An Open Letter to Paula Deen:

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Photo Courtesy of: Johnathan M. Lewis

Dear Paula Deen,

So it’s been a tough week for you… believe me you I know something about tough weeks being a beginning food writer and lowly culinary historian.  Of course honey, I’d kill for one of your worst days as I could rest myself on the lanai, the veranda, the portico (okay that was really tongue in cheek), the porch..whatever…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free.  First Food Network now Smithfield.  (Well not so mad about Smithfield—not the most ethical place to shill for, eh, Paula?)

I am currently engaged in a project I began in 2011 called The Cooking Gene Project—my goal to examine family and food history as the descendant of Africans, Europeans and Native Americans—enslaved people and enslavers—from Africa to America and from Slavery to Freedom.  You and I are both human, we are both Americans, we are both quite “healthily” built, and yet none of these labels is more profound for me than the fact we are both Southern.  Sweet tea runs in our blood, in fact is our blood…What I understand to be true, a lot of your critics don’t…which is, as Southerners our ancestors co-created the food and hospitality and manners which you were born to 66 years ago and I, thirty-six.  In the words of scholar Mechal Sobel, this was “a world they made together,” but beyond that, it is a world we make together.  So I speak to you as a fellow Southerner, a cousin if you will, not as a combatant.

To be part of the national surprise towards you saying the word “nigger” in the past (I am a cultural and culinary historian and so therefore I am using the word within context…) is at best naïve and at worst, an attempt to hide the pervasiveness of racism, specifically anti-Black racism in certain currents of American culture—not just Southern.  Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father.  That Cheerio’s had to shut down the comments section says that the idea of inter-human relationships outside of one’s color bracket is for many hiding behind a computer screen—a sign of the apocalypse.  So just like those old spaghetti sauce ads, yes, America, racism—“it’s in there” even when we were prefer it not be.

When you said, “of course,” I wasn’t flabbergasted, I was rather, relieved…In fact we Black Southerners have an underground saying, “better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…” but Paula I knew what you meant, and I knew where you were coming from.  I’m not defending that or saying its right—because it’s that word—and the same racist venom that drove my grandparents into the Great Migration almost 70 years ago. I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate.  Power in language is not a one way street.  Obviously I am not encouraging you to use the word further, but I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear.  No sound bite can begin to peel back the layers of this issue.

Some have said you are not a racist.  Sorry, I don’t believe that…I am more of the Avenue Q type—everybody’s—you guessed it—a little bit racist.  This is nothing to be proud of no more than we are proud of our other sins and foibles.  It’s something we should work against.  It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism or even get over strings of negative experiences we’ve had with groups outside of our own.  We have a really lousy language—and I don’t just mean because we took a Spanish and Portuguese word (negro) and turned into the most recognizable racial slur on earth…in any language…because we have a million and one ways to hate, disdain, prejudge, discriminate and yet we hide behind a few paltry words like racism, bigotry, prejudice when we damn well know that we have thousands of words for cars—because we LOVE cars….and food—because we LOVE food—and yet in this language you and I share, how we break down patterns of thought that lead to social discord like racism, are sorely lacking.  We are a cleaver people at hiding our obsessions with downgrading the other.

Problem two…I want you to understand that I am probably more angry about the cloud of smoke this fiasco has created for other issues surrounding race and Southern food.  To be real, you using the word “nigger” a few times in the past does nothing to destroy my world.  It may make me sigh for a few minutes in resentment and resignation, but I’m not shocked or wounded.  No victim here.  Systemic racism in the world of Southern food and public discourse not your past epithets are what really piss me off.  There is so much press and so much activity around Southern food and yet the diversity of people of color engaged in this art form and telling and teaching its history and giving it a future are often passed up or disregarded.  Gentrification in our cities, the lack of attention to Southern food deserts often inhabited by the non-elites that aren’t spoken about, the ignorance and ignoring of voices beyond a few token Black cooks/chefs or being called on to speak to our issues as an afterthought is what gets me mad. In the world of Southern food, we are lacking a diversity of voices and that does not just mean Black people—or Black perspectives!  We are surrounded by culinary injustice where some Southerners take credit for things that enslaved Africans and their descendants played key roles in innovating.  Barbecue, in my lifetime, may go the way of the Blues and the banjo….a relic of our culture that whisps away.  That tragedy rooted in the unwillingness to give African American barbecue masters and other cooks an equal chance at the platform is far more galling than you saying “nigger,” in childhood ignorance or emotional rage or social whimsy.

Culinary injustice is what you get where you go to plantation museums and enslaved Blacks are not even talked about, but called servants.  We are invisible.  Visitors come from all over to marvel at the architecture and wallpaper and windowpanes but forget the fact that many of those houses were built by enslaved African Americans or that the food that those plantations were renowned for came from Black men and Black women truly slaving away in the detached kitchens.  Imagine how I, a culinary historian and living history interpreter feel during some of these tours where my ancestors are literally annihilated and whisked away to the corners of those rooms, dying multiple deaths of anonymity and cultural amnesia.  I’m so tired of reading about how “okra” is an “African word.”(For land’s sake ya know “apple” isn’t a “European word…” its an English word that comes from German like okra comes from Igbo and Twi!) I am so tired of seeing people of African descent relegated to the tertiary status when even your pal Alton Brown has said, it was enslaved Black people cooking the food.  Culinary injustice is the annihilation of our food voices—past, present and foreseeable future—and nobody will talk about that like they are talking about you and the “n word.” For shame.

You see Paula, your grits may not be like mine, but one time I saw you make hoecakes on your show and I never heard tell of where them hoecakes really came from.  Now not to compare apples and oranges but when I was a boy it was a great pleasure to hear Nathalie Dupree talk about how beaten biscuits and country captain and gumbo started.    More often than not, she gave a nod to my ancestors.  Don’t forget that the Southern food you have been crowned the queen of was made into an art largely in the hands of enslaved cooks, some like the ones who prepared food on your ancestor’s Georgia plantation.  You, just like me cousin, stand squarely on what late playwright August Wilson called, “the self defining ground of the slave quarter.”  There and in the big house kitchen, Africa, Europe and Native America(s) melded and became a fluid genre of world cuisine known as Southern food.  Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa.

Don’t be fooled by the claims that Black people don’t watch you.  We’ve been watching you.  We all have opinions about you.  You were at one point sort of like our Bill Clinton. (You know the first Black president?)   When G. Garvin and the Neely’s and the elusive B Smith (who they LOVED to put on late on Saturday nights or early Sunday mornings!) were few and far between, you were our sorta soul mama, the white lady with the gadonkadonk and the sass and the signifying who gave us a taste of the Old Country-which is for us—the former Confederacy and just beyond.  Furthermore, as a male who practices an “alternative lifestyle” (and by the way I am using that phrase in bitter sarcastic irony), it goes without saying that many of my brothers have been you for Halloween, and you are right up there with Dolly Parton, Dixie Carter and Tallullah Bankhead of old as one of the muses of the Southern gay male imagination.  We don’t despise you, we don’t even think you made America fat.  We think you are a businesswoman who has made some mistakes, has character flaws like everybody else and in fact is now a scapegoat.  I find it hard to be significantly angry at you when during the last election the re-disenfranchisement of the Negro—like something from the time of W.E.B. Du Bois was a national cause celebre. Hell, today the voting rights act was gutted and I’m sure many think this is a serious win for “democracy.”  If  I want to be furious about something racial—well America—get real—we’ve had a good twelve years of really really rich material that the National media has set aside to talk about Paula Deen.  Yes Paula,  in light of all these things, you are the ultimate, consummate racist, and the one who made us fat, and the reason why American food sucks and ……you don’t believe that any more than I do. 

A fellow Georgian of yours once said that one day the “sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down at the table of brotherhood.”  Well no better time than now.  Paula, I don’t have to tell you redemption is yours to choose, to have and to embrace.  As a Jew, I extend the invitation to do teshuvah—which means to repent—but better—to return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace.  You used food to rescue your life, your family and your destiny.  I admire that.  I know that I have not always made good choices and to be honest none of us are perfect.  This is an opportunity to grow and renew.

If there is anything The Cooking Gene has taught me—its about the art of reconciliation.  We aren’t happy with you right now.  Then again some of the things you have said or have been accused of saying aren’t surprising.  In so many ways, that’s the more unfortunate aspect.  We are resigned to believe and understand that our neighbor is to be suspected before respected.  It doesn’t have to be this way, and it doesn’t have to go on forever.  As a species we cannot conduct ourselves in this manner.  As creations of the Living G-d, we are commanded to be better.  You and I are both the descendants of people who lived, fought, died, suffered so that we could be better in our own time.  I’m disappointed but I’m not heartless.  And better yet, praise G-d I ain’t hopeless.

If you aren’t busy on September 7, and I surely doubt that you are not busy—I would like to invite you to a gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation.  We are doing a fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, a North Carolina Historic Site.  One of the largest in fact, much larger than the one owned by your great-grandfather’s in Georgia.  30,000 acres once upon a time with 900 enslaved African Americans working the land over time. They grew tobacco, corn, wheat and cotton.  I want you to walk the grounds with me, go into the cabins, and most of all I want you to help me cook.  Everything is being prepared using locally sourced food, half of which we hope will come from North Carolina’s African American farmers who so desperately need our support.  Everything will be cooked according to 19th century methods.  So September 7, 2013, if you’re brave enough, let’s bake bread and break bread together at Historic Stagville. This isn’t publicity this is opportunity.  Leave the cameras at home.  Don’t worry, it’s cool, nobody will harm you if you’re willing to walk to the Mourner’s Bench.  Better yet, I’ll be there right with you.

G-d Bless,

Culinary Historian, Food Writer and Living History Interpreter

Michael W. Twitty

For a link to a video of the event Paula missed:  click here.

For a link to the MAD Symposium video where I talk about culinary justice and injustice: click here.

998 comments on “An Open Letter to Paula Deen

  1. Hal Pochuck's avatar
    Hal Pochuck

    You are my hero.

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  2. james A. Lonon's avatar
    james A. Lonon

    I would love to eat your cooking if it’s half as fine as your wise words….and I bet it IS too! Thanks!

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  3. Chef Arturo Vargas's avatar

    Yes I agree That was beautiful Michael..

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  4. Cheryl Zibisky's avatar

    I’m so glad I found this post and you Michael. It’s very nice to meet you.

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  5. Lucy Rice's avatar
    Lucy Rice

    Thank you,thank you ,Mr.Twitty!!!

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  6. molliebryan1's avatar

    Fabulous post. Bravo, Michael!

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  7. Karen Spears Zacharias's avatar

    Most articulate thing I’ve read about Deen and racism. I’d break a hoecake with you any day. And I love the shout out to Ms. Dupree.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Best phrase of the day, “I’d break a hoecake with you anyday!”

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      • Lisa Alexander's avatar
        Lisa Alexander

        Careful now, or we will have someone getting all up in arms about “hos”. 🙂
        Your response was indeed eloquent and touched on may aspects of the issues at hand. However, one of the most salient points – I think – that all comments have missed is that we must admit and consider in all examinations of racism is that we can not expect that the legislation of desegregation is the answer to racism anymore than speeding laws stops speeding – and that saying something is a law, or a norm (i.e. not using a particular word) doesn’t make it happen. Thus, simply because we have said, via law, that we are all equal does not mean that we are all taught or live and observe that reality. And, if we are indeed specifically taught that certain speech is insulting, painful, racist,.. doesn’t mean that we learned those lessons or that we contextualized them to our own lives.
        I am a public school teacher and 99+% of my students are African American. I am saddened on a daily basis that they have been taught to be racists, based on a variety of subtle points, in both inter and intra manners – they sometimes attack one another with such bile that I am shocked beyond words of response or reprimand. As you, and many who commented, pointed out, although this current “discussion” began with the speech of a Southern women it is speech that falls off the tongues of many across America, and like so much of the thought in the melting pot of America, it is something born of the bastardization of all the tongues of all of our forefathers. While many have learned much, all of us still have so much more to learn and even relearn, because we are tested every day.
        Please continue to fight the good fight – educating us all.

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  8. Maureen C. Berry's avatar

    Michael,

    You just got another fan. I love the way you wrote this eloquent letter, closing with an invitation-a perfect solution for Paula to show the world she means what she said when she apologized. It’s cliche, but actions DO speak louder than words.

    You see, as much as I grapple with what is going on in the media (they tell us what they want us to know), this issue, the use of the N-word, infuriates me to no end. It is pure ignorance.

    I appreciate you taking the time to tell another version, from another perspective, from a fellow Southerner, food writer, and culinary historian.

    Cheers!

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  9. Maureen C. Berry's avatar

    Michael,

    You just got a new fan. I applaud you and your eloquent letter, especially the close-an invitation to Paula to show the world-actions DO speak louder than words. I hope she reads this letter and attends your wonderful event.

    Cheers!

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  10. Emily Teel's avatar

    Yes. This is a brilliantly-written, thoughtful, honest, charitable response to Paula Deen’s [not without fault] scapegoating. Your empathy and your ability to talk about the issues of race/racism and the “ownership” of Southern food is both subtle and timely. I, too, appreciated her honesty, even though it came from a flawed place. I hope that ideas like the ones you’ve expressed here can help elevate the discussion that this incident has raised from the back-and-forth shaming/defending of Deen to a place of thoughtfulness and real conversation.

    While it has been encouraging to see the tremendous interest in Southern food and foodways in recent years, it’s problematic, shameful, and even dangerous to take these foods out of context. The structural violence of colonialism and slavery are ugly things in our collective history, and Deen (and others before her) have lost an opportunity to both observe and heal from that history by presenting a generalized “Southern” food without also bearing witness to the history behind it. Perhaps the only silver lining of that history is these recipes – the creolized foods of disparate cultures crammed (against their collective wills) against one another. Despite their complicated histories, these foods may well be the most authentically American things there are.

    We cannot squeeze our eyes shut and make a cobbler and pretend or hope or will that story away from us, even as we romanticize it. We must work to build a history for ourselves that doesn’t pretend or ignore racism away, but admits and dismantles it. I sincerely hope that Deen recognizes the chance you’ve offered her to do exactly that.

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  11. Martha Katz-Hyman's avatar

    Michael, you’ve written one of the best and most thoughtful responses to Paula Deen that I’ve read. The history of black and white in the South is complex and not easy to understand; you’ve managed to articulate that beautifully. Thank you!

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  12. Kim Holloway's avatar

    Thank you, Michael, for your thoughtful, thought-provoking, and eloquent post. For me, the silver lining of this media circus tent is that it led me to your amazing blog. Can’t wait to dig in and learn more from you.

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    • Julia's avatar

      I feel the same way as Kim Holloway. I don’t watch the news and don’t know what Paula said, but I am thankful that no one is counting my sins and exposing them to the world. Forgiveness and grace. Mercy triumphs! G-d bless you, Michael!

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  13. kirbycarespodi's avatar

    I think I love you. But as I am already married and a woman ‘of a certain age,’ I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t work. Stagville, huh? I am in NC. I can check it out.

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  14. Jan's avatar

    Beautiful. Thoughtful well beyond the norm – and gives me a little hope in our collective humanity yet. What a truly valuable perspective on the broader issues and opportunities in all this — I do so hope like heck that this gets to Paula Deen’s attention (and broader!!!) and that she may indeed take you up on what you propose! Either which way, this letter and the event you describe, is SO deserving of wider attention. What a terrific opportunity all around. Many thanks for this work and your contribution to “the discussion” Michael! May we all grow to be the better for it. Will certainly be watching for further developments – Many thanks!

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  15. Chris Muller's avatar
    Chris Muller

    That was amazing. So deeply considered, so widely generous. I am now a fan.

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  16. Flinn's avatar

    At some point in time, I want to meet you, cook with you, and be your friend.

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  17. Eric R. Dawicki's avatar

    You are a beautiful soul, my friend!

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  18. confrontingcrohns's avatar

    A beautiful, elegant and educated response to a messy situation. Thank you for your voice of reason.

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  19. Karin's avatar

    Bravo!!!!

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  20. Belinda Ellis's avatar

    I had never visited your blog and will come back for more of your wise words. Thanks for putting it so beautifully. I want to come to the event in NC.

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  21. Beth's avatar

    Beautifully said! Thank you. I hope your letter to Ms, Deen gets wide circulation and attention.

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  22. Jon Darby's avatar

    LOVED the article but I didn’t quite understand why the African origins of the word okra are offensive. Did anybody?
    (And a gay Jewish black guy who re-enacts slavery: throw in linedancing Cherokee furry and that may well be the smallest minority in the nation. 😉

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      OH! Okay–so I’m tired of people saying that okra is an “African” word….should have made that clearer as opposed to–Igbo word or Twi word…Its like saying apple is a “European word” 🙂

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  23. odumnobles's avatar
    odumnobles

    Brilliant. I’ll be following your writing from now on.

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  24. Pamela Dudley's avatar
    Pamela Dudley

    Micheal, Thank you so much I could not stop reading…I hope Paula Deen excepts your invitation.

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  25. Dorothy Johnson's avatar
    Dorothy Johnson

    Thank you for such a beautifully written piece, and I really hope that Paula Deen will accept your offer to meet with you in North Carolina.

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  26. HVLomax's avatar

    Well stated.

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  27. Art Funky's avatar

    I freakin love this! It’s so eloquently put together! Sharing it EVERYWHERE I can: FB, twitter, G+…your voice NEEDS to be heard.

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  28. Cat Beaty's avatar
    Cat Beaty

    What a beautiful and meaningful letter! You have described so much of what I feel over this whole mess. It all starts with Education, NOT Litigation to get everyone to be good to one another no matter what color your skin is, who you choose to live with, etc. The true meaning of a person is what is in their heart. My mother taught me that while growing up on the Texas Mexico border. As a result I love a person for who they are inside–not their outer covering or beliefs. Too bad more mothers don’t teach their children the same thing.

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  29. Claire from Georgia's avatar
    Claire from Georgia

    All I can say is wow…and thank you! What a thoughtful and uplifting commentary — so dead on! I hope she accepts your invitation! Wish I could.

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  30. Joyce's avatar

    Thank you for so eloquently stating my opinion on this.

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  31. Sarah's avatar

    Excellently written and excellent points! As a chef, and southerner I have a love for southern cuisine and great respect for the many cultures who have contributed to it over the years! I hope Paula seizes this awesome opportunity you have offered to her!

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  32. Amy Pitman's avatar
    Amy Pitman

    WOW! What a wonderful letter and invitation.

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  33. Sonja Scott's avatar
    Sonja Scott

    This is wonderful. I had just the other day commented on an article about this situation. I started it with “Are these people so foolish to think an OLD woman from the OLD south had not ever used that word?” This is a very well stated letter and I truly hope that Paula accepts.

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  34. Tracy's avatar

    Wow! And wow! I am without words.

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  35. merrildsmith's avatar

    Thanks so much for this. It was a wonderful response that really made me think–and what heartfelt and eloquent comments you’ve received, as well.

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  36. Beth McKibben's avatar

    Been left breathless. Beautiful. Thank you.

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  37. Ann's avatar

    What a marvelous letter! I hope Ms Deen receives it and is there with you in September. I would like the world to take note. Coming together and learning the real truths is what it’s all about.

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  38. mrswhitenight's avatar
    mrswhitenight

    admittedly i thought this was going to be an annoying letter. but it shows a lot of class. good for you and for that my faith in humanity is restored.

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  39. Barbara Barrick's avatar
    Barbara Barrick

    Michael, wow! You nailed precisely what I’ve been attempting to formulate into words for the last couple of days. Rather than sweep this incident under the rug of lawsuits and political gotcha moments and take the easy way out by shrugging our collective shoulders and muttering a few sound bites about Paula Deen’s being just another old racist white women from the South, you’ve addressed this window of opportunity whereby two southerners, two culinary artists, and two people from vastly different cultures but yet two forever intimately interwoven cultures can come together on common ground and begin to build a real foundation for understanding, healing, and forward movement. You, my child, are damned near a genius! I mean that in a positive manner. By the way, I’m a 67 year old white female and a child of the South now living north of the Mason-Dixon Line where racism is alive and well in a more virulent form than in the South. As you noted, racism in the South is overt, you know what you’re dealing with; on the other hand, north of the Mason-Dixon Line, plastic smiles cannot be trusted. Again, thank you for your eloquent words, your deeper understanding of a complex issue, and especially for your courage to step up and speak up. Peace and stay strong.

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  40. bigfiregoddess's avatar

    Beautiful ! Nice !

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  41. Allie Gower's avatar

    I don’t have anything eloquent or brilliant to say. Your post was masterfully crafted, very eloquent. I hope Ms. Deen accepts your invitation. Experiences, while sometimes painful, are a wonderful teacher. I wish we could all gain from this experience, but wishing won’t make it so.

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  42. Beth's avatar

    Nicely done!

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  43. Sabine's avatar

    A door opened, and you walked through. Bravo.

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  44. Ron Haley's avatar

    I feel truly blessed to have stumbled on a gifted wordsmith such as yourself. Thank you for such an incredible post. It was an incredible read.

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  45. LaTasha Renee Edwards's avatar
    LaTasha Renee Edwards

    I love how you have addressed this and the manner in which you have done so.

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  46. Brona Cos's avatar
    Brona Cos

    Nathalie Dupree puts it perfectly “Intimacy does not confer privilege in perceived slurs.” We should all strive to be better people regardless of the handicaps our heritage inflicts upon us and oftentimes, all it takes is recognition of that handicap, regardless if it’s complications. There is no honor in ignorance. Judging by the posts here, many readers seem to be aware of this, Paula Deen alas does not.

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  47. Lorin Helbling's avatar
    Lorin Helbling

    Michael, until today I was not aware of you or your work. But after reading your open letter to Paula Deen (and having been moved to tears) I am aware of you now and absolutely love what you have to say. Thank you for so eloquently articulating some of the things that have been rattling around in my head for the past few days.

    Your description of the plantation museum experience was dead on. I am a white woman who grew up in New York but lived in Charleston during the 1980’s. While visiting the historical sites there, I was always surprised by the guides tippy-toeing around history, being very careful with what they were saying and how they were saying it. It is what it is; like it or not, we have to own it.

    There are deep wounds that, with the best of intentions, we keep trying to heal by covering with band-aids. However, until the infected areas are exposed and treated, true healing will not occur.

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  48. Echo Moon's avatar

    thank you so much sir for your thoughtful, insightful and deep felt words.

    I think you truly nailed it when you said, “I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear” and “It’s something we should work against. It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism”. i don’t think i’ve read truer words anywhere.

    i too was born in the 5o’s and what i thought and spoke, what i was then is not what i am now. i think it’s a work in progress for all of us. we all need to work very hard and just maybe we can hold our heads up with pride and say that we have done away with racism. do i think that ‘we’ are going to see that day? no, but i have high hopes that, that day will come.

    thank you again.

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  49. Tom Childress's avatar
    Tom Childress

    I am proud of you for having put the whole sad thing in such shining perspective. But I agree that
    repentance is her only salvation. I will be glued to the Today Show tomorrow to see if there is any
    mention of repentance in her interview with Matt Lauer.

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