An Open Letter to Paula Deen:
Photo Courtesy of: Johnathan M. Lewis
Dear Paula Deen,
So it’s been a tough week for you… believe me you I know something about tough weeks being a beginning food writer and lowly culinary historian. Of course honey, I’d kill for one of your worst days as I could rest myself on the lanai, the veranda, the portico (okay that was really tongue in cheek), the porch..whatever…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free. First Food Network now Smithfield. (Well not so mad about Smithfield—not the most ethical place to shill for, eh, Paula?)
I am currently engaged in a project I began in 2011 called The Cooking Gene Project—my goal to examine family and food history as the descendant of Africans, Europeans and Native Americans—enslaved people and enslavers—from Africa to America and from Slavery to Freedom. You and I are both human, we are both Americans, we are both quite “healthily” built, and yet none of these labels is more profound for me than the fact we are both Southern. Sweet tea runs in our blood, in fact is our blood…What I understand to be true, a lot of your critics don’t…which is, as Southerners our ancestors co-created the food and hospitality and manners which you were born to 66 years ago and I, thirty-six. In the words of scholar Mechal Sobel, this was “a world they made together,” but beyond that, it is a world we make together. So I speak to you as a fellow Southerner, a cousin if you will, not as a combatant.
To be part of the national surprise towards you saying the word “nigger” in the past (I am a cultural and culinary historian and so therefore I am using the word within context…) is at best naïve and at worst, an attempt to hide the pervasiveness of racism, specifically anti-Black racism in certain currents of American culture—not just Southern. Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father. That Cheerio’s had to shut down the comments section says that the idea of inter-human relationships outside of one’s color bracket is for many hiding behind a computer screen—a sign of the apocalypse. So just like those old spaghetti sauce ads, yes, America, racism—“it’s in there” even when we were prefer it not be.
When you said, “of course,” I wasn’t flabbergasted, I was rather, relieved…In fact we Black Southerners have an underground saying, “better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…” but Paula I knew what you meant, and I knew where you were coming from. I’m not defending that or saying its right—because it’s that word—and the same racist venom that drove my grandparents into the Great Migration almost 70 years ago. I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate. Power in language is not a one way street. Obviously I am not encouraging you to use the word further, but I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear. No sound bite can begin to peel back the layers of this issue.
Some have said you are not a racist. Sorry, I don’t believe that…I am more of the Avenue Q type—everybody’s—you guessed it—a little bit racist. This is nothing to be proud of no more than we are proud of our other sins and foibles. It’s something we should work against. It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism or even get over strings of negative experiences we’ve had with groups outside of our own. We have a really lousy language—and I don’t just mean because we took a Spanish and Portuguese word (negro) and turned into the most recognizable racial slur on earth…in any language…because we have a million and one ways to hate, disdain, prejudge, discriminate and yet we hide behind a few paltry words like racism, bigotry, prejudice when we damn well know that we have thousands of words for cars—because we LOVE cars….and food—because we LOVE food—and yet in this language you and I share, how we break down patterns of thought that lead to social discord like racism, are sorely lacking. We are a cleaver people at hiding our obsessions with downgrading the other.
Problem two…I want you to understand that I am probably more angry about the cloud of smoke this fiasco has created for other issues surrounding race and Southern food. To be real, you using the word “nigger” a few times in the past does nothing to destroy my world. It may make me sigh for a few minutes in resentment and resignation, but I’m not shocked or wounded. No victim here. Systemic racism in the world of Southern food and public discourse not your past epithets are what really piss me off. There is so much press and so much activity around Southern food and yet the diversity of people of color engaged in this art form and telling and teaching its history and giving it a future are often passed up or disregarded. Gentrification in our cities, the lack of attention to Southern food deserts often inhabited by the non-elites that aren’t spoken about, the ignorance and ignoring of voices beyond a few token Black cooks/chefs or being called on to speak to our issues as an afterthought is what gets me mad. In the world of Southern food, we are lacking a diversity of voices and that does not just mean Black people—or Black perspectives! We are surrounded by culinary injustice where some Southerners take credit for things that enslaved Africans and their descendants played key roles in innovating. Barbecue, in my lifetime, may go the way of the Blues and the banjo….a relic of our culture that whisps away. That tragedy rooted in the unwillingness to give African American barbecue masters and other cooks an equal chance at the platform is far more galling than you saying “nigger,” in childhood ignorance or emotional rage or social whimsy.
Culinary injustice is what you get where you go to plantation museums and enslaved Blacks are not even talked about, but called servants. We are invisible. Visitors come from all over to marvel at the architecture and wallpaper and windowpanes but forget the fact that many of those houses were built by enslaved African Americans or that the food that those plantations were renowned for came from Black men and Black women truly slaving away in the detached kitchens. Imagine how I, a culinary historian and living history interpreter feel during some of these tours where my ancestors are literally annihilated and whisked away to the corners of those rooms, dying multiple deaths of anonymity and cultural amnesia. I’m so tired of reading about how “okra” is an “African word.”(For land’s sake ya know “apple” isn’t a “European word…” its an English word that comes from German like okra comes from Igbo and Twi!) I am so tired of seeing people of African descent relegated to the tertiary status when even your pal Alton Brown has said, it was enslaved Black people cooking the food. Culinary injustice is the annihilation of our food voices—past, present and foreseeable future—and nobody will talk about that like they are talking about you and the “n word.” For shame.
You see Paula, your grits may not be like mine, but one time I saw you make hoecakes on your show and I never heard tell of where them hoecakes really came from. Now not to compare apples and oranges but when I was a boy it was a great pleasure to hear Nathalie Dupree talk about how beaten biscuits and country captain and gumbo started. More often than not, she gave a nod to my ancestors. Don’t forget that the Southern food you have been crowned the queen of was made into an art largely in the hands of enslaved cooks, some like the ones who prepared food on your ancestor’s Georgia plantation. You, just like me cousin, stand squarely on what late playwright August Wilson called, “the self defining ground of the slave quarter.” There and in the big house kitchen, Africa, Europe and Native America(s) melded and became a fluid genre of world cuisine known as Southern food. Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa.
Don’t be fooled by the claims that Black people don’t watch you. We’ve been watching you. We all have opinions about you. You were at one point sort of like our Bill Clinton. (You know the first Black president?) When G. Garvin and the Neely’s and the elusive B Smith (who they LOVED to put on late on Saturday nights or early Sunday mornings!) were few and far between, you were our sorta soul mama, the white lady with the gadonkadonk and the sass and the signifying who gave us a taste of the Old Country-which is for us—the former Confederacy and just beyond. Furthermore, as a male who practices an “alternative lifestyle” (and by the way I am using that phrase in bitter sarcastic irony), it goes without saying that many of my brothers have been you for Halloween, and you are right up there with Dolly Parton, Dixie Carter and Tallullah Bankhead of old as one of the muses of the Southern gay male imagination. We don’t despise you, we don’t even think you made America fat. We think you are a businesswoman who has made some mistakes, has character flaws like everybody else and in fact is now a scapegoat. I find it hard to be significantly angry at you when during the last election the re-disenfranchisement of the Negro—like something from the time of W.E.B. Du Bois was a national cause celebre. Hell, today the voting rights act was gutted and I’m sure many think this is a serious win for “democracy.” If I want to be furious about something racial—well America—get real—we’ve had a good twelve years of really really rich material that the National media has set aside to talk about Paula Deen. Yes Paula, in light of all these things, you are the ultimate, consummate racist, and the one who made us fat, and the reason why American food sucks and ……you don’t believe that any more than I do.
A fellow Georgian of yours once said that one day the “sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down at the table of brotherhood.” Well no better time than now. Paula, I don’t have to tell you redemption is yours to choose, to have and to embrace. As a Jew, I extend the invitation to do teshuvah—which means to repent—but better—to return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace. You used food to rescue your life, your family and your destiny. I admire that. I know that I have not always made good choices and to be honest none of us are perfect. This is an opportunity to grow and renew.
If there is anything The Cooking Gene has taught me—its about the art of reconciliation. We aren’t happy with you right now. Then again some of the things you have said or have been accused of saying aren’t surprising. In so many ways, that’s the more unfortunate aspect. We are resigned to believe and understand that our neighbor is to be suspected before respected. It doesn’t have to be this way, and it doesn’t have to go on forever. As a species we cannot conduct ourselves in this manner. As creations of the Living G-d, we are commanded to be better. You and I are both the descendants of people who lived, fought, died, suffered so that we could be better in our own time. I’m disappointed but I’m not heartless. And better yet, praise G-d I ain’t hopeless.
If you aren’t busy on September 7, and I surely doubt that you are not busy—I would like to invite you to a gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation. We are doing a fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, a North Carolina Historic Site. One of the largest in fact, much larger than the one owned by your great-grandfather’s in Georgia. 30,000 acres once upon a time with 900 enslaved African Americans working the land over time. They grew tobacco, corn, wheat and cotton. I want you to walk the grounds with me, go into the cabins, and most of all I want you to help me cook. Everything is being prepared using locally sourced food, half of which we hope will come from North Carolina’s African American farmers who so desperately need our support. Everything will be cooked according to 19th century methods. So September 7, 2013, if you’re brave enough, let’s bake bread and break bread together at Historic Stagville. This isn’t publicity this is opportunity. Leave the cameras at home. Don’t worry, it’s cool, nobody will harm you if you’re willing to walk to the Mourner’s Bench. Better yet, I’ll be there right with you.
G-d Bless,
Culinary Historian, Food Writer and Living History Interpreter
Michael W. Twitty
For a link to a video of the event Paula missed: click here.
For a link to the MAD Symposium video where I talk about culinary justice and injustice: click here.

Beautifully written. Your point was clear and reasonable. As a white, young, southern woman who has lived around the world I can agree that racism is everywhere. This is not just a product of the south, but we are often given credit for it. It is sickening that at times I have to raise my children around the racist mentality that persists. I only hope we can end it with this generation. Bravo to you, Mr. Twitty. You have a new follower in me.
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I’m old. I have grown up and lived both sides of this story. I have used words in my youth, I should have never uttered. It was a way of life and we didn’t know any better. (not an excuse, just the truth). I was taunted for having a “N*&*r friend”, remember the first black that went to my high school, remember a swimming pool owner pouring bleach in a pool because a black person swam in it.
Yes, I’ve grown up with a lot of mixed emotions. I have lived it! But the good news is, I was ‘trainable’. I’ve learned the errors of my ways, I’ve changed, I treat people different. I look for people like you, Michael. Not people, of all races and colors who use their past as an excuse, for you owe me something.
As a genealogy person, I love my history and past. Those who do not know their past are truly going to repeat it. I’m glad I found you web site as I’m a “healthy” person and didn’t get that way without the help of lard and fatback. Try to wash Momma’s iron skillet and you’ll see.
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Thank You for the AMAZING words!! Made my day!!
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This is my first time reading your work. As a native Albanian (native of Albany, Ga., Paula Deen’s home town), I wish to thank you for an insightful article that touches all of the bases on this subject. You are the hammer that hit the nail on the head.As with most things in the world today, the subjects being delt with here in Ms. Deen’s case have little to do with the real topics but with $$$$$$$. The Food Channel has shown that there is no loyalty or kindness available if there is no $$$ to be made. Thanks for your insights, I am a new fan.
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Micheal, that was well said, and I thank you for sharing your perspective as well as the “voice of reason” part. Yes, we are all racist, sort of. I find that for me, as a naturalized American from behind the Iron Curtain, the path both toward and out of racism has been sort of convoluted. First. I came to this country with a belief that “everyone is equal” and “you can be whatever you want.” Naturally, I decided that as soon as I finish high school, I will become an Apache Indian and join a tribe on Rio Pecos. My family talked me out of my romantic, noble-savage fantasy while I attended a prestigious high school. Not speaking any English, I was surprised when I was put into “black classes.” Most of our school’s 10% black population was herded into the “slow” classes – this was in the early 80’s and MKL day wasn’t an official holiday yet. I asked about it, but the teacher looked a bit embarrassed. Then there was the gang of black boys who liked to toss my locker and shove me around because I was different and didn’t talk much, and some trouble ensued when I started a bringing a knife to school… (a real frontiersman would have, you see, and in America we all need to be self-sufficient in these things). A year after the knife incident, there was a dance and Nicole, who was from Haiti and as black as I can imagine a person to be, introduced me to her cute cousin. We danced at a school dance together, even slow dances, and somehow managed to communicate in our heavily accented English. On my way out of the gym, the black boy gang barred my way. They wanted to know why I danced with the guy. Why not? But he was black. So what? Aren’t we in America, where everyone is equal? And then, one after another, they shook my hand. I thought they were acting a bit weird. It took me years, decades, of perspective to understand what that handshake was about. Oh… and we nodded hello at one another in the hallway from there on, and my locker was never tossed again.
So it’s about people talking, and knowing one another on an individual level. I know some people with a bit of African ancestry, but I don’t think of them as “black,” I think of them as a “friend” or “teacher” or “colleague.” The category of “black” has been relegated to those whose name I don’t know yet, I guess. It’s imperfect, but I take solace in the knowledge that I use the same rule for other ethnic groups. All I can do is try.
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I’m so happy to have found your website and this post, so very well written.
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Dear Michale,
Thank you for this amazing essay. You should put down incredible writer next to the description of yourself. 🙂 I am a biracial woman who is half African American and half Jewish of Eastern European decent living in Berlin Germany. My maternal grandmother was the daughter of an escaped slave and I loved hearing the stories of his escape with his mother as my grandmother made Poor Man’s Puddin’ or Floating Island, or her honey fried chicken or any of the countless delicacies that she made during my childhood. I also used to love to listen to how my paternal grandmother told the stories of how her mother escaped Poland as Jew and how my paternal grandfather came to America as a 9 year old boy from a Russian Jewish ghetto with not teeth in his head from such poor nutrition. For me, family family history has always been connected with food. They go hand in hand. And growing up in the Mid West we all knew the Klan were as strong or maybe even stronger then in the south. When I was a kid, which was in the 70’s there were still cross burnings 20 miles down the road from where we lived. Anyway, I don’t mean to go on and on. I just wanted to say that I loved what you wrote, it really spoke to me on so many levels and wish you only the best in future success and good health. Please come to Berlin to visit, I think you would find it very interesting on a culinary level as well as a historical one.
All the best!
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I love that people are telling their family stories and of course as a Jewish Black guy I LOVE YOURS!!!!!! Please keep in touch!
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Thanks Michael, I will! My brother always called us Bluish, which I love! So keep up the great work my Bluish friend, in all things food and history!
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Love and gratitude to you for this well written response to, Paula Deen. We could all take the thoughts that you shared and not only apply them to issues of racism, but bigotry of all kinds. Thank you. Thank you so very much. Your post seems to have come from a place of love and compassion for your fellow human, while never once beating around the bush about the matter. I respect and appreciate that so much. Thank you, again.
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Masterpiece. Someone just pointed this out to me on fb, and I have to say this blog is interesting, well written, and important work. Thanks. I’m gonna repost, and keep watching.
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Wonderful!! Truly!
An aside: my husband is a park ranger at Appomattox Court House NHP and a banjo player who is working hard to put the banjo back into rightful context. I urge you to seek him out. I will certainly forward your blog to him. I have no doubt you two would have amazing conversations and would likely be good friends.
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MY GREAT GREAT GRANDFATHER AND HIS BROTHER WERE EMANCIPATED AT APPOMATTOX COURT HOUSE THE DAY LEE AND GRANT NEGOTIATED THE END OF THE WAR!!!!! Koshersoul@gmail.com LET”S TALK!!! COOKING GENE!
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Many of my black relatives (I am a white Southerner) were either never slaves or emancipated when they arrived in French Louisiana and Spanish Florida. They were allowed to marry into any race until the British and the Americans battled for the right to make such laws.
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That is really exciting! My husband’s 4-greats-grandmother’s house is preserved as part of the park (a face he discovered after having worked there for years!) so he feels a very keen connection to the place. And because he works for the NPS, he is constantly trying to find new and very real ways to interpret what happened there. He would love to hear your story! I know he’s read this post and I’m sure he will be in touch soon. His name is David Wooldridge and he is the museum technician for Appomattox Court House NHP.
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Man, the New York Times really ought to publish this. (And the Atlanta Journal, Macon Telegraph, etc.)
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Beautifully put. Thank you! I hope she does accept your invitation.
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I sent this to the Editorial Board at the NYTImes, just so you know.
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Thank you–wow–Thank you!
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Great Piece, Very well laid out and balanced. Simply great read and insightful
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Eloquent
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oooh, WE LOVE YOU Mr Twitty!!!!! wow.
You are Brother number one in my book today. Im loving it, all of it, and the responces…
well children, LET THE HEALING BEGIN! Let the church or temple say Amen Ameen Peace Shalom Salaam and One Love to you, our awesomly intelligent and thought-filled fellow Human Being. I hope that she does join you and cook with you, its a redemption opportunity for this nation. Keep Up Your Work. The Ancestors are well pleased with you, and God is the witness to your love.
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.@Michael W. Twitty.
Thank you for taking “Higher Ground.” Hope Paula Deen does the same.
I’m pressing on the upward way,
New heights I’m gaining every day;
Still praying as I’m onward bound,
“Lord, plant my feet on higher ground.”
http://www.hymnlyrics.org/mostpopularhymns/higher_ground.php
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“Deen’s cookbook “Paula Deen’s New Testament: 250 Favorite Recipes, All Lightened Up” has gone from a ranking in the 1,500s on Monday to #18 on Wednesday on the online bookseller Amazon.com.
That is #18 among all books, not just cookbooks.
‘New Testament’ is also the No. 1 selling cookbook on the site’s “Diet” and “Regional” cookbook lists.
And its not even out until October.”
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via http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2013/06/26/paula-deen-new-testament-cookbook-rockets-up-amazon-charts/#ixzz2XLTb6QfN
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I really enjoyed this piece, particularly your observations about language and how that plays a role in all this. Great job. Thank you!
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Thank you for such a wonderful article. I feel like we are all as one, but we can not erase our past history. We can not change what we grew up feeling and hearing, but we like Paula can express the are ashamed of what we heard and felt in our past years ago. It was just what life in the south was for “coloreds” as we were taught to saw, but we also heard the “n” word though were taught never to use it. We can not change the past but can go forward, though being ashamed of our past, make sure to never repeat it.
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Mr. Twitty,
As a Christian I have been taught forgiveness, compassion and that we should tell “those who trespass against us” to go and sin no more. Your letter truly encompasses that, while also giving the opportunity for redemption. I pray that there were more people who could practice the act of “hating the sin but loving the sinner”. I am moved and inspired.
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Thank you for writing such a thoughtful piece.
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Michael W. Twitty, you are a warrior! Clearly at minority in quite a number of areas, your desire to embrace Paula Deen’s plight and choose to clarify your feelings as well as the clear misalignment of many of our American population is a credit to you and your family. Good for you! Your erudite capture of your feelings, the issues, and the desire to educate is refreshing. Continue to cook, to comment, but more importantly, to teach those that will listen that your heritage makes you what you are, your environment affects how you are, and your mind makes you who you are. You are a true child of the Universe! I hope Paula Deen takes advantage of your invitation; I’d like to be there.
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Dear Michael, Thank you so much for your eloquent letter, you cut thru the BS and captured the true meaning behind PD’s situation. While the media is turning this into a circus, the “real” racism is still in evidence, both at the SCOTUS, in our prison system and inner-city schools. As a bi-racial woman, growing up “Too White,Too be Black and Too Black Too be White, I know exactly what you are talking about. I often would watch PD’s cooking shows and say, Hey that’s not how my Grandmom made that. African-Americans never got, nor get credit, only the occasional shout-out to the “African slaves who brought “that/this” over. REALLY! Think thoses slaves were smuggling in a little Okra or sweet taters (sorta like Sam Wise-Gamchee, carrying a little salt, just in case they found a chicken on the way to Mount Doom) LOL. I also know that COL Sanders did not invent that receipe for fried chicken, no he stole it from a black man or women, whose chicken he happened to taste. I truly hope the sun shines on that “lie” someday! LOL Anyway thanks again for your beautiful posting, and I will be following your work from here on out. Kim Paumer
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Michael,
Thank you for writing such an elegant piece. My family is from South Carolina and your writing brought me home to the kitchen of my grandmother. When grace was said at each meal, it was to thank all who gave.
Your response has given back what we need to remember. It is with love, we sit at the table of brotherhood.
Wendy
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I’ve been horrified by the “hang Paula” crowd who delights in watching a fellow human being be embarrassed and humbled on a world stage and equally horrified at the evil words of the “Everybody says the “n” word, it’s okay, what’s the big deal?” crowd who have uncovered the fact that racism is alive and well in a way I did not believe possible in 2013…Thank you for offering a perspective so rich in history, so kind, so forgiving, and so ultimately rational. Thank you for putting what I’ve been feeling into such beautiful words. My next personal goal? Learn more about the history of Southern cooking. Write a book. I’ll buy it.
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As a university educator and as a Mid-Western female, I have always yearned to be somewhere else that has a “culture” which adds a more definitive interest and identification to yourself and those around you. Historically speaking, I think the MidWest is filled with people who were moving on from something they didn’t like, but had no clue where to go. I grew up in a county without a single black family, or any family that had anything other than visibly white European roots (and there were only 6,000 people in the entire county). Although I knew people who used the “n” word, I was embarrassed when I heard it (as if someone had said the “f” word). It isn’t necessary for a parent to verbalize “we don’t say that in this house”– a child learns that what is not said is every bit as important as what is said. With a little age, I have also learned that context and intention are very important…I was appalled when my grandmother would say “colored people,” but I now know that she didn’t know what else to say. She was limited by the language she knew, and she knew the “n” word was bad. (Maybe she figured if it was good enough for the NAACP, it was the good word). I now feel a little bad for judging her, because I realize that her intentions were actually good.
I applaud you for extending an invitation to have a sit down (as we would say in my neck of the woods). I think understanding a person’s intention goes a long way toward understanding. Sometimes we do stupid things out of ignorance. And sometimes, we just do stupid things. I don’t know Deen’s intention, but I do know she did something stupid. You have extended the hand of forgiveness for something stupid. Whether or not she chooses to accept will say a lot about her intention.
So wish I could take time off and join your fundraiser–regardless of whether or not Paula shows up Irrelevant. Sounds like a good time for education and good food. Good luck!
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I love that Midwestern people–esp my Minnesotans and such–have a very very different experience with all this–its a corrective to some of the long standing views we have in the South and east coast! thank you
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Before the Civil Rights movement of the 60s — the polite words to use were Negro and Colored….. there were no others! In the 60s civil rights leaders agonized over what they wanted to be called — and finally settled on Black (as opposed to White) and African-American (although ties to Africa were long forgotten.)
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In this corner of Maryland we mostly just refer to everybody by name, clothes are often used to define individuals. Sometimes we have to explain the gender involved. But the color of a person’s skin is among the last of the identifiers that we use.
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I first learned English out of a British textbook, where a person of obvious African ancestry was referred to as “Negro.” My teacher in the US quickly corrected me that the polite word is “black.” The whole “African-American” etymology seems to be fraught with controversy. After a member of a Native American tribe told me that his black friends hate being called African Americans, just like my kids would not be correctly described as European Americans (although that would apply to me since I was born in Europe), I went back to just saying “black,” or if unsure of someone’s heritage and the topic is relevant for whatever reason, “a person of color.” Or, “a person of a diverse ethnic background.” Sometimes, it’s just a “person.” Most of the time, we don’t care. It’s just curiosity about where people come from. I get it with my accent – I’ve lived in this country for most of my life, and I still get asked where I came from because my English is accented. It’s okay. I used to mind, but I don’t anymore.
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lots more to worry about than Paula and the “n” word there’s a lot of people that have Bad Days I thought I understood this gentleman to say basicly you can’t be a racist if you are a minority sounds like Spike Lee to me if I don’t care for some Blacks this makes me a racist what a joke don’t think for a moment Blacks have much use for White people it’s called human nature coming from a true Catholic gentleman that hates nothing (that’s a word to worry about) but dislike some things Remember you are your brothers keeper focus on how to get through this world without hurting others Wm C.Watkins
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I think you should read the piece again, slowly and thoughtfully. You thoroughly misunderstood it.
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Amazing how with just a few eloquent words, you are keeping the ‘race card’ alive and well in the United States.
You CAN spell the entire word you know.
God Bless
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Sorry, it’s Jewish custom not to spell out the name of the Lord. I was taught G-d and I will continue to write it. Hashem is how we say G-d and spell the name out.
Sir there is a human race with many colors, phenotypes, ethnicities and peoplehoods. When I call Paula cousin, I call her family. Yes I played the race card–the human race card.
G-d Bless
Baruch Hashem Yom Yom
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Michael Twitty – Your response is clearly one where you know what it is to have ice tea and fried chicken in your blood. I appreciate your letter to Paula and I hope she takes you up on your invitation to be with you in NC the first week in September. I wish I could be there but already have an obligation. Much of your letter about how your anger is at the lack of media representation of the “African” influences of the culinary South is not represented fairly on television. May i offer one to look at where the predominance of those producers of said programs and sponsorship live and operate their businesses. Many of my (once called mulatto) family members felt there was a better life for them to head North where there was supposedly no prejudice, no bigotry or discrimination. Many returned with sad stories of deep betrayals from white people who were supposed to be their “friends” and such good bosses to help them get better jobs. Wrong, they came home where they knew who their friends are, be they black or white, and that if you are my friend I can count on you because it is who we are to each other that makes us friends, not that we are trying to placate society with false impressions. And for all those who want to make comments that those who are my relatives from the 1700’s to today were raped – you are more than stupid – there was true love and desire to be together, some are recorded as married, before the British and Americans made it illegal.
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please keep in touch! koshersoul@gmail.com these family stories are crucial to me–to my understanding my passion for history, all of it!
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This was a very thought provoking and educational article. Thank you for your straightforward words and logical thoughts and arguments. Again, thank you.
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Michael, well spoken!! Looking to history for answers on how to react and respond to today is brilliant! And not unprecedented! In 1940’s and 50’s, that word was used frequently, part of a norm. It would be foolish not to acknowledge that even then the word was derogatory, but the truth is it was widely used. To think that someone who was raised during that time could have never uttered that word is ridiculous, and so like you, I was not surprised when I read Ms.Deen’s comment “of course”. I instead thought, at last, someone has the guts to be honest. I also realized that the media was blowing things grossly out of context by not looking at the age/historical factors. Thank you for your gracious understanding and intelligent explanation to those who quickly jumped on the media bandwagon. I am a Northern girl who CHOSE to settle in the South because I saw it as a progressively non-racial place. In my almost 30 years here, I have seen less segregation in my city than when I travel to my birth city. More bi-racial couples, Multi-racial groups of children playing together with no one STARING. Where I grew up, I never saw diversity until I went into the city! This blending of skin colors and cultures seems more like my God intended for us to live and so I encourage people to move here and welcome them when I find they are new to the South. I’m proud to now be a part of THIS history, but acknowledge that I came from a different world. Ms. Deen would be blessed to cook with you and to be a part of what sounds like an amazing experience. If I can rearrange my schedule, I may join the two of you! Thank you again for showing that media hype can be more damaging than the speakers original intent. God bless you!
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Some awesome truths here! Thanks for writing this, all of what you say hits me right in my heart. I am a Virginian and after spending time up North, I often remarked that I preferred the South with its signs and declarations as to ones position. Here in the North, one gives the outward impression that it’s okay for me to be a Black Woman, but that is just a cover for how I should expect to be shafted in the back…really fast! When President Obama was first elected, one White lady congratulated me on having my own president! Really, I replied to her…what country are you living in? Are we not in the same country? He is your president!
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Michael, this is one of the most thoughtful, beautifully articulated and honest dissections of the Paula Deen “scandal” I’ve come across. Thank you for that, and for taking the time to go beyond the veneer toward the heart of issue. Huge respect. Maybe if Paula takes you up on your invite for September 7th, you could also ask her to do Tashlich on the 6th – a timely opportunity for teshuvah, to cast away her transgressions and move forward, without accompanying guilt.
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Wonderful, eloquent, true. I’ll be following your blog from now on!
At the same time, we would all do well to read the whole deposition, her actions and those of her brother go well beyond using the “n” word a few times. If that were all there was to it, the word, – but, no, they took actions behind those words in the way they spoke to, mistreated and even agressed on African Americans and women. And it’s not just one woman’s word against another’s. It’s corroborated by witnesses who will be speaking at trial. I feel like Paula Deen conned us all.
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This was beautifully written and thoughtfully articulated, and I’m so glad you took the time to write it. It nails down all of my swirling thoughts about this episode.
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This is a great article. Your tone is one of complete ‘matter of factness’ and the opinion is well stated. I went to amazon 1/2 way through the post to buy your book.
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Thank you for your beautiful spirit and your beautiful writing. I am glad to know your blog exists so that I can keep reading you!
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Wow! This is an amazing, intelligent and very thought-provoking letter. Yes, when using racially charged language, age is indeed a factor — as a southerner I have seen that much in my own family. However, you also made me think about a few more issues — like the under-representation of African Americans in the community of historians and the culinary community. That really wouldn’t have dawned on me, except that i began to think of local living history museums here in Illinois, and how none of the presenters ever even talks about the African or Native American origins of the foods that are grown on their farms and prepped in their kitchens, much less tell anyone about the slavers who operated here ‘retrieving’ runaway slaves (or more often than not, selling free black people into slavery.)
I am, as you may have guessed, a history nut. I’m also a southerner, and that means, also part Native American. I have recently started to become interested in the foods my ancestors would have eaten, and have tried a few recipes, but I’d love to learn more about the origins of the foods, as well as how to prepare them. Do you have a any recommendations?
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there used to be some very good cookbooks from the Cherokee Indian Reservation by the Chiltosky family. There was a menu for a Cherokee feast on the internet and I’m big into foods of the Cherokee, Creek, Choctaw, Seminole, Powhatan etc.
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got any good recipes for fry bread?
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“Well said” doesn’t even begin to cover it. Brilliant.
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That was so touching and beautifully written I actually teared up. I’m a California Girl, but what you describe on the other side of our diverse country sure does sound wonderful! Being of Italian heritage myself, food is considered 1/3 of the sacred trinity of ‘good food, good friends, good wine’. Food is the universal peace pipe, the keeper of friends, the making of new ones. Food is the ultimate creative process which not only is sustenance for oneself, but that you get to share with everyone at the table. Nothing tells you more about a people or a culture than their food, and nothing else makes getting to know those people or finding common ground easier than breaking bread together. Wish I could be there to celebrate your wonderful event, but I’ll be there in spirit. Cook on!
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The event at the N. Carolina plantation that is.
Bookmarking your blog.
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Quite a letter there, Michael Twitty; the definition of ‘Gracious’. I admire anyone who points out common ground, and it’s quite visionary of you to invite her to reestablish her foundations there. We’ll see, but I gotta say, I’m not holding my breath. Now I got a hankerin’ for some spoonbread!
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Something to be considered in this discussion involving celebrity food show host is the very competative nature of the business. Working your way to the top requires much hard work and no small amount of personal and business toughness. The old adage that nice guys finish last is probably more true in the entertainment industry than in many other ventures.
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I have seen the word eloquent several times here and it definitely describes your writing. What a well thought response to this issue. (and how good to see all these intelligent, competent replies!) I do have a problem regarding Deen using so much fat and calories in her menus (I know that pales to her present situation) but as they say (regarding her food) if you don’t like it, don’t watch… now as to her use of words…
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absolutely wonder and I hope she shows up. fingers crossed.
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Now that was a good read… Thank you!
I hope Paula takes you up on the invite in September…
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Michael, Until today I must admit I had never heard of you. After today all I can say is, “where have you been all my life”?
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Thank you. This brought me to tears. As a white southern woman of a certain age, I have always known and appreciated the ways in which African American and white cultures intertwined in the South. Perhaps I will see you at Stagville.
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I live in the South, and where I live, blacks and whites have a pretty darn good relationship because they all came up together. The good with the bad.
Please don’t throw all Southerners under the bus, because racism isn’t limited to white people, and it’s not limited by territory either. Just as there are bad apples in every basket, there are good apples on every tree. For anyone not from the South, please come down and visit, I’m sure you’ll be surprised to find we aren’t at all like we are portrayed on the all-knowing TV. .
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Thank you, Michael. Elegantly and eloquently said.
I would point out, though, that peppers, potatoes, and tomatoes are foods native to the Americas, not Africa.
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They are! However enslaved Africans were critical in popularizing those foods and in the case of peanuts it is likely they came by way of slave ship to North America.
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See Judith Carney…Shadows of Slavery
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