An Open Letter to Paula Deen:

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Photo Courtesy of: Johnathan M. Lewis

Dear Paula Deen,

So it’s been a tough week for you… believe me you I know something about tough weeks being a beginning food writer and lowly culinary historian.  Of course honey, I’d kill for one of your worst days as I could rest myself on the lanai, the veranda, the portico (okay that was really tongue in cheek), the porch..whatever…as long as its breezy and mosquito-free.  First Food Network now Smithfield.  (Well not so mad about Smithfield—not the most ethical place to shill for, eh, Paula?)

I am currently engaged in a project I began in 2011 called The Cooking Gene Project—my goal to examine family and food history as the descendant of Africans, Europeans and Native Americans—enslaved people and enslavers—from Africa to America and from Slavery to Freedom.  You and I are both human, we are both Americans, we are both quite “healthily” built, and yet none of these labels is more profound for me than the fact we are both Southern.  Sweet tea runs in our blood, in fact is our blood…What I understand to be true, a lot of your critics don’t…which is, as Southerners our ancestors co-created the food and hospitality and manners which you were born to 66 years ago and I, thirty-six.  In the words of scholar Mechal Sobel, this was “a world they made together,” but beyond that, it is a world we make together.  So I speak to you as a fellow Southerner, a cousin if you will, not as a combatant.

To be part of the national surprise towards you saying the word “nigger” in the past (I am a cultural and culinary historian and so therefore I am using the word within context…) is at best naïve and at worst, an attempt to hide the pervasiveness of racism, specifically anti-Black racism in certain currents of American culture—not just Southern.  Take for example the completely un-Christian and inhuman rage at Cheerios for their simple and very American ad showing a beautiful biracial girl talking to her white mother and pouring cereal on the chest of her Black father.  That Cheerio’s had to shut down the comments section says that the idea of inter-human relationships outside of one’s color bracket is for many hiding behind a computer screen—a sign of the apocalypse.  So just like those old spaghetti sauce ads, yes, America, racism—“it’s in there” even when we were prefer it not be.

When you said, “of course,” I wasn’t flabbergasted, I was rather, relieved…In fact we Black Southerners have an underground saying, “better the Southern white man than the Northern one, because at least you know where he stands…” but Paula I knew what you meant, and I knew where you were coming from.  I’m not defending that or saying its right—because it’s that word—and the same racist venom that drove my grandparents into the Great Migration almost 70 years ago. I am not in agreement with esteemed journalist Bob Herbert who said “brothers shouldn’t use it either..” I think women have a right to the word “b….” gay men have a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate.  Power in language is not a one way street.  Obviously I am not encouraging you to use the word further, but I am not going to hide behind ideals when the realities of our struggles with identity as a nation are clear.  No sound bite can begin to peel back the layers of this issue.

Some have said you are not a racist.  Sorry, I don’t believe that…I am more of the Avenue Q type—everybody’s—you guessed it—a little bit racist.  This is nothing to be proud of no more than we are proud of our other sins and foibles.  It’s something we should work against.  It takes a lifetime to unlearn taught prejudice or socially mandated racism or even get over strings of negative experiences we’ve had with groups outside of our own.  We have a really lousy language—and I don’t just mean because we took a Spanish and Portuguese word (negro) and turned into the most recognizable racial slur on earth…in any language…because we have a million and one ways to hate, disdain, prejudge, discriminate and yet we hide behind a few paltry words like racism, bigotry, prejudice when we damn well know that we have thousands of words for cars—because we LOVE cars….and food—because we LOVE food—and yet in this language you and I share, how we break down patterns of thought that lead to social discord like racism, are sorely lacking.  We are a cleaver people at hiding our obsessions with downgrading the other.

Problem two…I want you to understand that I am probably more angry about the cloud of smoke this fiasco has created for other issues surrounding race and Southern food.  To be real, you using the word “nigger” a few times in the past does nothing to destroy my world.  It may make me sigh for a few minutes in resentment and resignation, but I’m not shocked or wounded.  No victim here.  Systemic racism in the world of Southern food and public discourse not your past epithets are what really piss me off.  There is so much press and so much activity around Southern food and yet the diversity of people of color engaged in this art form and telling and teaching its history and giving it a future are often passed up or disregarded.  Gentrification in our cities, the lack of attention to Southern food deserts often inhabited by the non-elites that aren’t spoken about, the ignorance and ignoring of voices beyond a few token Black cooks/chefs or being called on to speak to our issues as an afterthought is what gets me mad. In the world of Southern food, we are lacking a diversity of voices and that does not just mean Black people—or Black perspectives!  We are surrounded by culinary injustice where some Southerners take credit for things that enslaved Africans and their descendants played key roles in innovating.  Barbecue, in my lifetime, may go the way of the Blues and the banjo….a relic of our culture that whisps away.  That tragedy rooted in the unwillingness to give African American barbecue masters and other cooks an equal chance at the platform is far more galling than you saying “nigger,” in childhood ignorance or emotional rage or social whimsy.

Culinary injustice is what you get where you go to plantation museums and enslaved Blacks are not even talked about, but called servants.  We are invisible.  Visitors come from all over to marvel at the architecture and wallpaper and windowpanes but forget the fact that many of those houses were built by enslaved African Americans or that the food that those plantations were renowned for came from Black men and Black women truly slaving away in the detached kitchens.  Imagine how I, a culinary historian and living history interpreter feel during some of these tours where my ancestors are literally annihilated and whisked away to the corners of those rooms, dying multiple deaths of anonymity and cultural amnesia.  I’m so tired of reading about how “okra” is an “African word.”(For land’s sake ya know “apple” isn’t a “European word…” its an English word that comes from German like okra comes from Igbo and Twi!) I am so tired of seeing people of African descent relegated to the tertiary status when even your pal Alton Brown has said, it was enslaved Black people cooking the food.  Culinary injustice is the annihilation of our food voices—past, present and foreseeable future—and nobody will talk about that like they are talking about you and the “n word.” For shame.

You see Paula, your grits may not be like mine, but one time I saw you make hoecakes on your show and I never heard tell of where them hoecakes really came from.  Now not to compare apples and oranges but when I was a boy it was a great pleasure to hear Nathalie Dupree talk about how beaten biscuits and country captain and gumbo started.    More often than not, she gave a nod to my ancestors.  Don’t forget that the Southern food you have been crowned the queen of was made into an art largely in the hands of enslaved cooks, some like the ones who prepared food on your ancestor’s Georgia plantation.  You, just like me cousin, stand squarely on what late playwright August Wilson called, “the self defining ground of the slave quarter.”  There and in the big house kitchen, Africa, Europe and Native America(s) melded and became a fluid genre of world cuisine known as Southern food.  Your barbecue is my West African babbake, your fried chicken, your red rice, your hoecake, your watermelon, your black eyed peas, your crowder peas, your muskmelon, your tomatoes, your peanuts, your hot peppers, your Brunswick stew and okra soup, benne, jambalaya, hoppin’ john, gumbo, stewed greens and fat meat—have inextricable ties to the plantation South and its often Black Majority coming from strong roots in West and Central Africa.

Don’t be fooled by the claims that Black people don’t watch you.  We’ve been watching you.  We all have opinions about you.  You were at one point sort of like our Bill Clinton. (You know the first Black president?)   When G. Garvin and the Neely’s and the elusive B Smith (who they LOVED to put on late on Saturday nights or early Sunday mornings!) were few and far between, you were our sorta soul mama, the white lady with the gadonkadonk and the sass and the signifying who gave us a taste of the Old Country-which is for us—the former Confederacy and just beyond.  Furthermore, as a male who practices an “alternative lifestyle” (and by the way I am using that phrase in bitter sarcastic irony), it goes without saying that many of my brothers have been you for Halloween, and you are right up there with Dolly Parton, Dixie Carter and Tallullah Bankhead of old as one of the muses of the Southern gay male imagination.  We don’t despise you, we don’t even think you made America fat.  We think you are a businesswoman who has made some mistakes, has character flaws like everybody else and in fact is now a scapegoat.  I find it hard to be significantly angry at you when during the last election the re-disenfranchisement of the Negro—like something from the time of W.E.B. Du Bois was a national cause celebre. Hell, today the voting rights act was gutted and I’m sure many think this is a serious win for “democracy.”  If  I want to be furious about something racial—well America—get real—we’ve had a good twelve years of really really rich material that the National media has set aside to talk about Paula Deen.  Yes Paula,  in light of all these things, you are the ultimate, consummate racist, and the one who made us fat, and the reason why American food sucks and ……you don’t believe that any more than I do. 

A fellow Georgian of yours once said that one day the “sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down at the table of brotherhood.”  Well no better time than now.  Paula, I don’t have to tell you redemption is yours to choose, to have and to embrace.  As a Jew, I extend the invitation to do teshuvah—which means to repent—but better—to return to a better state, a state of shalem–wholeness and shalom–peace.  You used food to rescue your life, your family and your destiny.  I admire that.  I know that I have not always made good choices and to be honest none of us are perfect.  This is an opportunity to grow and renew.

If there is anything The Cooking Gene has taught me—its about the art of reconciliation.  We aren’t happy with you right now.  Then again some of the things you have said or have been accused of saying aren’t surprising.  In so many ways, that’s the more unfortunate aspect.  We are resigned to believe and understand that our neighbor is to be suspected before respected.  It doesn’t have to be this way, and it doesn’t have to go on forever.  As a species we cannot conduct ourselves in this manner.  As creations of the Living G-d, we are commanded to be better.  You and I are both the descendants of people who lived, fought, died, suffered so that we could be better in our own time.  I’m disappointed but I’m not heartless.  And better yet, praise G-d I ain’t hopeless.

If you aren’t busy on September 7, and I surely doubt that you are not busy—I would like to invite you to a gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation.  We are doing a fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, a North Carolina Historic Site.  One of the largest in fact, much larger than the one owned by your great-grandfather’s in Georgia.  30,000 acres once upon a time with 900 enslaved African Americans working the land over time. They grew tobacco, corn, wheat and cotton.  I want you to walk the grounds with me, go into the cabins, and most of all I want you to help me cook.  Everything is being prepared using locally sourced food, half of which we hope will come from North Carolina’s African American farmers who so desperately need our support.  Everything will be cooked according to 19th century methods.  So September 7, 2013, if you’re brave enough, let’s bake bread and break bread together at Historic Stagville. This isn’t publicity this is opportunity.  Leave the cameras at home.  Don’t worry, it’s cool, nobody will harm you if you’re willing to walk to the Mourner’s Bench.  Better yet, I’ll be there right with you.

G-d Bless,

Culinary Historian, Food Writer and Living History Interpreter

Michael W. Twitty

For a link to a video of the event Paula missed:  click here.

For a link to the MAD Symposium video where I talk about culinary justice and injustice: click here.

998 comments on “An Open Letter to Paula Deen

  1. Donna Ackerman's avatar
    Donna Ackerman

    Dear Friend,

    I applaud you in your forgiveness. I too forgive Paula! We, as children of God, are not perfect. We make mistakes and learn from them. The past is the past. We shouldn’t throw the past in each others face and condemn them for it! I pray for them.

    . Your Friend,
    .Donna Ackerman ^_^*

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  2. Rick's avatar

    Michael, What a well thought out and eloquently written letter. I applaud your effort.

    I would like to state, however, that I think I disagree with the section that deals with people with oppressive histories being allowed to use pejorative terms with each other.

    I am a gay man. I am just as appalled when another gay man calls me a “f*g” as I am when a straight man does. We are all one species. We all are the same. Making exceptions for groups with oppressive histories, in my opinion, creates dangerous double standards. There should be no division nor exclusion on any basis. If it is wrong for one man to lie, it is wrong for everyone to lie. In the same one if it is wrong for one man to call me a “f*g”, it is wrong for all to call me a “f*g”.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      I really appreciate that–I don’t call other gay men that and I appreciate your point of view. What I am not in favor of is policing other’s language. I am not comfortable with certain language in certain spaces and I police my own mouth, but we don’t always know where others are coming from.or how they relate. My threshold isn’t theirs…I know it isn’t a popular viewpoint but the anthropologist in me doesn’t curtail the ways of others easily. But your viewpoint is valid and that’s why I want it here.

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  3. Kathleen's avatar

    Spectacular! I’ve never seen you before but someone posted the letter to their FB page. Just Spectacular — Course now I’m hungry 😀

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  4. Stef's avatar

    I received your letter as a share on FB. It peeked my interest so I decided to have a casual look and scan your letter. That didn’t happen. I read it carefully, twice. Then I spent the next hour reading all the marvelous and thoughtful posts from everyone. It gives me hope that there are more good, caring, intelligent people here in the US than I thought. Thank you for your letter.

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  5. hollide's avatar

    This is the first comment that I have written about the Paula Deen ‘situation’, and I truly enjoyed reading your article, but as a MULTI-racial woman (Black, Polish, Native American, Scotch-Irish, and German) married to a 100% Italian man, and have a child from my first husband who was 100% Irish, I cannot agree with your statement of “women [or anyone] hav[ing] a right to the word “b….” gay men have[ing] a right to the word “queer” or “f…” and it’s up to people with oppressive histories to decide when and where the use of certain pejorative terms is appropriate.” Those are NOT kind words. My family does not use them, my adult daughter does not use them, my husband does not use them, our friends of MANY creeds do not use them, and we ALL find them offensive. They are harsh, mean words that OFFEND and to allow self-deprecating words to be thrown around so lightly in a like crowd is NOT acceptable. Allowing use of that kind of language keeps hatred alive and it needs to STOP.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      I don’t support that language, but I can’t police other people’s language, only my own. But I respect what you have to say and try to remind myself of those same values everyday. Thank you for saying there is a higher standard.

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    • Ross Hill's avatar
      Ross Hill

      I posted somewhere today that all ethnic groups have identifiers for all other ethnic groups but they never use them on polite conversation.

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        this is true–and its human nature–because how else do we know the “other?” I have a problem with people saying don’t identify as anything to keep the peace. That’s impossible..because we are trapped in these one-souled nations made up of our brains and the experiences that affect those brains.

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  6. bryan's avatar

    Very well put Michael. Excellent job. And to all the critics, all I can say is, ” Let the person who has not sinned cast the first stone “. otherwise take a look at yourself first before you judge others. I can guarantee you are not perfect.

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  7. pablo cowbo's avatar
    pablo cowbo

    Man this guy knows words! I like this article VERY much

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  8. Diana's avatar

    I hope, and I pray that is woman enough to accept your invitation. It would be a wonderful good will gesture, and might possibly begin to repair some of the damage wrought by racism. Blessings to you for an eloquently written message.

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  9. Barbara Barrick's avatar
    Barbara Barrick

    Michael,
    I continue to think about your wow-factor original post (it’s caught in my craw, as my Mama Tucker would say) and after reading the many replies, I’ve decided folks with the 5th blood type, ‘sweet tea’ which we share, have an easier time grasping the complexities of the Paula Deen issue than many other well-intentioned people. And, by the way, this low-church Episcopalian, now living north of Indianapolis, totally recognized the significance of your spelling of G_D. Peace and stay strong.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      🙂 nothing but smiles on this comment

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      • Barbara Barrick's avatar
        Barbara Barrick

        Older folks with the ‘sweet tea’ blood type can remember that dinner was the meal served in the middle of the day, and left-overs from dinner more than likely remained on the kitchen table covered by a table cloth making ‘what’s for supper’ a no-brainer.

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  10. PL's avatar

    Thank you. The world needs more people like you.

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  11. Susie's avatar

    Sometimes you find some really wonderful things via your friends on Facebook…this is one of those times. Thank you so very much Michael for this heartfelt, intelligent and beautifully written post.

    I’ve also never seen so many thoughtful and thought provoking comments on a post. I especially loved the one from Nathalie Dupree.

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  12. Michele G.'s avatar
    Michele G.

    Well said Michael, truly a beautiful and inspiring letter. The world needs more beautiful souls like you. I wish you the best and pray that your words have a profound influence on all who read them.

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  13. Cheryl's avatar

    I thank you sir for being the kind of human being who is a role model for the possibility of peace and harmony in our land. I am praying hard that Paula takes you up on your kind offer.

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  14. jjinyancey's avatar
    jjinyancey

    Speaking of a “spelling thing,” in your last paragraph, you should have made “great-grandfather’s” either singular or plural. It is not possessive. 🙂

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  15. Brandon's avatar

    I normally just read or skim things my friends share on Facebook, but this was too beautifully written and so humanly said that I had to just sign on to commend and thank you. A lovely, sane, thoughtful look at the controversy. I wish all of this Nation’s citizenry thought through what they did and said to others as you have here. You are a beautiful person. Write on!

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  16. Sandi Akyuz's avatar
    Sandi Akyuz

    Michael, if you are as good a cook as you are a writer you are a double blessing to the world. Kudos to you for extending the olive branch. I hope the invitation is accepted. I am so glad that Kaylin White (realfood4realpeople.com) shared this post on facebook as it lead me to you. I look forward to following you and your career for many years to come. Bravo!

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  17. Candi Fox's avatar

    Humbled by your words.. thank you

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  18. sue fite kershner's avatar
    sue fite kershner

    Beautiful! This is the most eloquent, valid response there has been or can be to the entire situation. You are a beautiful soul.

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  19. West Coast Mom's avatar
    West Coast Mom

    Thank you for this essay. I am a born and raised WASP southerner who is raising her biracial, bilingual, Catholic kids on the West coast. There are many things I love about the South but I can’t have my children facing the amount of racism they would face or hearing racist comments. Even people who are “not” racist make them (so I agree with you on the everyone is a little racist thing). Paula Deen’s words were ugly and I am glad she has been called out about it, but on the other hand the Voting Rights Act decision by the Supreme Court is so much more than ugly. It is a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad decision.

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  20. Cat's avatar

    I wish I knew you personally. The world needs more people like you.

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  21. Ashley P's avatar
    Ashley P

    Hi Michael, I found this article through one of my local women’s groups. As a food lover and amateur cook, and one who lives in the south, I realized reading your article that I know so little about the origins of southern cooking. Your article was wonderful, and I appreciate your kind heart on this subject, but even more, thank you for making me decide to dig around a little bit into culinary history!

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  22. Ashley P's avatar
    Ashley P

    I know people who after living in florida for many years, decided to move to a rural area in Illinois because “There aren’t any black people there”. I visited them once, and they were totally correct: that place was devoid of anyone but white people, and the way they talked about black people was worse than anything I’d heard in the south, because they didn’t seem to realize what they were saying was racist. It was as if because they weren’t around black people, things we consider racist and watch our mouths about they didn’t see any problem with : no one around to offend. It was disgusting, and terribly sad.

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  23. pmrubin's avatar

    I found this profoundly moving and hope-inspiring. I see that i am not alone. Thank you, Mr. Twitty.

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  24. Georgia Sells's avatar

    I am a white woman, senior citizen . All of this has brought to mind something that happened to me in Fayetteville, AR many years ago. My daughter was in elementary school and as a member of the PTA, I was asked to give the devotion at the PTA evening meeting. That week
    Dr. Martin Luther King had been murdered! What would I say? What could I say? I decided to read the lyrics of a song……”You’ve Got To Be Taught To Hate” from South Pacific. I don’t remember all the lyrics but I remember, YOU HAVE GOT TO BE TAUGHT TO HATE, ALL THE PEOPLE YOUR RELATIVES HATE, YOU HAVE GOT TO TAUGHT BEORE ITS TOO LATE…..BEFORE YOU ARE 6 or 7 OR 8 etc., it is an interesting song. I read every word of it and then I sat down and the room was silent! Someone started clapping, and then the entire room was clapping. I knew I had done the right thing! Help us to always do the right thing!

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  25. Lynn Hollis's avatar
    Lynn Hollis

    Well said! Makes me want to be there that day. It is hopeful to the heart to hear your voice of reason!
    Blessings.

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  26. AlabamaGal's avatar
    AlabamaGal

    Here’s the problem (to me anyway) – it’s Not just a “Southern thing” – that epithet is used everywhere in this country. We are a nation of bigots. It bothers me. I am white, European, and enjoy food way too much. I hear this word and others daily. I cringe.

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  27. Judy's avatar

    Loved it!!!b So well written!!!

    Will keep you on my radar!

    Judy from Canada

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      A friend of mine I dearly love went to uni in Canada..and was bragging on it..so I quizzed him..asked him the words to Oh Canada..I start to sing it with him and he goes, “Oh Canada! For seas of fruited plains!..” 🙂

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  28. Doris Spears's avatar
    Doris Spears

    Powerful piece. My bet is that Deen will rise from the ashes as did Stewart, to re-bound in her field, in a manner perhaps even surpassing the former. This is utterly predictable. History proves it.

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  29. Flavorphilia's avatar

    Several points in this piece brought tears to my eyes. My husband and I have shared conversation and wholeheartedly support all the same ideology and perspectives you’ve eloquently stated here. I loved reading this piece. Thank you for sharing.

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  30. Claire's avatar

    Your letter touched me in its honesty and love for these unrecognized people who created Southern cuisine. I loved reading about them and you took me back to a time of pain and suffering and almost unbelievable cruel treatment of Black people by white people..and at the same time the love of food preparation which might have given them some joy.. I hope it did. I hope Paula Deen reads your letter and takes you up on your invitation. I think she should eat humble pie and use this opportunity to learn and to perhaps show the public her sincerity in wanting to redeem herself. I applaud you on the work you’re doing.

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  31. Mark Sark's avatar

    Well written and so truthful. I used the N word on more than one occasion. Both for spite and in pun. The difference here is that I know that the word brings out the worst in us and further divides us as a society. I can admit my mistakes today which I don’t think Laura quite did. For the record I apologize to all people of color, if I have ever said something offensive or hurtful. Thanks again for your great piece.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      That’s one of the most honest and meaningful posts yet. Wow. Just wow. Ive been eager to call ppl out too in the past and said or thought epithets and that was wrong. So you’re not alone brother. Thank you.

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  32. James Earley's avatar

    We all suffer from tribalism. I suppose that it is built into us from our distant ancestors, who all came out of Africa. Michael, your words on this topic in general, and Ms. Dean’s particular situation, are profound and moving. As someone who shares little in common with you on the surface, ( I am white, straight, not religious, and don’t cook much) I am proud of that which we do share- that we are members of a species that can overcome our cultural and genetic baggage and become better people. You are a deep and compassionate man. I hope that this article that you have written becomes well known, read, and discussed. Thank you for what you have done.

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  33. martin schonfeld's avatar

    Hi, I’m a German philosopher reading this post in Taiwan. I learned something. Thank you.
    Best, –Martin.

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  34. Mariko's avatar

    Thank you Michael!!! Thank you for stopping the bandwagon (for at least a moment) to say something worthy of this issue. I have always thought…whenever someone relatively “famous” uses “that” word or any other hate word, that there is always all this finger pointing going on (I’m better than that person who used that bad word)…we all get outraged and demonize the user…when what we should really do is to continue to have a conversation in order to understand why people use demoralizing words, understand how it demoralizes people, and then to look inward at ourselves to understand how important it is to teach our children that language is powerful, and that we should choose words carefully…i think FEAR is at the root. i think fear is at the root of hate…lets talk about THAT!

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  35. Kimberly R Ballard's avatar

    beautifully done. your letter shows intelligence , patience, and a desire to not only educate, but to also guide an ignorant woman as well as others to open their minds and stop ignoring our history and start moving towards improving our present so we will have a shining future. if what i read and understand is correct, you are a part of three different groups who have been horribly and still are persecuted just because they are misunderstood, you are(if i read correctly ) an african american , jewish, homosexual young southern chef. three groups that have been made to suffer by those who believe they are beneath them. i am a white southern woman(i am also part native american, pair irish, part french, and pair british, i am proud of every drop my mixed blood) who is dating a wonderful black man (who is also a chef) if we are able to , i am sure both he and myself would love to meet you at the gathering at a historic antebellum North Carolina plantation. i know we would both love it. ,we live in Louisiana where southern food is celebrated, as much as our rich history (even though there is much that many wish to forget) i agree with you they we should never forget our history . in fact i agree with everything that you wrote. again, you did a beautiful job with this letter, i truly hope she will read it and hopefully open her mind to learn how to be a REAL woman. thank you for sharing this with everyone and never stop cooking. =^_^=

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  36. roni chastain's avatar

    beautifully written and well said. i applaud your expressing yourself so eloquently.

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  37. Beth's avatar

    I grew up hearing Brazil nuts called “Niger toes” and that was in Windsor Ontario! (Canada is usually more covert in its racism.) I’m sure it was the only name for them my family knew. I had to ask someone in a store what they were really called. . We can’t help but have integrated racism, it’s how we fight it that’s important..

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    • Beth's avatar

      Did you actually send her an invitation to the fundraiser dinner for Historic Stagville, in North Carolina? If she is serious about teshuva, that could be a very powerful way to have a public discussion about why appropriation of culture is racist.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      Even in Canada wow…re: brazil nuts

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  38. Nina Tocci's avatar

    Thank you for your eloquence. Now, is anybody invited to Fund raiser in September or is that just for Paula?

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  39. Karen's avatar

    Wow!
    Well said without all the distain I would muster! I’d like to join the gang in Sept!
    Cook on!

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  40. Felix P. Nater's avatar

    Thank you Mr. Witty!

    Thoughtful, Considerate, Insightful!
    A presentation I would call worthy to be called an Ambassador of Dialogue on the discusion of racism. You thoughtfully imply the issue isn’t Paula Deen but the nagging retention of an outmoded day’s ways that inarguably retains appeal. Hopefully you’ve paved the way for critical thinking on the downside that dismisses political correctness in favor of an above board honest discussion. Your considerate eloquence deserves the opportunity to moderate such a discussion. One that helps the opponents to see the hypocrisy of the Paula Deen issue in a skillful attempt at burying the realities & behaviors that till today fosters racism. Your insight has helped me believe that negative behavior and attitudes fuels the discontentment some hide behind as racism. Do we always need to judge? When does history serve as an opportunity to move forward? That one groups dislikes another can’t be resolved through legislation because over time I’ll get my way. (Recent Supreme Court decisions) or, do I reach across the street and show compassion? I don’t blame, I discern. Bravo for the courage to be fair without blaming while artfully offering perspective.

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    Raylene Prout

    Thank you so much for writing this, Michael! As a biracial woman who grew up in rural Montana, your words really speak to me. Brilliant interpretation of this very unfortunate situation.

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  43. Jessie Rhude's avatar

    Mr. Twitty, Your eloquence has blown me away. As a wanna be writer, you have just shown me what well put together words can do. (I am jealous). You are a learned man, there is no way I can articulate enough to explain myself. To me, racism has always been a “bad” word, could never understand why people were like that. As a young girl growing up in Canada during World War 11, I experienced a bit of that. When Mussolini bought in with Hitler, the Italians were persona non grata. Half of my heritage is Italian, my school mates began calling me “Dego” and “Wop”, I was shunned. As a young person, the understanding was difficult, they were my friends, all of a sudden I was not the person I used to be. When I became older I experienced the other side of it. I began work as an Correctional Officer in a men’s felony pretrial facility. My boss was a black man (is this correct?). He treated me like the plague, one, I was a female, two, I had enough intelligence to have answers to questions put to me. His sidekick was a guy who had no business being there, how he got hired I will never know the answer to. The long and short of it was, I was put in harms way too many times for my liking. I have strong survival skills, I came out it without harm. I also grew up with a Father who was a racist, he evidently grew up in a household with black servants. I was also told that brazil nuts were N-toes. Did I grow up racist, NO. In fact, I am the first person to make noises when I see that crazy stuff go on. When I was dating, I thought the best way to get back at my Dad was to have a young, black man come to my door as my date. Thankfully common sense prevailed and I just couldn’t put the poor guy through that. As far as Paula Deen goes, my heart goes out to her. The food companies are just following their policy of the bottom line, that of selling their product. If they side with her, their sales drop. It all comes down to the color of green. From what I can gather, she pulled herself up by her bootstraps, she raised two sons by her hard working hands, she is proud of her southern roots and has worked that angle. She has made a success of herself and has become the consummate southern cook Now, she has had all her foundations knocked out from under her. People seem to love to have an extra punch when that happens to someone who has “made it”. Particularly when a lot of money is involved. I seem to be rambling on, so, I will close with the words: “Thank goodness for people like you who keep the fires banked for Justice”. You are needed in this world of crazy people.. It seems to me that Paula Deen would attend your dinner. She seems to be a lady who is not afraid to show that “she is also flawed like the rest of us.”

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    • Jessie Rhude's avatar

      Mr. Twitty, Does my point of view not meet your consideration? I imagine that with so many comments there is always the possibility of one or more being over looked. Would love to hear your reply. Thank you.

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      • Jessie Rhude's avatar

        Please excuse me for being a twit. In scrolling down I noted that not all comments had answers. Just happy to have had the opportunity to express my point of view, please imagine a red face. (Mine)

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      • michaelwtwitty's avatar

        Believe me I love replying but its getting hard to keep up.

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  44. RogersParker's avatar
    RogersParker

    Dear Mr. Twitty:

    Thank you very much for your thoughtful essay. I’ve shared it on my Facebook wall and encouraged my friends to read it. As a biracial Jew whose black daddy migrated North to Chicago from Arkansas BEFORE the Great Migration, I related to where you were coming from on many different levels. It’s too bad mainstream media doesn’t have enough room between commercials to give your perspective a voice.

    I read on a credible online source (can’t quote it off the top of my head, I’m afraid) that Ms. Deen’s greatest transgression is that she exploited stereotypes of the Antebellum South for personal gain, such as paying catering staff to dress in house slave attire for wedding parties, etc. Here’s one such link, but it’s not the source I’m referring to: http://www.deathandtaxesmag.com/200679/paula-deen-loves-racial-slurs-and-black-caterers-dressed-as-slaves/

    Sorry, but I don’t support that type of entrepreneurship. I do, however, support the hell out of what YOU are doing and wish I could make it to the function you are planning Sept. 7 in North Carolina. (Good thing it’s not in SC b/c after the law that state just passed, I cannot stomach crossing into that state. I even recently told my best high school friend who lives down there I will not be able to visit her anytime soon. Not one penny of my money will be spent in that backwards state.) At the very least I will promote you and your event every chance I get b/c our rich cultural history deserves respect and true recognition for all we have contributed to American society. If it has to continue to happen online and/or through back channels instead of through the mainstream, so be it. The Internet is a powerful resource. Your message is getting through loud and clear. Good job.

    RogersParker

    PS I’m a writer/editor and am happy to proof your work pro bono (for now) before you hit the Post button. You’re already a great writer, but it never hurts to have an extra set of eyes. Just sayin’.

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  45. cynthiagingold's avatar

    Thank you for this! I hope Paula joins you on Sept. 7. If she does, why not invite her to Yom Kippur services?! Who knows? Maybe she’ll convert and start cooking Israeli food! 🙂 Cynthia

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  46. bizlady08's avatar
    bizlady08

    Dear Mr. Twitty:

    Thank you very much for your thoughtful essay. I’ve shared it on my Facebook wall and encouraged my friends to read it. As a biracial Jew whose black daddy migrated North to Chicago from Arkansas BEFORE the Great Migration, I relate to where you are coming from on many different levels. It’s too bad mainstream media doesn’t have enough room between commercials to give your perspective a voice.

    I read on a credible online source (can’t quote it off the top of my head, I’m afraid) that Ms. Deen’s greatest transgression is that she exploited stereotypes of the Antebellum South for personal gain, such as paying catering staff to dress in house slave attire for wedding parties, etc. Here’s one such link, but it’s not the source I’m referring to: http://www.deathandtaxesmag.com/200679/paula-deen-loves-racial-slurs-and-black-caterers-dressed-as-slaves/

    Sorry, but I don’t support that type of entrepreneurship. I do, however, support the hell out of what YOU are doing and wish I could make it to the function you are planning Sept. 7 in North Carolina. (SIDE NOTE: Good thing it’s not in SC b/c after the law that state just passed, I cannot stomach crossing into that state. I even recently told my best high school friend who lives down there I will not be able to visit her anytime soon. Not one penny of my money will be spent in that backwards state.) At the very least I will promote you and your event every chance I get b/c our rich cultural history deserves respect and true recognition for all we have contributed to American society. If it has to continue to happen online and/or through back channels instead of in the mainstream, so be it. The Internet is a powerful resource. Your message is getting through loud and clear. Good job.

    Phoebe

    PS I’m a writer/editor and am happy to proof your work pro bono (for now) before you hit the Post button. You’re already a great writer, but it never hurts to have an extra set of eyes. Just sayin’.

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    • michaelwtwitty's avatar

      I want to interview you

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      • bizlady08's avatar
        bizlady08

        I’m so sorry for the double submission. Don’t know how that happened. I’m flattered re: your interest. Not sure I’m that interesting of a subject and both my parents are deceased. Can you provide an email addy? I’ll drop you a line. Thx again for your request. 🙂

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  47. Rachel's avatar

    I liked everything about this post and hope you are planning a book on culinary history sometime. The open letter was wonderful, you write beautifully, and the rest of your blog is such an interesting subject. I love reading about things that connect cultures and histories, and nothing does that like food.

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  48. Lisa's avatar

    Thanks for this wonderful, thoughtful piece. I hope Paul joins you on September 7th. If she does, I know she will find the silver lining of her painful ordeal.

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  50. chuck Akers's avatar
    chuck Akers

    You almost got it right Michael. Except . . . if the N word is offensive then no one should be saying it, especially the African Americans that are offended by it. I find the “F” word offensive and I don’t use it either.

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