An Open Letter to Paula Deen:

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Dear Paula Deen,

So it’s been a tough week for you… believe me you I know something about tough weeks being a beginning food writer and lowly culinary historian.  Of course honey, I’d kill for one of your worst days as I could rest myself on the lanai, the veranda, the portico (okay that was really tongue in cheek), the porch..whatever…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free.  First Food Network now Smithfield.  (Well not so mad about Smithfield—not the most ethical place to shill for, eh, Paula?)

I am currently engaged in a project I began in 2011 called The Cooking Gene Project—my goal to examine family and food history as the descendant of Africans, Europeans and Native Americans—enslaved people and enslavers—from Africa to America and from Slavery to Freedom.  You and I are both human, we are both Americans, we are both quite “healthily” built, and yet none of these labels is more profound for me than the fact we are both Southern.  Sweet tea runs in our blood, in fact is our blood…What I understand to be true, a lot of your critics don’t…which is, as Southerners our ancestors co-created the food and hospitality and manners which you were born to 66 years ago and I, thirty-six.  In the words of scholar Mechal Sobel, this was “a world they made together,” but beyond that, it is a world we make together.  So I speak to you as a fellow Southerner, a cousin if you will, not as a combatant.

To be part of the national surprise towards you saying the word “nigger” in the past (I am a cultural and culinary historian and so therefore I am using the word within context…) is at best naïve and at worst, an attempt to hide the pervasiveness of racism, specifically anti-Black racism in certain currents of American culture—not just Southern.  Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father.  That Cheerio’s had to shut down the comments section says that the idea of inter-human relationships outside of one’s color bracket is for many hiding behind a computer screen—a sign of the apocalypse.  So just like those old spaghetti sauce ads, yes, America, racism—“it’s in there” even when we were prefer it not be.

When you said, “of course,” I wasn’t flabbergasted, I was rather, relieved…In fact we Black Southerners have an underground saying, “better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…” but Paula I knew what you meant, and I knew where you were coming from.  I’m not defending that or saying its right—because it’s that word—and the same racist venom that drove my grandparents into the Great Migration almost 70 years ago. I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate.  Power in language is not a one way street.  Obviously I am not encouraging you to use the word further, but I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear.  No sound bite can begin to peel back the layers of this issue.

Some have said you are not a racist.  Sorry, I don’t believe that…I am more of the Avenue Q type—everybody’s—you guessed it—a little bit racist.  This is nothing to be proud of no more than we are proud of our other sins and foibles.  It’s something we should work against.  It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism or even get over strings of negative experiences we’ve had with groups outside of our own.  We have a really lousy language—and I don’t just mean because we took a Spanish and Portuguese word (negro) and turned into the most recognizable racial slur on earth…in any language…because we have a million and one ways to hate, disdain, prejudge, discriminate and yet we hide behind a few paltry words like racism, bigotry, prejudice when we damn well know that we have thousands of words for cars—because we LOVE cars….and food—because we LOVE food—and yet in this language you and I share, how we break down patterns of thought that lead to social discord like racism, are sorely lacking.  We are a cleaver people at hiding our obsessions with downgrading the other.

Problem two…I want you to understand that I am probably more angry about the cloud of smoke this fiasco has created for other issues surrounding race and Southern food.  To be real, you using the word “nigger” a few times in the past does nothing to destroy my world.  It may make me sigh for a few minutes in resentment and resignation, but I’m not shocked or wounded.  No victim here.  Systemic racism in the world of Southern food and public discourse not your past epithets are what really piss me off.  There is so much press and so much activity around Southern food and yet the diversity of people of color engaged in this art form and telling and teaching its history and giving it a future are often passed up or disregarded.  Gentrification in our cities, the lack of attention to Southern food deserts often inhabited by the non-elites that aren’t spoken about, the ignorance and ignoring of voices beyond a few token Black cooks/chefs or being called on to speak to our issues as an afterthought is what gets me mad. In the world of Southern food, we are lacking a diversity of voices and that does not just mean Black people—or Black perspectives!  We are surrounded by culinary injustice where some Southerners take credit for things that enslaved Africans and their descendants played key roles in innovating.  Barbecue, in my lifetime, may go the way of the Blues and the banjo….a relic of our culture that whisps away.  That tragedy rooted in the unwillingness to give African American barbecue masters and other cooks an equal chance at the platform is far more galling than you saying “nigger,” in childhood ignorance or emotional rage or social whimsy.

Culinary injustice is what you get where you go to plantation museums and enslaved Blacks are not even talked about, but called servants.  We are invisible.  Visitors come from all over to marvel at the architecture and wallpaper and windowpanes but forget the fact that many of those houses were built by enslaved African Americans or that the food that those plantations were renowned for came from Black men and Black women truly slaving away in the detached kitchens.  Imagine how I, a culinary historian and living history interpreter feel during some of these tours where my ancestors are literally annihilated and whisked away to the corners of those rooms, dying multiple deaths of anonymity and cultural amnesia.  I’m so tired of reading about how “okra” is an “African word.”(For land’s sake ya know “apple” isn’t a “European word…” its an English word that comes from German like okra comes from Igbo and Twi!) I am so tired of seeing people of African descent relegated to the tertiary status when even your pal Alton Brown has said, it was enslaved Black people cooking the food.  Culinary injustice is the annihilation of our food voices—past, present and foreseeable future—and nobody will talk about that like they are talking about you and the “n word.” For shame.

You see Paula, your grits may not be like mine, but one time I saw you make hoecakes on your show and I never heard tell of where them hoecakes really came from.  Now not to compare apples and oranges but when I was a boy it was a great pleasure to hear Nathalie Dupree talk about how beaten biscuits and country captain and gumbo started.    More often than not, she gave a nod to my ancestors.  Don’t forget that the Southern food you have been crowned the queen of was made into an art largely in the hands of enslaved cooks, some like the ones who prepared food on your ancestor’s Georgia plantation.  You, just like me cousin, stand squarely on what late playwright August Wilson called, “the self defining ground of the slave quarter.”  There and in the big house kitchen, Africa, Europe and Native America(s) melded and became a fluid genre of world cuisine known as Southern food.  Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa.

Don’t be fooled by the claims that Black people don’t watch you.  We’ve been watching you.  We all have opinions about you.  You were at one point sort of like our Bill Clinton. (You know the first Black president?)   When G. Garvin and the Neely’s and the elusive B Smith (who they LOVED to put on late on Saturday nights or early Sunday mornings!) were few and far between, you were our sorta soul mama, the white lady with the gadonkadonk and the sass and the signifying who gave us a taste of the Old Country-which is for us—the former Confederacy and just beyond.  Furthermore, as a male who practices an “alternative lifestyle” (and by the way I am using that phrase in bitter sarcastic irony), it goes without saying that many of my brothers have been you for Halloween, and you are right up there with Dolly Parton, Dixie Carter and Tallullah Bankhead of old as one of the muses of the Southern gay male imagination.  We don’t despise you, we don’t even think you made America fat.  We think you are a businesswoman who has made some mistakes, has character flaws like everybody else and in fact is now a scapegoat.  I find it hard to be significantly angry at you when during the last election the re-disenfranchisement of the Negro—like something from the time of W.E.B. Du Bois was a national cause celebre. Hell, today the voting rights act was gutted and I’m sure many think this is a serious win for “democracy.”  If  I want to be furious about something racial—well America—get real—we’ve had a good twelve years of really really rich material that the National media has set aside to talk about Paula Deen.  Yes Paula,  in light of all these things, you are the ultimate, consummate racist, and the one who made us fat, and the reason why American food sucks and ……you don’t believe that any more than I do. 

A fellow Georgian of yours once said that one day the “sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down at the table of brotherhood.”  Well no better time than now.  Paula, I don’t have to tell you redemption is yours to choose, to have and to embrace.  As a Jew, I extend the invitation to do teshuvah—which means to repent—but better—to return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace.  You used food to rescue your life, your family and your destiny.  I admire that.  I know that I have not always made good choices and to be honest none of us are perfect.  This is an opportunity to grow and renew.

If there is anything The Cooking Gene has taught me—its about the art of reconciliation.  We aren’t happy with you right now.  Then again some of the things you have said or have been accused of saying aren’t surprising.  In so many ways, that’s the more unfortunate aspect.  We are resigned to believe and understand that our neighbor is to be suspected before respected.  It doesn’t have to be this way, and it doesn’t have to go on forever.  As a species we cannot conduct ourselves in this manner.  As creations of the Living G-d, we are commanded to be better.  You and I are both the descendants of people who lived, fought, died, suffered so that we could be better in our own time.  I’m disappointed but I’m not heartless.  And better yet, praise G-d I ain’t hopeless.

If you aren’t busy on September 7, and I surely doubt that you are not busy—I would like to invite you to a gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation.  We are doing a fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, a North Carolina Historic Site.  One of the largest in fact, much larger than the one owned by your great-grandfather’s in Georgia.  30,000 acres once upon a time with 900 enslaved African Americans working the land over time. They grew tobacco, corn, wheat and cotton.  I want you to walk the grounds with me, go into the cabins, and most of all I want you to help me cook.  Everything is being prepared using locally sourced food, half of which we hope will come from North Carolina’s African American farmers who so desperately need our support.  Everything will be cooked according to 19th century methods.  So September 7, 2013, if you’re brave enough, let’s bake bread and break bread together at Historic Stagville. This isn’t publicity this is opportunity.  Leave the cameras at home.  Don’t worry, it’s cool, nobody will harm you if you’re willing to walk to the Mourner’s Bench.  Better yet, I’ll be there right with you.

G-d Bless,

Culinary Historian, Food Writer and Living History Interpreter

Michael W. Twitty

For a link to a video of the event Paula missed:  click here.

For a link to the MAD Symposium video where I talk about culinary justice and injustice: click here.

998 comments on “An Open Letter to Paula Deen

  1. bluesenbop's avatar
    bluesenbop

    Thank you, brother Michael, for your incisive and beautiful response. Your astute & pain-filled “take” on this Deen mess brings into focus the true nightmare of racism, colonization and how history is, more often than not, written by those in power. G-d bless you for your strength & courage. – A new fan.

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  2. Jennifer P's avatar
    Jennifer P

    Michael!!! Praying this goes viral too!! Love your honesty, so refreshing! I was just in Georgia for business (and a little fun with family) last July and this northern girl was amazed/shocked at how the current relationships between races is still somewhat historical in how they relate to each other (as you put it so gracefully). I think the Paula Deen story is so blown outta proportion and just plain ridiculous at this point. I plan to ban the sponsors, not Paula! I so wish I could really see the south through your eyes and hang with a true southerner and his culinary roots! You sound like a very interesting person that would be a blast to get to know. Praying Paula gets to know you too:) I am currently finding out my DNA/genealogy to know my roots and will embrace every ethnicity I am from with love honor and dignity..to the best of my ability! You know what I mean, you get it, you are speaking such truth…..God Bless your honest and open spirit! Jenn

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  3. Lynne Bush's avatar
    Lynne Bush

    Dear Michael: I hope Paula takes you up on your invitation. That would be an awesome and powerful event.

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  4. lynnebush's avatar

    Dear Michael:
    Thank you for your passionate and compassionate commentary. I hope Paula takes you up on your invitation for Sept. 7. That would be an awesome event.

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  5. Will's avatar

    Michael, you provide what is sorely lacking from national debate: debate. Thank you.

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  8. Joseph Strate's avatar
    Joseph Strate

    The voice of reason crying in the wilderness. Brilliant and god bless.

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  9. robbielink's avatar

    Keep reading this over and over and it still brings tears to my eyes. Beautifully written. Hope to see you at Stagville in September.

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  10. Doris Keeton's avatar
    Doris Keeton

    Michael, your letter brought tears to my eyes….very well said. Thank you.

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  11. Matt Kendrick's avatar

    Great job. Put it all on the table because that’s the only way we’re going to see it and move to higher ground. The Corporate world will just suppress, not address and try to bury all that’s happened (unless there’s some money in it) as far as racial issues go. It’s easier to forget and forget but this does not deal with the fact that overt slavery in the USA ended with the Emancipation Proclamation in 1863. Only 150 years ago. We still have much growing to do. God Bless you.

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  12. angelakeslar's avatar

    Thank you for delving deeply into this polarizing topic… You have made many good points, especially about culinary injustice and I hope that Miss P joins you at the plantation gathering. You juggle fire so graciously and eloquently… I want you at my next dinner party!!!

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  13. jack's avatar

    I haven’t been following the story, so I don’t know if she deserves to loose her sponsors for the racist comment. However, I feel she deserves to loose her sponsors anyway because she has type 2 diabetes. Why does she have diabetes? Because of the kind of food she promotes. I have type 1 diabetes and no amount of dieting or exercise will get rid of it.

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    • Susan S's avatar
      Susan S

      Jack, Type II diabetes is much more complicated than simply a matter of the food somebody eats or promotes. Additionally, it can’t be compared to Type I, as Type I is an autoimmune disease, and Type II is a metabolic disorder. Neither can be cured, but Type II can sometimes, if the individual is genetically inclined, be put into remission.

      As for losing one’s sponsors due to a medical issue, should an athlete with arthritis lose her/his corporate sponsors? The arthritis, especially osteoarthritis, was very probably caused by sports injuries. The individual brought it upon her/himself. By your logic, the sponsors should flee. On the cooking side, if a chef develops cancer due to nitrates used as meat preservatives, should that chef have sponsorships yanked? Or does your logic only apply to conditions correlated in the modern era to obesity?

      Not caused, mind; correlated. Thin people get Type II diabetes all the time. Additionally, all independent research indicates that a healthy diet and plenty of physical activity are the keys to health, not a specific weight or weight range. (Weight loss has actually been found to be harmful, but I digress.)

      So I ask you again, should only people with diabetes lose their sponsorships, or should anyone with a medical condition follow suit?

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  14. Jewel Fryer (@jewelfry)'s avatar

    It’s about more then the use of the “N” word. I think that we all should stop making that the focus. Have you read this? http://www.blacklegalissues.com/Article_Details.aspx?artclid=7dfdbe0461

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  15. Jan D. Turner's avatar

    Dear Michael, I am a 58 yr. old southerner and I saw the Cheerio commercial at least 4 times (thought it was so cute&sweet) before the controversy appeared in the news and then I realized that I had never even noticed that the couple was interracial. I hope that is an indication of our progress (why do people get so upset over things that don’t concern them?), after all isn’t it our intent to not see the color of people’s skin except to notice the beauty of it? Love you.

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  16. Barbara's avatar
    Barbara

    Wow, you gave me goosebumps. What a beautiful letter. Reminds that to err is human, to forgive; divine.

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  17. wendy tittel (@dubya_tee)'s avatar

    Wow. Michael, brave soul and mensch extraordinnare! I feel educated by being able to read your insights into your multi-faceted chef universe. I love that a man so round can harbor all those facets – (This comes from a skinny jewish girl who loves cooking more than breathing- but not more than learning). And learn we all just did! I love as well that you’re creating communication by opening this exchange of opinions here. Communication is what breeds love and understanding – without it – we’re all just speculating and fostering more prejudice!
    Keep on doing what you do. It’s got to work!!!!

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  18. Dennis Nogueira's avatar

    Wonderful article !!! You put so much of what I had been thinking but lacked the eloquence to articulate and so much more !! I am definitely
    signing up to your blog and look forward to reading more of your thoughts.

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  19. Sally Krissman's avatar
    Sally Krissman

    Michael, I absolutely loved your writing. You have a way of saying things that really makes the reader think! I was born in Savannah, am Jewish, and I am a liberal person. In my family, that word was never used, yet some yiddish words that kind of implied the same things were. Did that make it okay, of course not!! We are always evolving and it seems to me that all of this controversy is somewhat ridiculous. I know for a fact that Paula Deen is a generous lady who would never deliberately say anything hurtful to someone, regardless of their race.
    Keep on writing, because you have a wonderful way with words!

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  20. Multicorechina.com's avatar

    I like this part:

    “Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father.”

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  21. brigittegrisanti's avatar

    There seem to be no words of praise not already left on this wall of comments regarding your writing here. My words will only be to say that I agree with your position and appreciate your candor, and the right to speak it. Sometimes even though someone apologizes they still need to receive what’s coming. Brigitte Grisanti

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  22. kelcancook's avatar

    You Sir are a true Southern gentleman and a beautiful human being. Thank you for sharing your light.

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  23. DeAnna Guilbeau's avatar
    DeAnna Guilbeau

    You are a brilliant young man I appreciated the tone of your letter/statement/invitation. I wish we could all be like you. lol Betcha never heard that one before huh? You might just want to expand your tutalage to race relations, you’ve got the skill to actually help make a difference. I wish I could be with you on September 7th sounds like something I’d love to do, see and experience.Love, peace and blessings to you always!

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  24. Carolyn's avatar

    Few if any responses to a difficult situation such as this, have been as realistic and yet respectful as yours. Offering the opportunity to recognize ones weaknesses and turn them into strengths is a character trait worth possessing. If I were in Paula’s position I would indeed take you up on the culturally rich and humbling opportunity to better myself. Inspiring and soulful words….. bring new meaning to “soul food”. Well done! (pun intended)

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Its funny, I know there are other allegations and issues being discussed but I feel like I just want people to really get their feelings out. This discussion is not so “unproductive” as it has motivated people to have the kind of dialogue that gets tucked away until it boils over. I’m really pleased that the kids I taught in Hebrew school are seeing this. I am a really flawed person and its hard for me to forgive myself and teshuvah..is the hardest work…I need to tell you that I’m floored by your comments and many others because I don’t think until now I ever felt I was truly any good to the world. I’m discovering myself through the eyes of strangers..and its truly cathartic for me.

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      • Cindy's avatar

        I hope that you do realize what you have wrought here. With few exceptions, it is a very thoughtful and respectful dialogue on a very sensitive topic, bringing in a wide demographic who are weighing in sincerely and openly. I think a very great good you have done right here with what was in your heart. I have wondered a couple of times, as I continue to get the Afroculinaria updates in my email, about what you are thinking of this discussion that you began- whodathunkit?

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  26. Heather Vaughan's avatar

    I have not had time tonight to read through all the posts, but I will be back very soon to do so. I am so thankful to have found this article and these comments. I have been struggling greatly with this issue for the last week, and have been unable to find much in the way of rational dialogue to help ease my inner turmoil. I am a 40 something white female raised in the midwest where , while the derogatory term was used, it was not used in our home and we were taught that it was a hateful word. So, for me it was not the admission that someone used the word that has been so upsetting. It is the casualness of the admission followed by the immediate taint to everything she has ever done that has been unsettling. While I cannot condone the use of the word, and the “of course” has bothered me because I feel like it implies an unheard “haven’t we all?”, I still do not think that every word or action in her life should be viewed from a slant or angle to see if there might be some racial bias just because she admitted to saying the word. On a more personal note, I have read more ugliness and hate in the last week than I could have imagined still existed. Which led me to question myself and my own actions and how would they be viewed under intense scrutiny. I am distressed by the things I do not know that may be offensive to a group of people. I would hope that were I to make a blunder that is disrespectful or offensive to a person that the person would tell me. I think it is not the obviously offensive that worries me but my own ignorance of other people’s culture, history, or customs that makes me fearful. Anyway, thank you for a place to come and read and learn that does not feel filled with hate and resentment.

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  27. pablo1paz's avatar

    You said what was needful and i’m surprised to see so many responses. I also wish that those who need to see your responses and think about them will be too busy twittering on and on and then on to the next hot thing du jour, without ever giving those who do know, who do think, who do take responsibility for what they say and accept the real world in all its grimey realness, the chance to teach others. You just keep preaching it, my friend and one of these days maybe you’ll even introduce me to your cuisine.
    en paz,

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  28. Jewel F. Laplante-Daal's avatar
    Jewel F. Laplante-Daal

    Hi Micheal,

    Well said. You couldn’t have said it better. Brilliant! Wishing you much blessings 🙂

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  29. Deborah Pettingill's avatar

    Thank you for writing this and putting it in such a great perspective. I am currently writing the syllabus for a class on Civil Rights in Florida for my high school – because our students need to understand that this is NOT just something that happened in the past. That we need to embrace and celebrate our differences while recognizing that there is much more that is the same than is different and that we all bring something important to the table. I have been working on how to start out this class, how to address where things are now, and I think your essay is going to give us a fabulous jumping off point. Thank you again.

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  30. Daniel's avatar

    Wow. This is an eloquent and honest letter. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I hope she shows on 9/7… that would be incredible.

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  31. John McCarty's avatar

    Having grown up mostly in the North, and a roommate in college fromLucedale Mississippi. My perspective on the South, of course was totally different. Your wonderful letter to Paula touched my heart, not only helping us all remember our roots, both black and white. We think that society has changed and grown, but all they have done is change the color in their sunglasses. Thank you very much for the history lesson, and I too, hope that Paula joins you on September 7th. I look forward too reading more of your work in the future, thank you for this wonderful experience.

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  32. mandimon's avatar

    This is beautifully and elegantly written. Thank you for sculpting into words the truth of this whole thing. I can’t wait to read more of your stuff. Must share this on my fb wall.

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  33. Janine Lutz's avatar
    Janine Lutz

    Yes, I fully (and unfortunately) concur with the comments regarding the closeted nature of Northern racism. I was raised by a mother from the Midwest who, though a racial slur was never uttered in our home, was phenomenally racist in her attitudes, and although she took all us children to church on a regular basis, there was virtually no compassion for the brotherhood of mankind in our home. (Didn’t exactly jibe with singing “Jesus Loves the Little Children” in Sunday School!) In fact, she was always more than a bit put out when we expressed a non-discriminatory opinion, as though we were acting improperly and being somehow traitorous to our White peer group, Oh Please! As a youth, I thought (mistakenly) that this racist attitude could not possibly be the prevailing attitude where I was raised in Southern California. I surmised it was just my Mother’s small-town Midwestern upbringing that was attempting to manifest itself in our home. Much to my surprise, this was definitely NOT the case! When talking to virtually any of my peers growing up, there was always a negative or snide comment made when the subject of African Americans came up, even though there were NO Blacks in my neighborhood. (And definitely DON’T admit that you like Soul music, Blues, etc. Being anything but a blonde beach baby just DIDN’T fit in!) But something in my spirit could just not limit my experience to that world, and I am forever grateful that I left it behind. This also set the groundwork for me to be someone whose likes and dislikes are entirely my own and not a reflection of what my race/locale attempted to impress upon me. As for Ms. Paula, I am thankful that she brought her recipes to me, as my household is now populated with Blacks, Gays, not to mention my Mexican American in-laws, so I am now able to cook meals recognizable to my wife’s Black heritage! (And I’m still learning, trust me!) And, as to whether it would have been preferable to be brought up in a household that openly expressed its racism or swept it under the rug like mine, I don’t know which would have been the lesser of two evils, but being raised in a racist home DEFINITELY taught me how NOT to act, for which I will be eternally grateful! Thanks everyone for listening! Janine L.

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    • Daisy Belle's avatar
      Daisy Belle

      Perhaps it’s a matter of the author still moderating past comments — this is a very popular blog posting and it’s bound to take some time — but if not, the author was not brave enough to include my mild criticism of his piece and a defense of “The Northerners” who have worked tirelessly to revere what ancestors who were brought here against their will, provided for this country and every culture and sub-culture within it. And that’s unfortunate.

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  34. SueSchneid22's avatar
    SueSchneid22

    Michael- I would love to be there with you on any occasion. That you would invite Paula, despite her faux pas many years ago, is very touching. Indeed, reconciliation is what Jesus and his early followers espoused. Thank you for reaching out. I hope I can see you cook or be near you somewhere or sometime.

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  37. Frankie Painter's avatar
    Frankie Painter

    I am proud to be southern. I am proud of my heritage. I am proud of my cookin’! What I am not proud of is the ridiculous amount of attention being placed on what somebody did or said 20+ years ago. We have bigger problems that someone using a racial slur. You, sir, are the definition of a true southern gentleman, and would be welcome to break bread at my table any day of the week! (Although Sundays are pot roast day, and mine is fabulous;)… )
    I hope Paula will show for your fundraiser and I hope it will show redemption is possible when mistakes are made. Have a wonderful day! 🙂

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  38. Loretta's avatar

    I tried to think of one word to describe this all encompassing and beautifully written piece, the first thing to come to mind is WOW!.

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  39. Unknown's avatar

    Oh snap….you’re gay!? I kid. Great post.

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  40. Lin Rice's avatar
    Lin Rice

    Reblogged this on My Middle Name is Earl and commented:
    A really insightful perspective on this whole Paula Deen media circus going on right now, from a culinary historian and living history interpreter. It’s worth the read.

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  42. storme's avatar

    hope she makes the choice to show, and to make appropriate amends. racism may be rampant but that is not an excuse!

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  43. Val Rogers's avatar

    Wow! Thank you for taking the time to write such an honest, thoughtful, and engaging essay. As a gay white girl of Louisiana heritage now living in the West, I crave my culinary culture. I miss the vitality, variety, and colorfulness of the food, the language, the people. But when I visit, the bigotry of some family members makes my skin crawl. Somehow, your multi-faceted identity and down to earth realness seems to resonate with my own and create a bit more breathing room. I honor and thank the generations of Africans who enriched and continue to enrich so many delicious aspects of Southern culture – food, language, music, and more. I really hope Paula accepts your invitation and we can all move forward with awareness and appreciation of each other. I’m looking forward to learning more from your blogs. Thank you again so much.

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  44. Jen's avatar

    Michael, I’ve been wanting to comment on this for a few days as you’ve touched on so many things of importance. (Sorry ahead of time this is long).

    One thing you brought up that I’d like to highlight is that the South and ‘southern’ has become synonymous with white folks, especially white male conservative elites. This is despite the fact that they are a minority and have always been a minority in the South. This usage that goes back at least as far as our nation’s founding and erases black folks, native Americans, tri-racial groups, other minorities and even white women and white men will never be aristocrats from history and even modern day existence and it’s a crime that benefits white male conservative elites that continues.

    One irony I’ve found when reading black perspectives on the Deen event is that black Southerners and black folks who aren’t bona fide bougies (and I mean attitude/outlook not actual class because it DOES matter a great deal who/where you came from more than who you became) tend to be more forgiving and focused on reconciliation than northern black folks, bougies, and northern whites. There’s also a shared embarrassment by both northern and southern peoples who find those whose who come from uneducated backgrounds embarrassing and/or abhorrent. In general white responses have tended to be both extreme and reactionary depending on which side they take (it’s either completely defensive or complete condemnation with little subtlety, even the bougies tend to be more subtle). Yours is a wonderful balance.

    I’m still not sure what to think of Deen but I do know I share the desire to educate, reconcile, and forgive. I think the South dwells on our past in part because many of us are trying to figure it out and make things better.

    We also have a long way to go as a people/region but the first step to solving any problem is admitting you have one and as a region we’ve owned up in a way few others have.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      This is what we call a nuanced, complex, personal response!

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      • Jen's avatar

        Thanks Michael. I just wish I’d posted it when I was slightly more awake so there would be fewer typos. 🙂

        You’ve created a wonderful space for discussion on a topic many are afraid to broach except for the obligatory condemnation of Deen. Most have avoided discussion of the two gigantic elephants in the room: race and class. And those elephants are far more important for us to discuss as a nation than what Deen personally did or didn’t do. (And now that I think of it a there’s a third elephant: culture).

        Forgiveness, reconciliation, atonement, even simply acknowledging the sins of our shared past is all but impossible when we refuse to discuss these things. Deen’s case gives us the opportunity to talk about all this but so far it seems that we’re wasting that opportunity (at least in terms of most major media discussions) but it’s a talk we can’t avoid forever if we want to change things for the better.

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        Three elephants! Love it..and thank you for including culture

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  45. Daisy Belle's avatar
    Daisy Belle

    Why knock “The Northerners” by repeating the phrase that you know where you stand, with White Southerners, unlike those Northerners who couldn’t possibly be sincere when unconsciously seeing you as an equally valuable human being? How are we sharing the blame for this? I guess you just can’t trust a one of us Yankees. We’re the same ones who built a reproduction of The Amistad to educate people about life aboard that vessel, as well as describe the lives of black sailors, fisherman and whalemen, who lived in seaside and whaling towns (and cooked in them, as well as on board). We’re the same ones who maintain the first school open to African-American girls, the same ones who show how American Indian/ Native Americans saved European settlers’ backsides by teaching them how to plant Three Sisters Gardens — you know, we’re those shifty ol’ Northern folk, who could only ever be insincere.

    We must be missing some secret society memo, up here, where the thought of a functioning adult using such a derogatory term, outside of the provocative netherworld of post-adolescent irony, doesn’t even seem bad as much as bizzare — even to the point of caricature. I don’t think Paula Deen should be destroyed over this but it’s just so head-scratchingly odd to imagine her thinking that referring to people in such a way, is just sentimental, cultural expression for Southerners. And I do believe she is sincere in defending herself…but really? Is this typical?

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      This is a very very valid point. I guess I wasn’t knocking Northern folk as much as I was quoting grandparents lol but there is this complexity there, right…Northern slave trade interests against abolitionists; race riots vs.relative social integration. .and more..all of this above the Maryland border. Thank you.

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        Daisy Belle

        So true. The North struggled with many of the same deficiencies as The South right before The Civil War. Radical activism at that time is not what we think of it to be, now —there were many in The North who agreed with aspects of slavery but questioned quality of life for slaves. Young, black children being educated (in schools based on European principles) were not desegregated. The idea of “inter-racial” marriage between blacks and whites was still unheard of, even though many Northerners in the mid 1800s were descendants of, both, European White settlers and American Indians/Native Americans. No American is exempt from carrying the history of slavery because it is how our country was built and how our wealth originated; on the backs of slaves. This history belongs to all of us an any who decides to become American. We can’t wish it away or claim that there is a pure angel/devil relationship between The North and South during the era of slavery — it’s not a competition. It was what it was and we can only learn fro the past and do our best to give voices back to those who had their voices (freedom, family and even lives) taken from them, against their will.

        And I understand what you meant and the way that phrase was written in a gentle spirit of jest. I didn’t mean to come across as such a huffy priss ;). It was a lovely blog post, by the way.

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        No no no..its all good! I want this type of informed discussion and debate. As long as there are no ad hominem attacks I am pleased to host this ongoing dialogue. This is how we climb higher!

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      Jason Q.

      The observation to which you are overreacting is absolutely correct: In the North, bigotry tends to be subsumed and tacit – PRECISELY BECAUSE it’s not as socially acceptable (though it was in the not-so-distant past). One significant difference is that racism and segregation in the North were more de facto phenomena – i.e. only enforced by social norms and behavior rather than the force of law.

      In the South, such behavior was (and still sometimes is) far more open, and was so after Northern society generally began to frown on open racism.

      In short: So, yeah, a number of our ancestors did the right thing. Whaddya want, a cookie?

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        Daisy Belle

        True, it wasn’t like The North emerged after The Civil War as a perfect bastion for social and “racial” harmony. It’s just that…finding a way to assign blame to Northerners for the colloquialisms of Southern sub-cultures, just doesn’t seem to fly. Local customs are just different, here and if the topic is going to be brought up, that should be recognized. That doesn’t mean The North is free of racism, as you’ve brought up, even if it’s publically “frown[ed] on”.

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  46. Jeff's avatar

    Any word can only hurt if we allow it to. Yet, I don’t understand, how you can say “Nigger” and not faggot, or, gueer? Truly, aren’t they just words as well?

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      I didn’t want to cavalierly use them. I don’t remember if I used the n word more than once..I see it used a lot in historic writing and oral histories..so I used it in context in this sense.

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      Daisy Belle

      When these words are not used gratuitously and outside the context of a story (from a character) or historical perspective, I wonder if that’s the same thing as a modern person using them as normal, descriptive words in their regular vocabulary? I actually think it matters that these words be used in a historical or story context because I think it’s very easy for the past to be romanticized (particularly in politics — and political choices have a direct influence on policy and people’s lives). It’s easy to re-paint the past as an ideal World where a perfectly civilized society and only good, brotherhood and neighborly respect existed but the truth of words and evolution of social discourse, tells the fuller reality of that picture. We need to be jolted out of a story that could, otherwise, romanticize things that we shouldn’t be proud of, by hearing these words spoken or written in context.

      It’s also not something that exists in our ancient past. There are people alive, today, who remember hearing those words from soldiers who dug trenches besides them, business owners who rejected their money and work experience and public workers who were told by society to dehumanize them and treat them as second class human beings. And those people really meant what they said, in the present — there was no “nostalgic” tone about it — and it was culturally acceptable, too.

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  47. Claire Grund's avatar
    Claire Grund

    Thank you Michael, as a Virginia girl living in MA I read your response with a smile. I look forward to reading more from you, are you planning on publishing The Cooking Gene Project? I hope so, you have a beautiful voice! Oh, and Happy 4th 🙂

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  48. Deanna's avatar

    Well said, Sir. Well said!

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  49. Jen's avatar

    Michael, I hope you don’t mind me adding yet another long comment but I was wondering if you’ve ever delved into the mountain and hill country south, specifically areas like East Tennessee which has the distinction of having the very first newspaper solely dedicated to abolition (yes, even before the North). Since it’s not the plantation South but a ‘maroon zone’ people of color/tri-racial groups ran to as well as a place where whites were largely landless squatters and poor (they even sharecropped alongside black folks during segregation and the civil right era), I would assume that it’s culinary history is a bit different despite certain commonalities.

    It is also a place that occupies a unique spot in the Southern History for many reasons.

    For example, it voted 70-80 percent Union but sadly even some natives of the area have fallen victim to the rewrite of a unified North versus a unified South that has served both the north and racist southern white elites for different reasons. I think it’s important to dispel this myth of a unified and/or unified confederate South and E. TN is a great example of this aspect and exploring the roots of food and music help us understand how much and how many contributors we all have benefited from as southerners.

    Getting it across to people that we are a region of multiple cultures, colors, and outlooks rather than monolithic and that each state and even areas within that state have multiple contributors that make the South so collectively unique is also important in forging the path forward.

    I want to see the New South finally live up to what we can be and I think acknowledging and promoting this aspect of our history only helps. It might even change minds that sometimes appear hardened or unchangeable.

    One other thing: do you plan on speaking in the Knoxville area any time in the future? If you do, I would absolutely love to attend.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      People forget about the South’s many in between folk

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      • Jen's avatar

        Especially black folks, the lost tri-racial groups, minority religions like Jews (and even Druze peoples!), as well many folks of middle-eastern heritage that’s goes back to America’s founding, and many more. Basically all those who don’t fit the South = rich white Confederates narrative.

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