren’t surprising. In so many ways, that’s the more unfortunate aspect. We are resigned to believe and understand that our neighbor is to be suspected before respected. It doesn’t have to be this way, and it doesn’t have to go on forever. As a species we cannot conduct ourselves in this manner. As creations of the Living G-d, we are commanded to be better. You and I are both the descendants of people who lived, fought, died, suffered so that we could be better in our own time. I’m disappointed but I’m not heartless. And better yet, praise G-d I ain’t hopeless.
If you aren’t busy on September 7, and I surely doubt that you are not busy—I would like to invite you to a gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation. We are doing a fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, a North Carolina Historic Site. One of the largest in fact, much larger than the one owned by your great-grandfather’s in Georgia. 30,000 acres once upon a time with 900 enslaved African Americans working the land over time. They grew tobacco, corn, wheat and cotton. I want you to walk the grounds with me, go into the cabins, and most of all I want you to help me cook. Everything is being prepared using locally sourced food, half of which we hope will come from North Carolina’s African American farmers who so desperately need our support. Everything will be cooked according to 19th century methods. So September 7, 2013, if you’re brave enough, let’s bake bread and break bread together at Historic Stagville. This isn’t publicity this is opportunity. Leave the cameras at home. Don’t worry, it’s cool, nobody will harm you if you’re willing to walk to the Mourner’s Bench. Better yet, I’ll be there right with you.
G-d Bless,
Culinary Historian, Food Writer and Living History Interpreter
Michael W. Twitty
For a link to a video of the event Paula missed: click here.
For a link to the MAD Symposium video where I talk about culinary justice and injustice: click here.

Dear Michael – my admiration for you (I suspect) is only beginning based on this wonderful, elevated response to some of our collective illnesses – racism, fascination w/the the underbelly of the rich and famous, etc. – but I would like to bring a different perspective to this discussion. As a practitioner of medicine, minority health advocate, heart disease and stroke orphan, and social justice mediator, I would add one request to your brilliant invitation to Ms. Deen. I would LOVE for both of you to work together to make those fabulous dishes that our ancestors could metabolically afford due to their forced labor more appropriate for us in THIS day and age. We as a people are suffering an epidemic of obesity and heart disease that take much greater toll on our Black communities, robbing us of our wisest elders and family leaders. And yes, Ms. Deen, diabetes IS heart disease! Raised on weekend BBQd ribs as a child, I now battle the cholesterol and heart disease risk that took my dad too soon from a world that sorely needs his brilliance even decades after he passed (and his 10 sisters, all from the same early cardiovascular disease) in the middle of his PhD program. I urge you both to join me in reducing those risks and obesity rates (where the South HAS risen again as leader) that cost us all so much more in precious national healthcare dollars, cultural decline and the much-needed leadership so often decried as missing in our communities of color. What if you worked TOGETHER to keep the rich flavors, the savory textures, the complex traditions in the foods, but help to reduce the risks they convey? What if you worked together (and I’m volunteering) to help mentor us all into a more holistic and sustainable food tradition – one that protects the heart you have so eloquently shown in your letter and helps reverse the diabetes from which Ms. Deen suffers. I have a terrific library and lots of suggestions on how to deal with our racist culture, will continue to fight for HUMAN rights till my last breath, but I can’t cook like you two! Teach us, Mr. Whitty, (and Ms. Deen) and yourself to be more healthy – we need your voices of reconciliation and leadership at such a tumultuous time in our nation’s history. As a nation, we need to stop trying to police and compel the rest of the world and start leading by example. Thanks, Michael – Leslie
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Fantastic advice—and we can do it!
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What isn’t addressed here is that she didn’t use her choice vocabulary “sometime in the past.” That’s buying into her cop-out. She used it recently, in the workplace, in front of someone of color. (If she’d used it in front of me, who’s unfortunately without a whole lot of color, I would have found it equally offensive, but that’s another story.)
Until you address the issue of a hostile workplace, the rest of the discussion is interesting, but irrelevant.
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Sharon you raise a good point. I believe for many of us the legal issues are one part but so are cultural issues around food which for many are critically important.
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Susan refreshingly points out the elephant many of us see in the room. A hostile workplace is not a legal issue. It is an issue of misery and tragic human suffering for which the legal system offers remedies, albeit mediocre ones.
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This is an absolutely beautiful piece! Just so thoughtful and wonderfully constructed. Your essay should precede any story involving this incident. And thank you for mentioning Natalie DuPree – I so enjoyed her.
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Hi Michael,
I respect your insight on the matter, I’m a white woman a few years older than you who’s never lived in the South. While I can appreciate the perspective that the enslaved blacks do not get the credit they deserve in crafting the culinary heritage of the South, and that Ms. Deen is perhaps a big proponent of denying black chefs their due, I think this is only a very small part of her issues that are her undoing.
I’m in the food industry here in Arizona and have heard a lot of chefs say they’ve lost total respect for her because of, well-her absolute stupidity and not the admission of using the N word. The plantation wedding, the expletive-laced ‘blooper reel’, the chocolate éclair?? You do that kind of stuff and there’s going to be consequences.
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I have a question for you, and please forgive my ignorance, but what did you mean by
“better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…”
I live in the North, but was born in the South (Beaufort, S.C.) and am curious what you mean by this. It is not my intention to start a flame war, or be a troll, or anything of that nature; it is an honest question.
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Thank you, that was our grandparents way of saying prejudice was all over but at least when it was overt and clear you knew what was safe and what wasn’t.
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I like you. And when I get to hear you speak I am certain it will turn to love.
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You brought up so many sides of this issue that I had never even thought of. Having grown up in the south, I’ve always felt a constant tension between loving my roots, but knowing the dirty history that comes with them. You have so clearly articulated that tension better than I think I’ve ever been able to even think through. If only mainstream media stretched people’s thinking in the way you have here, think of how far along our country could be. I am so grateful you took the time to write this piece and I agree with Cat Beatty about the meaning of a person being what is in their heart. Let’s hope Paula’s heart brings her to your event. What better time for her to come to the table to break some bread.
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Thank you for this lively and well spoken briefing regarding Paula Deen and the heritage of real Southern cooking. In the age of Jiffy cornbread, microwave dinners, and imitation gumbo mix, I found your historical references refreshing and astounding. As far as the racial comments, Paula Deen is a white woman from the South; how did Americans, Smithfield and the Food Network overlook that fact. She didn’t insult or offend me. She irritated the hell out of me when she recanted. Just keep it real huntee!
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This is wonderful thank you! I hope you have seen the African American heritage cookbook by Tilley referencing the food of early Tuskegee. L. Washington
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Michael, your words and heart are exquisite.
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the most informed, intelligent, well written article I have read yet on the whole Paula Deen storm.. I hope Ms. Deen takes you up on your offer.
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Excellent and thought provoking perspective. Thank you!
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I am so moved by this. You are a shining light amongst us.
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Michael – You are not only brilliant but seemingly sympathatic to Paula – I am exceedingly upset at the food netork for being soo narrow minded. After reading this all one has to do is use commonsense to realize that Most of the foods in American had their start in other countries. I heard on radio the actual text between Paula and the attornies and if my understanding of American is accurate it’s the attornies that made Paula out to be a racist – she was taling about one thing and they tried to and did twist her words into another realm, Please publicly read out to Paula.,
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Reblogged this on The Food Pervert and commented:
Good Read.
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Michael, I was very impressed with the even-handedness of your comments. You addressed an unpleasant issue with grace and courage, and you have my sincere thanks for breathing some reason and understanding into this charged situation. Coming as I do from one of the most viciously segregated cities in the US, Detroit, Michigan, I have seen racism all my life. What I see in the Paula Deen “scandal” is a bunch of people punishing her for admitting that she is a product of her generation – a Southern woman raised in the 1950s. Too many closet racists are the first to attack those who admit to such a background – to paraphrase Shakespeare, the ladies and gentlemen “doth protest too much”. Possibly because if they yell loud enough about someone else, no one will notice their actions do not reflect their words.
As for “the n-word” personally, I don’t use it. I’ve had Black friends who thought nothing of using it, and others who were horribly offended by it, no matter who used it. I have seen the word used to excuse violence and to provoke violence. I once dated a white man who insisted that the word was not offensive and was never intended to be offensive and anyone who thought it offensive was being oversensitive. (I did not agree, but then he also thought Ayn Rand was right so his worldview was obviously skewed badly.) I’ve also had Black and white acquaintances who thought nothing of using “Redskin” to slur Native Americans (which I personally find offensive as a person with Native American roots) and various slurs for Latinos, Jews and Muslims, but were offended if “the n-word” was used. So sometimes, it depends on “whose ox is being gored”.
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Thank you Michael for this wonderful piece. I just finished a great book by Eric Deggans titled “Race Baiter” earlier today, which points out the subtle racism–which seems to be the most dangerous type–that exist in our media-driven culture. His book coupled with your post has taught me quite a bit about the faults that exist in our society–faults that I once thought we had already overcome. Please keep writing and educate as many people as possible. We are too fearful in today’s politically correct environment to discuss issues of race, when, in fact, it is the very conversation we need to be having with one another
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This was so well written that. We grew up in a household where the n word was the norm. I grew up and became a mom to two biracial children which tore my family up and made me the literal black sheep of the family. To this day I mail my “family” movies books and literature on biracial families. Oh then wrote a book and “came out” and made sure the book was placed in the small town library from which my family came. The only bad thing about this piece …you made me hungry…Lisa flint church point la
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Michael….such wise, beautiful, eloquent words….thank you…….
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Thank you for your thoughtful and context-laden (& I mean that in a GOOD way) open letter. I was disappointed by Deen’s racial epithets, and I would have welcomed a heartfelt apology from her. What has troubled me most, however, is the apparent lack of her insight into the effect of using racial slurs as she continued to say she thinks it’s OK to use them in jokes that are “not mean.” Sorry, Paula–can’t continue to support you.
You, however, Mr. Twitty, are my new hero.
Sheryl Warren
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This was beautifully written.
and something Nathalie Dupree wrote – about thinking she understands how people feel and thus making mistakes about people – reminds me of this brilliant section of a commencement speech given by John Green – because whenever I find myself automatically smugly (or self righteously) believing I know a people or a person – I flash on this and I have to take a step back. I don’t try to rethink that belief, i just let it go and be open to their possibilities of experience/feeling. because the awareness of my mistake, doesn’t mean i can then think “if i just adjust this thinking and rework it, I’ll understand them/him/her correctly and THEN i’ll be right and ‘get it’ ” –
his retelling of this story just causes bright starbursts of truth, as vague as that is, in me.
i’m sorry this is a long quote:
“And lastly, be vigilant in the struggle toward empathy. A couple years after I graduated from college, I was living in an apartment in Chicago with four friends, one of whom was this Kuwaiti guy named Hassan, and when the U.S. invaded Iraq, Hassan lost touch with his family, who lived on the border, for six weeks. He responded to this stress by watching cable news coverage of the war 24 hours a day. So the only way to hang out with Hassan was to sit on the couch with him, and so one day we were watching the news and the anchor was like, “We’re getting new footage from the city of Baghdad,” and a camera panned across a house that had a huge hole in one wall covered by a piece of plywood. On the plywood was Arabic graffiti scrawled in black spraypaint, and as the news anchor talked about the anger on the Arab street or whatever, Hassan started laughing for the first time in several weeks.
“What’s so funny?” I asked him.
“The graffiti,” he said.
“What’s funny about it?”
“It says, Happy Birthday, Sir, Despite the Circumstances.”
For the rest of your life, you are going to have a choice about how to read graffiti in a language you do not know, and you will have a choice about how to read the actions and intonations of the people you meet. I would encourage you as often as possible to consider the Happy Birthday Sir Despite the Circumstances possibility, the possibility that the lives and experiences of others are as complex and unpredictable as your own, that other people—be they family or strangers, near or far—are not simply one thing or the other—not simply good or evil or wise or ignorant—but that they like you contain multitudes, to borrow a phrase from the great Walt Whitman.
This is difficult to do—it is difficult to remember that people with lives different and distant from your own even celebrate birthdays, let alone with gifts of graffitied plywood. You will always be stuck inside of your body, with your consciousness, seeing through the world through your own eyes, but the gift and challenge of your education is to see others as they see themselves, to grapple with this mean and crazy and beautiful world in all its baffling complexity. We haven’t left you with the easiest path, I know, but I have every confidence in you, and I wish you a very happy graduation, despite the circumstances..”
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love it!
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Why is the “O” left out of God?
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Many jews feel it is not correct for spell out (and thus say in print) the name of G-d.
I’m not one of them, but many feel that way. Some also use the word “Hashem” instead. It is more casual and allowed to be spelled out.
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:)Toda Raba
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Hashem means ‘the name” in Hebrew.
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Well-written and thought provoking. You have brought a different perspective on the issue. Thank you.
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Beautiful! Can I come on Sept 7th, too? I probably can’t cook as well as you but it still sounds amazing!
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I loved this. Thank you.
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Provocative and so eloquent. Everyone deserves a chance to repent. I think some of the shock has happened because PD didn’t handle this well. Of course, it’s a difficult situation. She needs a way to come out of this. You have given us all much to think about on so many levels. Bravo.
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Hey Michael, do me a favor and consider using produce from a native farmer or a white farmer or a Hispanic farmer at your shindig too. Many of these farmers have tough times, too.
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Rest assured a diverse group of farmers will be included along w African American ones!
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I am a Northerner and I have never experienced bitterness and hatred so severe as I did the many many times I was in the south. It made me sick to my stomach. My husband and I were treated poorly every where we went except for North Carolina. If we went to a restaurant, they never returned to wait on us once they picked up on our northern accent. We could not even get a cup of coffee in a fine restaurant. I will never believe northerners are not good people and are not friends of our black neighbors. Why then are southerners intolerable of white northerners when they visit them down south? I believe it is because they still do not realize the Civil War is over and that they lost. They are the losers because they cannot let go of hatred and bitterness. The word (one I don’t think should be in any language) nigger is not about blacks, but about peoples intolerance of each other on any level. I love this country and it’s people and pray every day everyone will come together as one as God wants us to. THAT is the only way. I wish you all the success and happiness life has to offer. You sound like a beautiful person and I wish I could write as eloquently as you. God Bless
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This is actually a great example of what he is saying in this beautifully written piece, everyone is a little prejudice. I admit, being from south Mississippi I was a little upset when I originally read your comment. Then I realized that what you said is probably true. Personally, there is only one northerner that I have ever been rude to. That is the one that approached me and said “Oh my! I did not realize there were indoor restrooms in Mississippi! I thought this state was still using outhouses!” No lie. This guy really said that to my face. I do realize that not all northerners are like this. It goes to show you that everyone place and every race has their stereotype. I know someone that recently moved to Mississippi from NC, and they are the absolute most racist person that I know. I refuse to have anything to do with him anymore.
I think the problem with the world is that we are all too focused on “me.” We do not care if we step on other people’s toes or not. If we focused a little more on “you” the world would be a better place.
And I am very proud to say that I am from south Mississippi and quite a few of my good friend are black, as well as the woman I refer to as “my second momma.” People: black, white, north, south, none of that matters! Good is good and bad is bad. Your color or demographics has nothing to do with it, it is what is inside.
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Michael, It is so fine to find a voice of reason in this storm. I have visited a few historic plantations and heard the docents tell of the grand things the plantation owners did. I always Raise my voice and say the the plantation owner directed that these things be done but that it was always accomplished by enslaved people who remain nameless and faceless. So many gourmet foods today started out as slave food made from throwaway portions of the food for the owner’s table.
You are doing a fine work. Tank you.
Ross Hill
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Michael, I must say you are a mensch.
When ever I hear about anti semitism or hatred of others because of race, religion sexual preference and any other reason, I think of the song from South Pacific…..
“You’ve Got To Be Carefully Taught,” (Lyrics from South Pacific.)
You’ve got to be taught to hate and fear,
You’ve got to be taught from year to year,
It’s got to be drummed in your dear little ear,
You’ve got to be carefully taught.
You’ve got to be taught to be afraid
Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
And people whose skin is a diff’rent shade,
You’ve got to be carefully taught.
You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late,
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate,
You’ve got to be carefully taught!
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Bravo Zulu! Well done! Well written and a great read as well. Martha Stewart went PRISON for insider trading with a degree in finance (like she didn’t know!). She ends up back on top! Hopefully Paula can weather the tumultuous roar of the press and networks.While I am not saying it’s right or acceptable, I would challenge ANYONE from our generation to not have some jiggling bones dancing in THEIR closets! After all, we survived the 60’s & 70’s
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Eloquent, relevant and wise. You offered what the media could not – thoughtful discourse on the wider issue instead of mere sensationalism.
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Thoughtful discourse. Yes! More of this, please.
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You make some excellent points Michael! While I’m sad that the Paula Deen controversy is what it is, you highlight very succinctly some key issues that need be addressed and people need to better understand, hell — need to accept the problem to begin with — rather than look the other way. I too am so happy to have discovered you and your path, I will be following. Best of luck to you. The Historic Stagville event on Sept 7 sounds fantastic! What an awesome project!
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Michael,
Your words are the most thoughtful I have read since this whole storm began.
I do hope she takes you up on your offer, what a healing blessing it would be.
And I had no idea that the book on Southern jewish cooking existed – I can’t wait to read it! My mom was raised in a small southern Ohio town where they attended temple – but also made and canned pickled peaches and ate fried mush. It does happen : )
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You know those amazing and almost unbelievable stories about a parent who forgives and then develops a heart-felt bond and relationship with the killer of one of her children? This is like that. Outstanding.
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I loved your article. I was raised in a comfortable white family with a black housekeeper named Anna Mary Bosby. I spent many, many hours in the kitchen quietly learning to cook by just watching and listening to her. I’ve passed on as much of her knowledge as possible to my kids, they never knew her or even of her but her cooking will live on forever through me and my children.
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Very, very moving. This ol’ Southern gal thanks you for writing it.
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winks back!
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This is a beautiful piece, Michael. Thanks for sharing your talents so generously. Very compelling, I shared it with my husband and he loved it too.
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This was a beautiful heartfelt response. Thank you for writing it. Being an African American, first generation Northerner, my kneejerk reaction was, “Good. More for us!” or like Ludacris said, “Move, B*tch get out the way!” Because for every Paula Deen show, there are a hundred excellent African American cooks who were pushed out of the cooking prime time arena. Im glad you were able to explain this incident from a Southerners perspective. All the Best to you. Thank you for sharing this piece.
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I can’t show any sympathy toward Paula. At the deposition, she revealed a pattern of behavior that shows her “private” attitudes have spilled over into her professional life and manifested themselves as having a destructive impact on the people working for her – namely the waitstaff and other restaurant workers who have had to endure ongoing abusive language and treatment by her and her brother because Paula is so arrogant as to think that kind of behavior is funny and harmless and cute.
Paula is no sheltered little southern lady, she’s worldly and well-traveled enough to know better but chooses not to. That takes malice and meanness. Again, she gets no sympathy from me and she deserves to be hoisted on her own ugly petard.
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It isn’t about what she deserves. It is about forgiveness.
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Mr . Twitty , I feel somewhat guilty in telling you that until I read your letter this evening, I had never heard of you. Needless to say after reading this you have gained a fan for life. Inspiring and informative an amazing piece of writing. Your remarkable and I so hope that Paula joins you in Sept. So eloquent , what a beautiful soul you have!
Thank you so much,
Kate Floyd, Gerald,MO.
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Very well written. A very small point on ” bad” words, there is the “N” word, and in this post you have written G_d bless. Is it so hard to write God Bless and not have to worry about offending someone? I am not condoning using derogatory words to describe people individually or as a whole.
By the way I have just bookmarked your blog.
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Hi there, its just Jewish custom to not profane the Lord’s name. Thank you 🙂
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And yes, it is my understanding that writing G_d or saying “the name” is a way to honor what (who?) cannot be described in one name. Michael your piece is wonderful and very important for all to hear. I believe there is racism in all of us, or at least I know there is some in me. I don’t like it, but it’s there and I hope that if I’m aware, then I’ll be a better person. Peace to you. Lynn
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Peace to you!
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What a wonderful post. Thank you!
My parents would be in their 80’s if they were still with us. With their generation, there was/is a lot of bias ‘just because’ that’s how it was. My dad was from Chicago though. He lived and worked (Navy too) in multi-racial, mutli-cultural places. My mom though, was as Southern as they come. From old families in Mississippi and Tennessee. They raised me in Florida though, a real melting pot. I used to joke that my schools were half white, half black and half Cuban, simply because it was difficult to see a majority or minority. I didn’t inherit their prejudice. Meaning, I see the racism and prejudice when it is around me, and I did not inherit their cultural blindness to it… not all kids are fortunate this way.
Neither of my folks were haters. They were really nice folks, but they were raised segregated and that’s hard to overcome. The difference? My ‘yankee’ dad saw the need to try more. You could tell that he was uncomfortable with being uncomfortable because of where he was from, and because of his life and work experience. It showed him the effects of his segregated upbringing. He saw the problem. My mom… like Ms. Deen… I don’t think she ever really ‘got it’. She would swear up and down she wasn’t prejudiced, but she simply didn’t see the separation as the biased segregation that it is. She honestly didn’t understand. She wasn’t stupid. I don’t think Ms. Deen is either. She was just a product of her cultural upbringing, and ‘being separate’ was just the way it’s always been done.
I’m not excusing it, it’s still very shameful and ignorance is NO excuse, but I can see where it comes from and I can see why Ms Deen looks so very hurt and genuinely confused. What has she done that others, of both races, haven’t? At home, school? Church? Work? I feel sorry for her. It seems that somebody shoved a mirror in her face and showed her something nobody else has ever done before. The anger I feel about this issue is directed at the culture that allows this sort of thing to happen. It continues to steep itself, and current generations, in the same ignorance. And ignorance is not bliss…
Keep pushing towards the future Mr Twitty, as you work to save our past!
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As a southerner from TN, I am awed by your words, your wisdom, your soulfulness and your generosity. “May we all teshuvah—repent—but even better, return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace.” You have just cast a healing ripple through our world.
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It will interesting to see if she accepts this opportunity to make a statement. This is an interesting take on things. Hum………
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While I respect and enjoyed your writings, I can’t for the life of me understand why you won’t completely spell out God.
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Ty! It’s Jewish.custom
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Thank you, thank you, thank you! For what you have written and how you have answered peoples question in your blog! Looks like you didn’t sleep and kept people thinking all night long. Thank you for your honest, thoughtful, words.
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I wanted to ask that as well, glad you already answered. This is a beautiful article and I would like to thank the person who ‘linked’ to it!.
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Michael,
You have the soul of Ghandi. Truly privileged to know you thru this letter.
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Reblogged this on DIANABUJA'S BLOG: Africa, the Middle East, Agriculture, History & Culture and commented:
Chef and food historian Michael Twitty’s penetrating letter to a southern racist:
“…Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa…
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Great going Michael! I’ve reblogged to mine, and do congratulate you on such a thoughtful and penetrating letter!
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We at Afroculinaria love you Diana!
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Merci, Michael! 🙂
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Good essay! I expressed a similar view on http://www.gulfcoastgourmetredux.com
The book talks about our French, Spanish and Italian ancestors. No mention is made of our African ancestors and their food traditions. A modern reader would note that the book was written in Alabama just before the struggle for civil rights for black Americans exploded onto our black and white television screens.
That reader would be wrong. I believe that the mighty contributions black Southerners have made to our southern food culture are such a huge part of that culture that we did not see those contributions distinct from who we are, how we cooked and what we ate. She wrote that the dishes of other cultures were “made individual by the American skill of using imaginatively whatever was at hand.” I suspect a lot of that skill was at the hands of black men and women. Unfortunately those professional cooks who developed many of these dishes two or three hundred years ago were slaves. Fortunately we have the benefit of their work and can be thankful for that.
Our sensibilities are more heightened now. It is easier to understand and appreciate the distinctive contributions my fellow Southerners who are descended from black Africans made to my culture.
In food, language and attitude, I am much closer to my fellow black Southerners than I am to most of the rest of the nation. It is a fact of which I am proud.
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I love the way you put all of this–please please be in touch!
Koshersoul@gmail.com
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